Does the Cuckold / Hotwife Fantasy Affect a Wife's Desire to Have Children with Her Husband?

[cuckoldturkey]

Hello everyone,
I have a serious and personal question regarding the long-term emotional and relationship effects of engaging in cuckolding / hotwifing dynamics.
For those of you who have experience with this dynamic (especially wives / hotwives):
After engaging in the fantasy, did you notice any change in your desire to have children with your primary partner / husband?
Does the experience ever create a feeling of distance, emotional complexity, or a shift in the perception of the husband as the biological father figure, which might reduce the desire for "their" children?
I am looking for real-life experiences and insights on how such a profound sexual dynamic interacts with the foundational decision of co-parenting and marriage.

 

[Stevens4fun]

KNOWING anything really important about a partner before marriage seems to be an absolute MYSTERY to most people, especially on here!! I can't even imagine having a girlfriend (in an exclusive relationship) and not KNOW her sexual interests and limits, much less a WIFE!! Not sure if guys are THAT hard up for sex of any kind, but I have seen this my entire life.....SO many guys get married and THEN find out that their only sexual desire on the planet (oral sex) is an ABSOLUTE NO for their now wife!!! Hell, my wife gave her Boss/Lover his first "blowjob" when he turned 50 years old, despite being married for 30 years and having TWO kids with her...........!!!!
And when involved in "swinging" with wife #1, I was amazed at the number of guys who were involved because their wives were complete ZEROS in bed!!! I actualy got bored with "swinging" because I was taking better pussy to the party that I got, almost 100% of the time!!! That was because I KNEW what I was marrying long before even considering marrying.
Not sure what criterion guys use to make the decision to marry, but it damned sure isn't based on KNOOWING the woman they are marrying......most guys can't even tell you IF their wives had sexual partners before them, and acuaully ACCEPT being told it's "none of their business"!!! LOLLOL


Amazzes me constantly...........CW

Those who married young sometimes didn't have a complete grasp on what it was all about... having been married once, and then single, both my soon-to-be-wife and myself were much better equipped to communicate and articulate what turned us on and what didn't, - without threatening the relationship.

 

[JMNBABE]

Those who married young sometimes didn't have a complete grasp on what it was all about... having been married once, and then single, both my soon-to-be-wife and myself were much better equipped to communicate and articulate what turned us on and what didn't, - without threatening the relationship.

I am definitely in the minority here, have figured that out over the years. I married the first time at 19, but I knew ALL about these things before we got married. Of course they expanded in understanding over the years, what we thought was interesting became mundane and it porph'd into something else, but It was agreed from the beginning that NOTHING was off the table for discussion. Quite obvious not many people approach things this way.
CW

 

[JMNBABE]

Hello everyone,
I have a serious and personal question regarding the long-term emotional and relationship effects of engaging in cuckolding / hotwifing dynamics.
For those of you who have experience with this dynamic (especially wives / hotwives):
After engaging in the fantasy, did you notice any change in your desire to have children with your primary partner / husband?
Does the experience ever create a feeling of distance, emotional complexity, or a shift in the perception of the husband as the biological father figure, which might reduce the desire for "their" children?
I am looking for real-life experiences and insights on how such a profound sexual dynamic interacts with the foundational decision of co-parenting and marriage.

Not sure there was any real response to the actual question, even our responses got skewed away for THE question...........

In our case, J has developed a desire (or willingness for it to happen) for a pregnancy with a couple of her Lovers, but they were guys that she had longer relationships with that took a while to actually develop into sexual relationships also. One was her Boss/Lover, her longest relationship of almost 10 years, and her desire to have a pregnancy with him DEFINITELY affected her desire for one with me....to the extent that actual intercourse with me became very limited, and then it was only with me wearing a condom and she would use her diaphragm also. If she got pregnant, she WANTED it to be by him. She took no precautions with him. Likely his age, and some health issues prevented this from happening.

To this day, we still use condoms together for our infrequent intercourse encounters. And she continues to hope for a relationship that would become close enough for a pregnancy to be the desired outcome although she has not been active outside the marriage since 2020 when her relationship with her Boss/Lover ended (he got weird during the pandemic).

Can expand on this with more detail if you contat us privately, but this comment alone will INFLAME those on here that are non-participants and will tell you stories all day about how their (usually nonexistent) wives/girlfriends are live sex performers for them with all sexual liasons and only perform when he is in the mood and it STOPS when he isn't, LOLLOL.

CW

 

[Stevens4fun]

In our case, J has developed a desire (or willingness for it to happen) for a pregnancy with a couple of her Lovers, but they were guys that she had longer relationships with that took a while to actually develop into sexual relationships also. One was her Boss/Lover, her longest relationship of almost 10 years, and her desire to have a pregnancy with him DEFINITELY affected her desire for one with me....to the extent that actual intercourse with me became very limited, and then it was only with me wearing a condom and she would use her diaphragm also. If she got pregnant, she WANTED it to be by him. She took no precautions with him. Likely his age, and some health issues prevented this from happening.

To this day, we still use condoms together for our infrequent intercourse encounters.

CW

Same here. I think this is more common than is discussed in this forum. Touchy topic, as you noted. My wife was in love with her boss, and at some point the two of them discussed him being exclusive in her, her not making love to me or even letting me see her naked. This was their fantasy talk. It's still murky which one of them initiated the idea, but I think they both wanted it. So for six of the nine years my wife was enjoying her boss, I was seldom in her. She would get horny with me sometimes, though, and would go for it. And my wife always found other ways for me to experience ejaculation. When she's horny, prior agreements sometimes come unraveled, - at least until she's had an orgasm....

We didn't do the chastity cage thing, or any kind of devices, - if the relationship is right, you don't need devices to be denied access. Denial may be even better without a device.

 

[WNY3somecple]

No. In fact fear of pregnancy by another keeps many people out of the lifestyle

 

[Robbiann_CD]

When we started this lifestyle, after a while it occurred to me what would happen if my wife got pregnant by one of her lovers. We were both excited about the idea. Up until then, she had been fucking everyone bareback, but from then on she tried to time her dates to her fertile period. Unfortunately, she didn't get pregnant, although we really wanted to.
It's not possible anymore.

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I’m sure that pussy is fantastic but it would’ve been so much better with another man’s baby growing in her uterus.

 

[naturalcucky]

I’m sure that pussy is fantastic but it would’ve been so much better with another man’s baby growing in her uterus.

That would be wonderful! 🥰