I haven't posted in sometime as I haven't really known where things stand but wanted to get something off my chest..
We have a very small circle of friends that know about our situation, like 5 people, 3 of which have been directly involved. With that said we have a neighbor friend whom we discuss our somewhat unique lifestyle with. She has known what we do for a little over a year. Recently, well last October we went to FantasyFest in Key West, wife and I, our neighbor friend, neighbors sister and husband and another friend of theirs.
Long story short we had 4 suites, 1 each for each couple, one for the two single women and a spare I booked adjoining our room for FantasyFest fun we might encounter. During the course of the stay we realized our neighbor must have told her sister/brother in law about us and likely they told their friend. Not a big issue as we were there to play and it made sense they would not be totally shocked with my wife being somewhat on the prowl. Despite it being Fantasy Fest and craziness everywhere we really didn't see much in the way of opportunities. She of course went topless at a couple pool parties and did the body paint thing but with me right there as well as another guy it just didn't result in anyone approaching my wife other than an occasional innocent compliment. I knew going down I could not stay the entire 10 days and had to make a trip to Miami for business on Friday so plan was fly back to Miami then straight back to Key West. I did not realize my seat on return flight was not guaranteed so I had to scurry and rent a vehicle to get back down to KW so I got a Sprinter thinking we could all ride back together as weather in Keys was supposed to get bad. While I was gone my wife texts and says she was thinking of going to a rooftop clothing optional spot we walked past and wanted to verify I was OK with it. (side note it is called Garden of Eden and is above a place called The Bull which had a guy (male dancer) out front all week dressed in S&M gear and he twirled my wife above his head while performing in the street. I knew what she was asking and I was good with it as the trip had been kind of vanilla for FantasyFest. As I am driving back I get another text asking if I am still interested in my original fantasy that launched this lifestyle of seeing her with 2 men. The answer again was yes. US1 is a slow road, 35 mph in many areas so it took what seemed like an eternity to get back that night. I went straight to our hotel but nobody was around in the other rooms. I went to our room where I found everyone partying, except my wife. Neighbor friend informed me she was in the adjoining room with 2 black guys from the clothing optional place, one of them being the dancer guy. I asked if anyone else knew about it and she said just her. So here I am in an uncomfortable situation that I am there, she isn't and people are asking where she is. Clearly there is noise coming from other side of the door.A door which was not locked from the other side. The other room is also where we had a kitchen full of booze. I sent our neighbor in as I wanted to run interference from my end. She went in, confirmed to me that what we thought was happening was in fact happening. She retrieved some supplies and returned telling me I should go watch. Its all I wanted to do but I wasn't confident she would be able to keep everyone out so I waited. We wound up drinking quite a bit and staying up half the night. At one point my wife comes into our room which told me things were likely done so I didn't get to see it. Then the guys wander in for some unknown reason. It seemed pretty clear what had been going on, at least in my mind. My brain is running a hundred scenarios over what could have happened while also trying to figure out how to play this to the other people. We did nothing other than sit around and drink for another hour, so its getting close to 2AM. The two guys and my wife get up and return to the room, everyone looks at me so I get up and follow out of pure avoidance. Yes, they did go another round and I was there to see it as well as a round in the outside hallway which made no sense as we had adjoining rooms. I get neighbor to send everyone back to their rooms and so we have our 2 rooms to ourselves, wife,myself and the 2 guys. At some point we all crashed. Weather next day was not good so I offered to skip airport and we all drive back. My wife asked me if we could drop off her 2 new friends. I should have said no and just offered an Uber but I didn't. So I assume we are dropping them at their hotel, no, we grabbed their stuff and they were headed to Miami and we were dropping them off. it was the longest and quietest, most uncomfortable hundred miles driven by anyone ever. After we dropped them off I wanted to ask my wife 1000 questions but having the entire group in the van I couldn't. They knew and we knew but nobody was saying it.When we finally stopped for food I decided it would be worse to not address it than to actually do so. We spilled our guts about last couple years of extra-marital play which wasn't as difficult as I thought as they had some foreshadowing. We did however have to discuss what happened the night before as it had never happened previously and I was literally etting the story at the same time as everyone else and of course they keep looking at me for my reaction. I never thought in a million years this would be happening like this. Yes, I had the fantasy of her being with 2 men while I watch. I didn't know if that would ever come to fruition, but I expected it to happen in a much more private setting. I wasn't ready for the instant public outing but I came to terms with it and I realize that despite all their vows of secrecy they were likely texting everyone they knew as we were driving home so privacy went out the window.
I wish it would have gone down a little differently but after years of having the fantasy I was willing to engage it however it became possible. I wasn't embarrassed as they would expect me to be but more shameful of my own fantasy as opposed to my wife acting it out.
We have not had a repeat meeting with the guys from KW. A couple of years ago we were introduced to a young black bull and nothing came of it at the time. We both agreed it was time to rekindle that option which is another thing entirely. What I am curious about is, have any others chose to be out about their status of had it exposed in some way either with our without your intent for it to happen?
