Besides each other , who played the most influential role in getting you both into hotwifung/sharing/swapping/whatever

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For us I think it has to be one of her ex high school boyfriends. He was the first to share her, getting her to blow a friend in exchange for a ride to an out of town concert. Which then on the way home turned into her first train/gang bang as her bf, the guy she had blown and two others in who ride with them took turns fucking her.

After I met her in college, she went home for a weekend visit. We had a couple of experiences ourselves by then. I knew she would be riding back to campus with an ex and teased her about having a hall pass. Which she ended up using all weekend with him including 3 times on the ride home, last being in the parking lot outside our apartment. She tried to hide by rushing to shower but I walked into the bathroom to see obvious results running down her leg. Her telling me all as we fucked in the shower has me sold in sharing her.

A few years later a week before we got married, she was back home getting things ready for the wedding. Girls night out with old friends and bridal party ended with the girls turning her over to the ex and one of the girls brothers (also an ex but not one she fucked before). The guys took her back to the exes apartment and double teamed her with some one one time also for 12 hours. I only heard about this a few years later.

A few years after that back in her hometown for another wedding. A party the night before at her sisters farm. She disappears. I find her behind the barn smoking a J and getting felt up by the ex and the other guy who had done her before our wedding. Made sure I joined in. Others at the party probably watched

Last was her sucking him off twice at a class reunion.

So this ex got her started, was the first we shared with that came inside her (not counting BJ's), had her right before we were married , and a few other times
 
My closest colleague at work. A great sales and marketing guy, he got me a very lucrative project position abroad and sneaked in my wife also as a team member. I knew he had hots for her and we had fantasies of her becoming a hotwife...but this posting in a different locale and with him also there, triggered everything. First day there at the hotel she was so happy that she literally raped him! From then on, there was no stopping her. She became a hot wife and used it to make my career better. And I am a happy cuck now.
 
I have been asked this question by other people over the years, but I am not sure if my husband has added his side of the story or not elsewhere on this site. Most people naturally assume it is the man who initiates entry into the swinging lifestyle, but I was the primary instigator in our relationship. If I had not pushed I doubt we ever would have got into it.

My husband had a close male friend who he had known all his life. I mean before they went to school, they grew up together. Jeremy was a great guy and a cutie. He lived in our neighborhood and had been married but was divorced with no kids. This man was over at our house almost every evening and he loved to torment me and make innuendos about sex. After 26 years of us being married, I was watching a television series called, Swingers. I never thought it was something anybody actually did, but I enjoyed the show and fantasized about it a lot. My husband is an amazing man and I love him dearly, but I got married at the age of 18 and always wondered what it would be like with somebody else.

One night my husband was cooking and the kids were still at home. Jeremy was over as usual and was out in our backyard. I stepped out and we were basically flirting with each other. I was highly aroused and Jeremy got me up against the back of our house next to the backdoor. He kissed me like he was teasing me, but I opened my mouth and the kiss became a full-on makeout session. I did not resist at all as Jeremy reached up inside my shirt and released the center bra snap and felt my breasts. My nipples were rock hard and Jeremy knew I was deeply enjoying myself. I felt Jeremy open the button on my shorts and his hand slid inside my pants and I was so wet. It had been pretty intense but we stopped when I heard my husband tell one of our sons to go out and tell Mom dinner is on the table. Jeremy distracted our youngest son as I quickly got my pants buttoned and my bra put back in place and fastened. Once inside, my husband asked what we were doing outside for so long, telling me I looked flushed.

We never brought it up and things cooled down for several months between us. I figured it was a one-time thing but still fantasized about it a lot. It was about six months later when Jeremy came over another fall night and Jeremy, my husband, and I all sat outside around a campfire. We drank and it got cold and everything was wet from the dew. I was under a blanket near the fire sitting on a swing with Jeremy next to me, also under the blanket. My husband is warm-natured and was in a chair facing us. When my husband got up to go inside to use the bathroom and mix us another drink, Jeremy again kissed me and took my hand. He had his pants open and he put my hand on his very hard, very large penis. Jeremy asked me if I liked what I was touching and I could only mutter a yes. I was amazed at how big his penis was. He told me to unbutton my jeans and I did and he put his hand down my pants and rubbed my pussy until my husband returned. I never did take my hand off Jeremy's penis until we got up to go inside.

Once inside, Jeremy went into a guest room where our oldest son slept before leaving for college. My husband and I went into our bedroom and shut the door to the hall. I could not get the mental image of Jeremy's big penis out of my mind and I lay awake for an eternity. I reached over and began to play with my husband's penis and we had some amazing sex. He told me afterward, that he had no idea what had got into me and said it was the hottest sex we had in years.

We had a few more close encounters over that winter until one night we were all three sitting in the living room together. Our kids were all out of the house or at friends for the night and after several drinks, I blurted out that we were swingers. Jeremy just looked at me and my husband had a confused look on his face. I was the one who told my husband to undress me for his friend and then to undress his friend for me. That was the first night I had sex with Jeremy.

So, I guess it was primarily my doing, but with the help of my husband's best friend who helped bring us into the lifestyle.
 
For us I think it has to be one of her ex high school boyfriends. He was the first to share her, getting her to blow a friend in exchange for a ride to an out of town concert. Which then on the way home turned into her first train/gang bang as her bf, the guy she had blown and two others in who ride with them took turns fucking her.

