Give her your reasons. My wife and I have not done anything Yet, but we are closer than ever. She talks, jokes... but it’s all in the affirmative, where I used to get the “only with you” answer.
There is one thing that I said that I think she reacted to. I told her I want to be humbled. I want to feel something that I’ve never felt before and feel vulnerable. I told her the stories that she used to tell me about guys before me always turned me on but after 30 years they’re old. We are so far removed from those days. I want new stories. I also sort of pushed her buttons a little. I told her I thought she’d be awkward with another man, like clumsy... not knowing what to do... and she probably couldn’t handle 8 inches. She got a little defensive. lol.