A really good friend of my husbands recognized me and I have no idea what to do. He has asked me not to say anything to my husband, which is probably for the best, but I’d feel guilty if I kept it from him. What should I do?!
Husbands friend recognized me…what to do?
- Thread starter openmindedmom
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Too many forget this is NOT necessarily about the Bull/guy. Though I definitely lean towards the Dominant side and I do enjoy playing with another man’s wife, if it’s not fun for everyone then it probably isn’t fun for anyone.
Finding that right balance is just as much fun as as getting into her panties.
I am probably older than quite a few on here.
Yes if it’s not fun for everyone then what the purpose. Of course the reason is sex for everyone. I would suspect you are a mature individuals based on the conversation. We too are a mature experienced couple have enjoyed the swinging lifestyle most of our married years.
Yes if it’s not fun for everyone then what the purpose. Of course the reason is sex for everyone. I would suspect you are a mature individuals based on the conversation. We too are a mature experienced couple have enjoyed the swinging lifestyle most of our married years.
Please try to restrain from calling me “mature”.
I refuse to grow up unless I REALLY have to. Playtime is definitely not one of those times. lol
You sound like you have experience and knowledge earned over the years. The part of your reply that I highlighted seems to be a lost consideration and reason many of these relationships ultimately fail. You can't be oblivious to the experience of ALL those participating (in whatever form that is).
The most obvious example is when a wife has continued a long term sexual relation that results in insecurity in the husband. How can a wife truly have as much fun as possible knowing it hurts her husband? Sure, she has her fun but at a cost to her husband's issues. Obviously it would be best if everyone involved were sensitive to the dynamic and how it affects each of the players.
Unfortunately, that isn't often the case. Far too often the blanket immunity of NRE is the excuse provided for missteps. A truly loving wife should be able to immediately identify what her husband is getting out of the deal and undeniably know if he is truly happy with the arrangement. When a wife is ignorant of her husband's needs and comfort then the bond between them will suffer. The bull/lover/FWB can be helpful to minimize this stress but ultimately the greater share of the blame will fall to the wife.
As you said, "If it's not fun for everyone, then it probably isn't fun for anyone!" It's easy to identify when it's fun for the wife and her lover. It isn't as simply identified or verifiable that the husband is having fun. That would require checking in on the husband, listening to his concerns, and acting upon them. That seems to be the stumbling block, especially when things evolve and escalate between the wife and her lover.
It CAN be a fine line between sarcasm and humor.
I know the deal of women using men as well.
Sometimes it’s just for our bodies. Sometimes it’s for the money.
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