Well although my wife knows about the fact that i enjoy sharing and swapping.,. But she takes it with different angle and never gives it a second thought. She thinks that I have lost the love for her and am willing to throw her out ... But am still trying in different ways to convince her... Any suggestions???
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Talk to her. Communication between the two of you is key for mutual understanding. I remember when I broached this subject to my wife years ago. Being the more possessive one in our relationship, she had similar concerns as your wife does. In fact, she downright hated to see me talk to another woman, let alone having sexual relations with one.
Nevertheless, we continued talking, and I gave the explanation that regardless, she will always be my wife. We have lovers, but she is my wife and I am her husband. We have sex with lovers (oh, do we have fun with them), but 'making love' (meaning not just sex, but emotions - you guys know how corny that sounds right?) is just for the two of us. Lovers don't have rights and responsibilities to each other beyond the sex, but couples do. You have to drill this into her. But, moreover, you have to believe in this too. You have to hold fast to the rights and responsibilities as a husband. If you're into this just because you want to screw around, then don't. That's the same as an excuse to have an affair, and that's the seed that will break you up. Might as well just have an affair or just have a good time with a professional (without your wife knowing), mate.
When my wife and I finally made our decision, we made an agreement. Whatever happened, we will always be with one another. We never do anything without the other's knowledge and consent. The result? Our experience had further developed, from what was a mere soft swing with another couple, to her hotwifing, me being cuckolded, to experiencing everything.
The talk you are going to have will not be short, it will not take place within a short period of time. It will be a long talk spanning several days/weeks/months where the two of you need to understand each other, where you are, where you're coming from and where you are going to.
Understand this, you should know that swinging/cuckolding/hotwifing is a serious decision for the both of you. The both of you should make a rational decision about it. So talk. That's my suggestion.
Nevertheless, we continued talking, and I gave the explanation that regardless, she will always be my wife. We have lovers, but she is my wife and I am her husband. We have sex with lovers (oh, do we have fun with them), but 'making love' (meaning not just sex, but emotions - you guys know how corny that sounds right?) is just for the two of us. Lovers don't have rights and responsibilities to each other beyond the sex, but couples do. You have to drill this into her. But, moreover, you have to believe in this too. You have to hold fast to the rights and responsibilities as a husband. If you're into this just because you want to screw around, then don't. That's the same as an excuse to have an affair, and that's the seed that will break you up. Might as well just have an affair or just have a good time with a professional (without your wife knowing), mate.
When my wife and I finally made our decision, we made an agreement. Whatever happened, we will always be with one another. We never do anything without the other's knowledge and consent. The result? Our experience had further developed, from what was a mere soft swing with another couple, to her hotwifing, me being cuckolded, to experiencing everything.
The talk you are going to have will not be short, it will not take place within a short period of time. It will be a long talk spanning several days/weeks/months where the two of you need to understand each other, where you are, where you're coming from and where you are going to.
Understand this, you should know that swinging/cuckolding/hotwifing is a serious decision for the both of you. The both of you should make a rational decision about it. So talk. That's my suggestion.
manotick
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Talk is essential. And lots of it. And if you wife does want to do it, then there has to mutually acceptable rules as well so that both of you are protected. That said, when it comes to the talking aspect and your wife thinks you don't love her or want to be with her, the hardest part of all for any cuckold is to reveal your true feelings about why you want to see her being kissed, and fondled and fucked by another man and why that turns you on. And does she want to become your porn star? Because once she has another man's cock buried deep inside her pussy and he is a better lover than you are, her thoughts will no longer be about your desires, She will focus solely on her pleasure. And the more she fucks other men, she can quickly change the dynamics of your relationship, including falling in love with the other man and excluding you from having sex with her. So that is why the talk and agreements are so essential when you get to that level. But first, she has to know exactly why you want her to be with other men and that is does not in any way change your love for her.
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