First Date Nerves

[jenniejenjen333]

Ok, here goes 😶

I’m Jennie, 27, and have been with my bf Mark since forever, in fact he’s the only guy i’ve ever been with. However, over the last (seriously, like 5 years…) he’s been going on about a fantasy of me being with other guys. To cut a long story short, but I can elaborate if you want, this hasn’t been easy for me to deal with or fathom in my mind, especially as it just started with just some light comments during sex, all the way to much more recently where he’s been sending me all sorts of things to read on all kinds of forums (including this one) about everything to do with this sort of stuff. He’s been on this site for years, and now, today, so I am.
I’m not exactly an outgoing person, i’m pretty shy and reserved to put it mildly, so you can probably imagine (I hope!) that this has been very difficult, in fact i’ve had more than a few tearful exchanges about this over the years. I’ve felt all kinds of weird emotions and doubts and worries about our relationship and I know he’s tried his best to explain and everything, but still, it’s been a lot to process!
Again, trying but failing to keep this brief, part of our deal together was that I join this forum too and start posting, so here I am, and as the title says, I have my first ‘date’ tomorrow night (long story about fixing that up), and I can’t remember being this nervous about anything for years. All help is gratefully received, I can’t quite believe i’m doing this.

Jen

 

[TexasDaddy]

Ok, here goes 😶

I’m Jennie, 27, and have been with my bf Mark since forever, in fact he’s the only guy i’ve ever been with. However, over the last (seriously, like 5 years…) he’s been going on about a fantasy of me being with other guys. To cut a long story short, but I can elaborate if you want, this hasn’t been easy for me to deal with or fathom in my mind, especially as it just started with just some light comments during sex, all the way to much more recently where he’s been sending me all sorts of things to read on all kinds of forums (including this one) about everything to do with this sort of stuff. He’s been on this site for years, and now, today, so I am.
I’m not exactly an outgoing person, i’m pretty shy and reserved to put it mildly, so you can probably imagine (I hope!) that this has been very difficult, in fact i’ve had more than a few tearful exchanges about this over the years. I’ve felt all kinds of weird emotions and doubts and worries about our relationship and I know he’s tried his best to explain and everything, but still, it’s been a lot to process!
Again, trying but failing to keep this brief, part of our deal together was that I join this forum too and start posting, so here I am, and as the title says, I have my first ‘date’ tomorrow night (long story about fixing that up), and I can’t remember being this nervous about anything for years. All help is gratefully received, I can’t quite believe i’m doing this.

Jen

A nervous wife makes me really sexually aggressive.

 

[charlie141r42]

Ok, here goes 😶

I’m Jennie, 27, and have been with my bf Mark since forever, in fact he’s the only guy i’ve ever been with. However, over the last (seriously, like 5 years…) he’s been going on about a fantasy of me being with other guys. To cut a long story short, but I can elaborate if you want, this hasn’t been easy for me to deal with or fathom in my mind, especially as it just started with just some light comments during sex, all the way to much more recently where he’s been sending me all sorts of things to read on all kinds of forums (including this one) about everything to do with this sort of stuff. He’s been on this site for years, and now, today, so I am.
I’m not exactly an outgoing person, i’m pretty shy and reserved to put it mildly, so you can probably imagine (I hope!) that this has been very difficult, in fact i’ve had more than a few tearful exchanges about this over the years. I’ve felt all kinds of weird emotions and doubts and worries about our relationship and I know he’s tried his best to explain and everything, but still, it’s been a lot to process!
Again, trying but failing to keep this brief, part of our deal together was that I join this forum too and start posting, so here I am, and as the title says, I have my first ‘date’ tomorrow night (long story about fixing that up), and I can’t remember being this nervous about anything for years. All help is gratefully received, I can’t quite believe i’m doing this.

Jen

Hi Jen.
Sounds to me as if you have been pressurised into doing this and after years have finally given in for no other reason than some peace and quite.
It sunds as if you are going to go through with meeting this other guy, but from what you say it`s unclear if you have had any contact with him or if this has all been arranged by your boyfriend. If it was by your boyfriend then on meeting this guy best you tell him what the boundaries are in what you are comfortable doing.
I hope it goes well for you and you have an enjoyable experience that you would like to repeat for your own sake. If not then you probably need to rethink your relationahip with this boyfriend. Nobody should be pressurised into doing something they do not want to. If your boyfriend is on this forum then he appears to have missed what the title is. It`s "Wife wants to Play"

 

[jenniejenjen333]

Hi Jen.
Sounds to me as if you have been pressurised into doing this and after years have finally given in for no other reason than some peace and quite.
It sunds as if you are going to go through with meeting this other guy, but from what you say it`s unclear if you have had any contact with him or if this has all been arranged by your boyfriend. If it was by your boyfriend then on meeting this guy best you tell him what the boundaries are in what you are comfortable doing.
I hope it goes well for you and you have an enjoyable experience that you would like to repeat for your own sake. If not then you probably need to rethink your relationahip with this boyfriend. Nobody should be pressurised into doing something they do not want to. If your boyfriend is on this forum then he appears to have missed what the title is. It`s "Wife wants to Play"

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. It certainly felt like that at the beginning, especially when I didn't understand anything about all of this. I felt like he had a kink and I wasn't sure where I fitted into it. But since he's been showing me things (and I've been doing a lot of reading, here and elsewhere) I've seen that it wasn't just about him, but like you say, that the woman was having freedom and the man was taking pleasure in that.
Nerves aside, my disbelief that i'm going on an actual 'date' thing tomorrow is because I decided I wanted to, and hearing myself admitting that was a big step for me.