After I met her in college, she went home for a weekend visit. We had a couple of experiences ourselves by then. I knew she would be riding back to campus with an ex and teased her about having a hall pass. Which she ended up using all weekend with him including 3 times on the ride home, last being in the parking lot outside our apartment. She tried to hide by rushing to shower but I walked into the bathroom to see obvious results running down her leg. Her telling me all as we fucked in the shower has me sold in sharing her.

A few years later a week before we got married, she was back home getting things ready for the wedding. Girls night out with old friends and bridal party ended with the girls turning her over to the ex and one of the girls brothers (also an ex but not one she fucked before). The guys took her back to the exes apartment and double teamed her with some one one time also for 12 hours. I only heard about this a few years later.

A few years after that back in her hometown for another wedding. A party the night before at her sisters farm. She disappears. I find her behind the barn smoking a J and getting felt up by the ex and the other guy who had done her before our wedding. Made sure I joined in. Others at the party probably watched

Last was her sucking him off twice at a class reunion.

So this ex got her started, was the first we shared with that came inside her (not counting BJ's), had her right before we were married , and a few other times
Probably me when she caught me watching bbc porn in her panties lol
 
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A mutual friend of KK's and mine, Kym, her husband Mike, and their mutual boyfriend, Paul. They were most influential, in the sense of being the trigger, and opportunity for KK's first affair after we got married.

The story is complicated. She fucked all three of them, cheating, over the first several years, up through her first pregnancy. Kym and KK had a falling out over the boyfriend, Paul. KK wanted him, and they both had an intense emotional/physical attachment to him. KK hates to share with other women.

That first affair led to most of our journey down this road.
 
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What actually was our first venture into J being involved outside our marriage was a guy at work coming on to her. It led to flirting, and eventually a real behind my back affair, which she disclosed before they actually had "sex" (which she defines as penis in vagina, everything else is not SEX).

A second influencer that moved J to cross the racial barrier was a phone conversation she had with Karan K, who was VERY into Black Lovers and actually got pregnant by one of them. We never met Karen, could never make our schedules work, but that conversation ignited a desire my wife had for a LONG time and led to a HOT 3 year BBC exclusive experience for her/us.

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I'd say a mutual friend of ours, who taught her that life is to be enjoyed, a software salesman, he was very persuasive and put her at ease at doing quite a few things, like going out in sheer dresses, or just a bikini top and skirt in the shops, got her to put on a wig when going out in very sheer dresses to put her at ease, not caring what the others might think of you, demanding what she likes from sex, like previously she would give oral sex but not ask for that, now she will from her partners. She likes to bite mens nipples, so she likes the area shaved, so she will not be shy to do it...
 
Probably Dave and his wife Flavia, the owners of the Bed and Breakfast my husband and I stayed at on our honeymoon. I wasn't even a slut at all before my wedding vows (it's complicated). There is a story behind it, not sure if we've told it before, but I don't think so.
 
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At the beginning, the biggest role was played by the fact that my wife had a youthful love with whom she had no sex and wanted to make up for it.
 
I trained with a group of guys at the gym I use. A few of them were black guys. Wife picked me up one night and we gave one of the black guys a lift home. I noticed her keep looking at him in the mirror and him looking at her. When we dropped him off I told her I saw them looking at each other and she went all red. That night, while fucking in bed I brought it up again telling her he was super hung and would she like to fuck with him. We discussed it a few times after that and I plucked up the courage and asked him if he was keen, The rest is history.
 
my best friend , he and i would talk about our girlfriends all the time and we both wanted to fuck the others
we showed each other pictures and we left blinds open for each other to spy in the bedroom windows. after awhile I wanted to see him fuck my girl more than I wanted to fuck his. I really want ed to fuck his but if I could only have one fantasy it was him doing mine. We did fuck each others woman after awhile. I shared mine many times with him
 
Most influential without question was the stud she picked up for our first cuckolding experience. He boned her to the most orgasms she had ever had in one night, with a cock that penetrated her to depths previously unknown to her. Once she fucked a real man with a real dick, she knew she wasn't settling for my little shrimp dick.
 
For us I think it has to be one of her ex high school boyfriends. He was the first to share her, getting her to blow a friend in exchange for a ride to an out of town concert. Which then on the way home turned into her first train/gang bang as her bf, the guy she had blown and two others in who ride with them took turns fucking her.

After I met her in college, she went home for a weekend visit. We had a couple of experiences ourselves by then. I knew she would be riding back to campus with an ex and teased her about having a hall pass. Which she ended up using all weekend with him including 3 times on the ride home, last being in the parking lot outside our apartment. She tried to hide by rushing to shower but I walked into the bathroom to see obvious results running down her leg. Her telling me all as we fucked in the shower has me sold in sharing her.

A few years later a week before we got married, she was back home getting things ready for the wedding. Girls night out with old friends and bridal party ended with the girls turning her over to the ex and one of the girls brothers (also an ex but not one she fucked before). The guys took her back to the exes apartment and double teamed her with some one one time also for 12 hours. I only heard about this a few years later.

A few years after that back in her hometown for another wedding. A party the night before at her sisters farm. She disappears. I find her behind the barn smoking a J and getting felt up by the ex and the other guy who had done her before our wedding. Made sure I joined in. Others at the party probably watched

Last was her sucking him off twice at a class reunion.

So this ex got her started, was the first we shared with that came inside her (not counting BJ's), had her right before we were married , and a few other times
love it! love ex's
 
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