We have a very small circle of friends that know about our situation, like 5 people, 3 of which have been directly involved. With that said we have a neighbor friend whom we discuss our somewhat unique lifestyle with. She has known what we do for a little over a year. Recently, well last October we went to FantasyFest in Key West, wife and I, our neighbor friend, neighbors sister and husband and another friend of theirs.
Long story short we had 4 suites, 1 each for each couple, one for the two single women and a spare I booked adjoining our room for FantasyFest fun we might encounter. During the course of the stay we realized our neighbor must have told her sister/brother in law about us and likely they told their friend. Not a big issue as we were there to play and it made sense they would not be totally shocked with my wife being somewhat on the prowl. Despite it being Fantasy Fest and craziness everywhere we really didn't see much in the way of opportunities. She of course went topless at a couple pool parties and did the body paint thing but with me right there as well as another guy it just didn't result in anyone approaching my wife other than an occasional innocent compliment. I knew going down I could not stay the entire 10 days and had to make a trip to Miami for business on Friday so plan was fly back to Miami then straight back to Key West. I did not realize my seat on return flight was not guaranteed so I had to scurry and rent a vehicle to get back down to KW so I got a Sprinter thinking we could all ride back together as weather in Keys was supposed to get bad. While I was gone my wife texts and says she was thinking of going to a rooftop clothing optional spot we walked past and wanted to verify I was OK with it. (side note it is called Garden of Eden and is above a place called The Bull which had a guy (male dancer) out front all week dressed in S&M gear and he twirled my wife above his head while performing in the street. I knew what she was asking and I was good with it as the trip had been kind of vanilla for FantasyFest. As I am driving back I get another text asking if I am still interested in my original fantasy that launched this lifestyle of seeing her with 2 men. The answer again was yes. US1 is a slow road, 35 mph in many areas so it took what seemed like an eternity to get back that night. I went straight to our hotel but nobody was around in the other rooms. I went to our room where I found everyone partying, except my wife. Neighbor friend informed me she was in the adjoining room with 2 black guys from the clothing optional place, one of them being the dancer guy. I asked if anyone else knew about it and she said just her. So here I am in an uncomfortable situation that I am there, she isn't and people are asking where she is. Clearly there is noise coming from other side of the door.A door which was not locked from the other side. The other room is also where we had a kitchen full of booze. I sent our neighbor in as I wanted to run interference from my end. She went in, confirmed to me that what we thought was happening was in fact happening. She retrieved some supplies and returned telling me I should go watch. Its all I wanted to do but I wasn't confident she would be able to keep everyone out so I waited. We wound up drinking quite a bit and staying up half the night. At one point my wife comes into our room which told me things were likely done so I didn't get to see it. Then the guys wander in for some unknown reason. It seemed pretty clear what had been going on, at least in my mind. My brain is running a hundred scenarios over what could have happened while also trying to figure out how to play this to the other people. We did nothing other than sit around and drink for another hour, so its getting close to 2AM. The two guys and my wife get up and return to the room, everyone looks at me so I get up and follow out of pure avoidance. Yes, they did go another round and I was there to see it as well as a round in the outside hallway which made no sense as we had adjoining rooms. I get neighbor to send everyone back to their rooms and so we have our 2 rooms to ourselves, wife,myself and the 2 guys. At some point we all crashed. Weather next day was not good so I offered to skip airport and we all drive back. My wife asked me if we could drop off her 2 new friends. I should have said no and just offered an Uber but I didn't. So I assume we are dropping them at their hotel, no, we grabbed their stuff and they were headed to Miami and we were dropping them off. it was the longest and quietest, most uncomfortable hundred miles driven by anyone ever. After we dropped them off I wanted to ask my wife 1000 questions but having the entire group in the van I couldn't. They knew and we knew but nobody was saying it.When we finally stopped for food I decided it would be worse to not address it than to actually do so. We spilled our guts about last couple years of extra-marital play which wasn't as difficult as I thought as they had some foreshadowing. We did however have to discuss what happened the night before as it had never happened previously and I was literally etting the story at the same time as everyone else and of course they keep looking at me for my reaction. I never thought in a million years this would be happening like this. Yes, I had the fantasy of her being with 2 men while I watch. I didn't know if that would ever come to fruition, but I expected it to happen in a much more private setting. I wasn't ready for the instant public outing but I came to terms with it and I realize that despite all their vows of secrecy they were likely texting everyone they knew as we were driving home so privacy went out the window.
I wish it would have gone down a little differently but after years of having the fantasy I was willing to engage it however it became possible. I wasn't embarrassed as they would expect me to be but more shameful of my own fantasy as opposed to my wife acting it out.
We have not had a repeat meeting with the guys from KW. A couple of years ago we were introduced to a young black bull and nothing came of it at the time. We both agreed it was time to rekindle that option which is another thing entirely. What I am curious about is, have any others chose to be out about their status of had it exposed in some way either with our without your intent for it to happen?
