The psychological aspect of the hunt and process is a huge turn on for both of us. We pick up young guys in nice bars and the interview process is very titillating for us both. The flirtation, anticipation, teasing, groping is all tantamount to the process. Afterwards, finally getting on my knees in front of the guy is the icing on the cake (actually on my lips), but without the psychological foreplay it wouldn't be as rewarding.