Hotwife experience gone wrong

Trust. Hard to rebuild trust after this type of thing. Would consider taking a time out to rebuild your trust and communication
 
sounds like your wanting control of her and she knows it, your never going to enjoy sharing her when she has to comply with what you want
 
The first thing you have to do is bury the jealousy. This is not going work if you are getting upset that she enjoyed the next man. You brought him in for your pleasure but also for hers.

Take some time and make sure you can handle this before jumping back in. There is always that moment of doubt the first time but enjoy her being pleasured.