Does it always have to be rough?

In a lot of posts here I see that the hotwife has to be fucked rough. Are my wife and me the only ones who are not attracted to that in our cuckold/hotwife live? For her it's a game of flirting and getting seduced that will finally end in bed. We tried to explain this to a guy we had met online, but when coming over he thought to know better what my wife wanted. Curious how others here think of it.
My wife enjoys the fifty shades of gray. We meet the guy for drinks, drive back to his place, she rides with him but he makes passionate love to her not rough. I would love to see her treated rough but she’s very small and guys seem to just want to fall in love fuck her and I’m totally fine with that as well.
 
It's usually rough or very rough and there are a few reasons for this

1 - my GF likes it rough. This is not something I knew right away but I learned fairly quickly after seeing her with other men. I don't particularly care for rough sex but my GF cannot get enough of it. Because I don't consider myself very good at it, this gives us the ability to allow other men to satisfy that need.

2 - we consider the sex in this lifestyle to be more pornographic fucking than lovemaking. The fucking is almost like a sport. It's dirty, kinky, rough, exiting, and at times a bit dangerous or extreme. But it's certainly NOT lovemaking.

3 - men want to be rough with her. They are not trying to date her or anything. They can slap her, ...... her, fuck her throat until she pukes, jizz on her face, urinate on her and then just walk away. Don't be fooled. A lot of the men you meet in this lifestyle are very selfish in the bedroom with her because they can be. They are not looking to form any kind of relationship with her. They are using her to drain their balls. We know that and we are fine with it. Many of these guys are using her to live out there fantasies.

If you have a GF or wife that doesn't not like it rough then I think you need to take extra steps in the vetting process and spending significantly more time laying down the rules with her lovers. Otherwise you are often just throwing her out there to the wolves.
 
It's usually rough or very rough and there are a few reasons for this

1 - my GF likes it rough. This is not something I knew right away but I learned fairly quickly after seeing her with other men. I don't particularly care for rough sex but my GF cannot get enough of it. Because I don't consider myself very good at it, this gives us the ability to allow other men to satisfy that need.

2 - we consider the sex in this lifestyle to be more pornographic fucking than lovemaking. The fucking is almost like a sport. It's dirty, kinky, rough, exiting, and at times a bit dangerous or extreme. But it's certainly NOT lovemaking.

3 - men want to be rough with her. They are not trying to date her or anything. They can slap her, ...... her, fuck her throat until she pukes, jizz on her face, urinate on her and then just walk away. Don't be fooled. A lot of the men you meet in this lifestyle are very selfish in the bedroom with her because they can be. They are not looking to form any kind of relationship with her. They are using her to drain their balls. We know that and we are fine with it. Many of these guys are using her to live out there fantasies.

If you have a GF or wife that doesn't not like it rough then I think you need to take extra steps in the vetting process and spending significantly more time laying down the rules with her lovers. Otherwise you are often just throwing her out there to the wolves.
My husband couldn't have said it better!
 
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The short answer is simple. The cuckold's role is to provide love, affection and attention. He either can't provide great sex physically (small dick) or because it isn't in his personality. Sometimes a woman just needs a good ole fucking. In the realm of cuckoldry, usually the wife just needs a good ole fucking. As crazy as it may sound, some women need to let their inner slut run free and gentle, passionate love-making isn't going to get it done.

Lisa doesn't want it any other way. If a guy thinks he is going to make slow, passionate love to her then he has been watching too many Hallmark movies. He is going to be surprised when she tosses him on his back and climbs on and rides him like a wild woman.
 
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My current t wife doesn't like rough per say, she like a good hard cock that she can get off on
My ex girlfriend on the other hand was a cockwhore and couldn't get enough cock and often begged to get fucked harder, faster and more aggressive
 
when it comes to sex my wife prefer it with short foreplay which contain sucking and biting her nipples ,go down do same with her pussy mostly under 10 min than fuck hard and deep . definetly no soft touching
 
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In a lot of posts here I see that the hotwife has to be fucked rough. Are my wife and me the only ones who are not attracted to that in our cuckold/hotwife live? For her it's a game of flirting and getting seduced that will finally end in bed. We tried to explain this to a guy we had met online, but when coming over he thought to know better what my wife wanted. Curious how others here think of it.
Must agree with you. Start with flirting then a slow seduction to build the excitement and anticipation. According to my wife the orgasms are more intense when there is a lot of foreplay with a slow build up of arousal as opposed to a wham bamb thankyou mam scenario.

For me I must agree. I enjoy it more when I work for it.
And watching a successful seduction can be extremely eroric.
 
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Must agree with you. Start with flirting then a slow seduction to build the excitement and anticipation. According to my wife the orgasms are more intense when there is a lot of foreplay with a slow build up of arousal as opposed to a wham bamb thankyou mam scenario.

For me I must agree. I enjoy it more when I work for it.
And watching a successful seduction can be extremely eroric.
So true, our first threesome was with a guy we met online. And I must say that maybe already 50% of the excitement came from the way she was flirting with him in the chat. The second guy she met at work as a masseuse and she took some (hidden) footage of the way how she seduced him. So hot, better to look at then the way she finally got fucked.
 
