should I meet him without her to see where I stand.
‘Should I meet him without her to see “where I stand.”’
You certainly should! Yes. But tell him what you told me?” ‘I’m surrendering both of us’ to [you] him.’ But hand him an open question [as you do] inviting him to define the whole relationship for you both …
You may want to think about that. Mind, it’s a fair bet that if you go, he’ll know that’s why you’re there. And why WOULDN’T he do that?
You say that being near him washes out your strength, manliness and courage. But do you know how many cards he holds? Or how strong his hand is? I’ll give you a taste of what you may be setting up yourself to get. Think of it as an inoculation.
This will be the first part of my answer.
The second part of the answer will be an entirely different but, I think, an equally valid perspective. This means that I’m not going to tell you what to do. That isn’t my place, Owl. So you get to make those decisions.
Lastly, I’ll PM you a third option. I think you should consider it carefully. We can work through that together.
But your question -- ‘should I meet him without her to see “where I stand.”’
What will he do? I can’t say. I can tell what I might do in his place. Mind, we’re very different. He’s not me. This is about the toolbox. No, not that one. It’s about what he has available to ‘put you in your place’ when you ask him ‘where I stand.’
I might say, ‘Owl, you’ve said you can’t stop fantasizing about how good I’ll be for Karen, how beautiful it will be to see her far more sexual than ever before. I know you’re so grateful for the gift I’m offering you. It only right that you come to show gratitude and respect. I respect your willingness to do this freely, because of the beauty of it, because you love Karen enough to put her joy and bliss above your own. By doing this, you show that you are a strong and good man.’
‘I promise you, Owl, that I will do my very best to give Karen a true, “before and after” experience. I want you to see her explode in very powerful, multiple orgasms. I want her eyes to roll back into her head. I want you to hear her bray and bray and bray and bray over and over all the world like a donkey. I want her barely able to stand afterward. I know you do too. But before I can do this, Owl, I need something from you. Even though we know this is why you’re here, I can’t do this for Karen until you ask me to do it.’
But that’s me, Owl. Him? More like, ‘too tired to fight it anymore? We both know you can’t. I’ve been right all along, and you know it. You can’t ignore it. You can’t escape it. You can’t put it out of mind. You need this to get done. You’re here to tell me that you need to see Karen get the fuck of her life. Don’t you. Say it, Owl.’
Very different. But somewhat the same Idea.
Or he may reply, 'where do you stand? You stand right here!' Glib, and offering nothing.
In any case, where can you 'go' with whatever he might tell you? Consider that.
He might leave it with ‘ready to see her get the fucking of a lifetime?’
Part One:
I can’t say what he’ll do. You know him. I don’t. But I’d say you’ll need enormous courage to face it. So again, you have to decide.
He knows that the bar booth is a turning point. If he’s smart, he’ll ply your desires to take you far, far deeper into sub than you ever imagined possible. His angle may be to crush your every last corner of resistance to keeping his cock out of Karen, and putting her mind into orbit.
Another guy’s story was like yours. But he got the ‘chats’ first. When the visual part came at the end, he was a goner. The story line is different, but the effect was the same. That’s how he did it.
Another guy will have your head swimming with questions to block thinking any other way. Or coach you until you recite everything he says as second nature, and believe it with all your heart.
He might insist on complete, obedient sub to as a condition for including you at all. He could say, ‘I’ll be giving it to Karen good and plenty either way; it’s only sensible to agree that we’ll do this together.’
Say you meet and ask ‘where you stand.’ If you start hedging or backing down, what will he say?
‘Will my cock pack Karen a wallop your dickey can’t even begin to match? Why ask me? Why not ask her? Why is it easier to ask the guy who fingers her in a semi-public place than ask your wife herself?’ Why ask me of all people “where YOU stand” with Karen and I?’ Did you notice – Karen and I?
‘So – you admit that I’m the one to shape Karen’s sexual future! Or do you need more convincing that my cock is going to drive her nuts? Where do you stand, indeed! You’ll stand where I tell you, where Karen wants you.’
‘Do you want to know if she responded? Do you want to know if I made her wet? Do you want to know how wet I made her? Do you want to know if I made her gorgeous pussy engorge? If her pussy wept for my majestic cock? Did she hide her deepening breaths? Did I feel her struggling not to buck her hips? Why ask me, Owl? Why not ask her yourself?’
‘Or did I later inhale her aroma from my fingers? Or put my fingers in my mouth … taste her own, unique, feminine bouquet? Is it the best I ever tasted? Will telling you these things help you understand? Is knowing these things what you need to accept “where you stand,” Owl?’
Overwhelming? That’s only an opener. And he could take a completely different approach.
‘Do you agree that Karen will never reach anywhere near her full potential? Without him, that is.
Or, ‘isn’t the fullest possible pleasure Karen’s right? Why should she sacrifice so much to cover for your “little problem?’”
Or, ‘you’ve had so much pleasure since you saw my cock! Shouldn’t Karen get at least as much? After all the years she has done without the best, doesn’t she deserve finally get the best?’ He knows how powerful this is for you, Owl. You go to him now and he’ll smell success like Karen’s juices on his hand.
He could ask: ‘Has your hand broken your resistance yet, or do you need to see one more time what her body’s going to gobble to the hilt first?’
If he does, what will you say?
He might take it out again, stroke to erection, and put it right across your eyes, so that it fills his whole vision and looks enormous . . . and he waits.
If he does, what will you say?
What if he slaps it across your eyes a time or two — just to let you feel its weight?
If he does, what will you say?
Or then says, ‘it’s inevitable. Just say it, Owl. Say you’ve got no fight left. Do what’s right by you both!’
If he does, what will you say?
He may say that given how much Karen is missing, you should see this as a sexual intervention-and-rescue
If he does, what will you say?
He may say that your every erection proves everything he says — and he won’t go further until you agree.
If he does, what will you say?
He may say, ‘you can’t escape this need. Can you.’
If he does, what will you say?
The point, Owl, is this. He knows he holds all the sexual power cards. And why.
You can’t lie. He’s seen it all. He’ll know. And your erect penis [you have a penis, he has a cock] won’t LET you.
You’ll need plenty of courage to face him. But ask him ‘where you stand’ [especially with Karen] and you admit that HE decides your status. And all because his cock [and cockiness] dwarfs your penis. So is he right, Owl? What do you think?
He may say, ‘you just admitted that you WANT and NEED me to lift this whole thing off your hands. Didn’t you.’
If he does, what will you say?
'I said “DIDN’T you.”’
If he does, what will you say?
Meeting him could take tremendous courage.
After the bar booth, he could make things very difficult. ... him off and he might throw that in your face. ‘She’s already had my fingers up her, and that worked out fine. Why not a cock that’s actually good for her? If you don't know she needs it, why are you even here?
If he does, what will you say?
I’ve given you some strong stuff here. I’m not trying to drive you into the ground. I think my writing shows that I have always respected you as a person. I leave the decisions to you. I lay out things to consider – if you want.
If you’re intent on going, no one can stop you. But I advise against not considering what you may face.
Part 2 should be shorter, but likely harder. I’ll try to get it out to you in a timely manner. You should see it before hitting the bar again.
Know that you have my respect.
Take care. Night Owl!