Can I Get Her to Stop?
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I totally agree with Lynnandhubby and verkitwme. But that said, I think it is really important to establish and maintain good boundaries and ground rules. If those cannot be kept, then it seems very likely that this would lead to marital strife. I don’t see this as a form of control for one person or the other so much as providing safety rails to help maintain the marriage and foster good communication with each other.
I clearly haven’t been on in a long time, but everyone’s insights were pretty much 100% correct. It took me a while, but I eventually just gave myself over to the reality that this was all my idea, I got what I wanted, and there’s no going back. Thankfully we’re still together, she seems as happy as ever, I know my place, and am back to being turned on by it.
You made your bed, so be a man and lay on it? It’s a joint decision in the beginning, no matter what you think
Good to see some HONEST responses to this situation.........you can ALWAYS tell the guys that are totally fantasizing about this (my wife is my love doll, I turn her switch on and she fucks like a porn star until I cum and then I turn her switch off and its all about me and I get to suck his cock too)......
And those of us that have expereinced this real time and KNOW its nothing like that at all, and it CAN get well out of hand FAST!! You can quickly and permanent ruin a good relationship by trying to stop her once she gets started too.
Women have a HARD time separating emotion and sex, and can quickly develop emotional attachments to their Lover(s). And the lifestyle as a whole. You take your otherwise "average" housewife that has all the usualt feeling about herself and no one else wants her and its you for life, and let her find out that there are DOZENS of guys that want her sexually. she can walk in a bar and score with half the guys there is she wants to......WOW does that open some unclosable doors for them!!
You need to KNOW this is what you want before you get involved, and be prepared for it to be a LOT more intense than you ever thought it would be. Encouraging her, and then trying to STOP cold is not going to go well for anyone. I have spent many an agonizing night wondering WHERE my wife is, WHY she isn;t home yet, and is she even coming home, should she be driving, getting the call from the bathroom at his house where she is whispering because she doesn't want him to know she called and is she really too drunk to drive? Or is that just a story so she can stay the night with him? And then hangs up without saying bye......
And have spent so MANY nights with a hard-on I can't get rid of in a slammed, door teasing myself, stopping so I don't cum (and end up agonizing!! LOL), hoping she comes home full of his sperm to share the details with me but equally hoping she's enjoying it SO much that she stays the night, or maybe even the WEEKEND!! Or when she is on her business trips, and its late and she hasn't called, WHY she hasn't called......will I hear another story about going to the strip club with her Lover and end up making out with their Stripper? Or if she was with her Boss/Lover, are they in bed already or out celebrating before they go to bed together. Did she take her diaphragm this trip? Is ti her fertile time and she's playing anyway?
But everyone NEEDS to think this out before they let the horse out of the barn.........because women will ALWAYS do better sexually in this situation than guys ever will. Be ready for that reality, and encourage her if you want things to work our well.
CW
And those of us that have expereinced this real time and KNOW its nothing like that at all, and it CAN get well out of hand FAST!! You can quickly and permanent ruin a good relationship by trying to stop her once she gets started too.
Women have a HARD time separating emotion and sex, and can quickly develop emotional attachments to their Lover(s). And the lifestyle as a whole. You take your otherwise "average" housewife that has all the usualt feeling about herself and no one else wants her and its you for life, and let her find out that there are DOZENS of guys that want her sexually. she can walk in a bar and score with half the guys there is she wants to......WOW does that open some unclosable doors for them!!
You need to KNOW this is what you want before you get involved, and be prepared for it to be a LOT more intense than you ever thought it would be. Encouraging her, and then trying to STOP cold is not going to go well for anyone. I have spent many an agonizing night wondering WHERE my wife is, WHY she isn;t home yet, and is she even coming home, should she be driving, getting the call from the bathroom at his house where she is whispering because she doesn't want him to know she called and is she really too drunk to drive? Or is that just a story so she can stay the night with him? And then hangs up without saying bye......
And have spent so MANY nights with a hard-on I can't get rid of in a slammed, door teasing myself, stopping so I don't cum (and end up agonizing!! LOL), hoping she comes home full of his sperm to share the details with me but equally hoping she's enjoying it SO much that she stays the night, or maybe even the WEEKEND!! Or when she is on her business trips, and its late and she hasn't called, WHY she hasn't called......will I hear another story about going to the strip club with her Lover and end up making out with their Stripper? Or if she was with her Boss/Lover, are they in bed already or out celebrating before they go to bed together. Did she take her diaphragm this trip? Is ti her fertile time and she's playing anyway?
But everyone NEEDS to think this out before they let the horse out of the barn.........because women will ALWAYS do better sexually in this situation than guys ever will. Be ready for that reality, and encourage her if you want things to work our well.
CW
Not how your marriage will be from now on ,,,, cause You can grow Balls and leave her .
If you have to be afraid of how your wife will even respond to the mention of her stopping, then your marriage is probably over with because she should respect the fact that you want it to stop now
Take a deep breath. If it took this long to get it started, getting cold feet so abruptly is likely very unnerving to her. When it starts for real, it's never what you imagined in years of fantasy. Let more time go, you opened up a can of worms and you can't just close Pandora's box just like that. Be patient and see how things unfold. The worst thing you can do is try to close the door on things you yourself have been building up for a long time.