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It's usually rough or very rough and there are a few reasons for this

1 - my GF likes it rough. This is not something I knew right away but I learned fairly quickly after seeing her with other men. I don't particularly care for rough sex but my GF cannot get enough of it. Because I don't consider myself very good at it, this gives us the ability to allow other men to satisfy that need.

2 - we consider the sex in this lifestyle to be more pornographic fucking than lovemaking. The fucking is almost like a sport. It's dirty, kinky, rough, exiting, and at times a bit dangerous or extreme. But it's certainly NOT lovemaking.

3 - men want to be rough with her. They are not trying to date her or anything. They can slap her, ...... her, fuck her throat until she pukes, jizz on her face, urinate on her and then just walk away. Don't be fooled. A lot of the men you meet in this lifestyle are very selfish in the bedroom with her because they can be. They are not looking to form any kind of relationship with her. They are using her to drain their balls. We know that and we are fine with it. Many of these guys are using her to live out there fantasies.

If you have a GF or wife that doesn't not like it rough then I think you need to take extra steps in the vetting process and spending significantly more time laying down the rules with her lovers. Otherwise you are often just throwing her out there to the wolves.
For sure we have to make clear the way she wants it and that it's a take it or leave it. So yeah, some guys drop out, but yeah it wouldn't have worked for her anyway then. To each his own...
 
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In a lot of posts here I see that the hotwife has to be fucked rough. Are my wife and me the only ones who are not attracted to that in our cuckold/hotwife live? For her it's a game of flirting and getting seduced that will finally end in bed. We tried to explain this to a guy we had met online, but when coming over he thought to know better what my wife wanted. Curious how others here think of it.
Each woman has their own preferences when it comes to sex. my exwife liked many guys at the same time, stretching and pulling at her which I always found exciting to watch, but my exgf was same yet different. She loved the really rough treatment even to the point of getting bruised. Some of that I would let her get on with that and not watch. In one swing club one guy suggested that he bring a riding crop in and she agreed without me knowing. The following week he was using it on her pussy and clit and because I knew nothing about it, it came to a confrontation with me and the guy.
I am now with my wife who likes it nice and slow and gently goes it.
So some women enjoy the rough side and some dont
 
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It's usually rough or very rough and there are a few reasons for this

1 - my GF likes it rough. This is not something I knew right away but I learned fairly quickly after seeing her with other men. I don't particularly care for rough sex but my GF cannot get enough of it. Because I don't consider myself very good at it, this gives us the ability to allow other men to satisfy that need.

2 - we consider the sex in this lifestyle to be more pornographic fucking than lovemaking. The fucking is almost like a sport. It's dirty, kinky, rough, exiting, and at times a bit dangerous or extreme. But it's certainly NOT lovemaking.

3 - men want to be rough with her. They are not trying to date her or anything. They can slap her, ...... her, fuck her throat until she pukes, jizz on her face, urinate on her and then just walk away. Don't be fooled. A lot of the men you meet in this lifestyle are very selfish in the bedroom with her because they can be. They are not looking to form any kind of relationship with her. They are using her to drain their balls. We know that and we are fine with it. Many of these guys are using her to live out there fantasies.

If you have a GF or wife that doesn't not like it rough then I think you need to take extra steps in the vetting process and spending significantly more time laying down the rules with her lovers. Otherwise you are often just throwing her out there to the wolves.
Rough and perhaps a bit violent suits the situation. He is simply a tool and so if he roughs her up, bruises her. Slaps her, treats her like whore, it works well
 
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In a lot of posts here I see that the hotwife has to be fucked rough. Are my wife and me the only ones who are not attracted to that in our cuckold/hotwife live? For her it's a game of flirting and getting seduced that will finally end in bed. We tried to explain this to a guy we had met online, but when coming over he thought to know better what my wife wanted. Curious how others here think of it.
I think that it is melding together the TW approaches and letting the moment dictate the approach
Think a number of wives at times enjoy the deeper intimate love making…but are accustomed to getting that from the husband. They really get off on the rough (not brutal or violent) animalistic scene, being taken and being seen and treated as a desirable sexy fucktoy. Letting in inner slut cum out and fucking to exhaustion. And then being awakened because he want more of her body
 
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When our friend is with us we always start slow with a lot of kissing and some oral. As we get into it the sex can get pretty fast but not really rough.
There's plenty of hard fast fucking but lots of slow lovemaking type sex too.
Wife's kink is she wants other guy right after one of us finishes. Sometimes he or me fuck her hard from behind and cums then she'll lay on her back and wants it slow and easy from other guy. Or other way around, nice easy session with one of us then other guy climbs on and really goes at it.
It's fun stuff.
 
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In general my wife is more into rough with others, unattached sex. It becomes almost more intense when the sex is more snesual and can even be more love-ish.
 
In a lot of posts here I see that the hotwife has to be fucked rough. Are my wife and me the only ones who are not attracted to that in our cuckold/hotwife live? For her it's a game of flirting and getting seduced that will finally end in bed. We tried to explain this to a guy we had met online, but when coming over he thought to know better what my wife wanted. Curious how others here think of it.
Jennifer here.

In our early days of sharing when I much younger, I didn't mind if it got a little rough. Now that we are older, I prefer a gentler sex -- almost to love making with long period of oral, gentle penetration and rhythmic smooth fucking.