I want to be cuckolded, but she does not

[brazilian_1505]

I met my wife 4 years ago. We dated for 3, we were engaged for 1 year and got married last month.

Right on our first date, we already talked about swing and thressomes. She confessed to me that her biggest fetish would be to do DP, because she had never had sex with two guys at the same time.

As I have had the cuckold fetish for more than 10 years, so I was interested in her at the same time.

As our relationship became more solid, I tried to talk to her about the subject, sent videos, bought sexy lingerie, sex toys. But it seems that over time, her interest decreased more and more until it reached a point where she told me that she was happy only with me and that she didn't want this kind of thing anymore.

I tried to forget the subject, I focused on our relationship and I'm very happy with her. But I get frustrated for not having this fetish performed. Now that we got married, and it's still very early, I still think about it and it seems that after the wedding it has taken over my thoughts more and more. I believe that for now she is officially my wife, the fantasy of having a hotwife has surfaced more strongly.

I've already tried to understand her fears, and I have mine too. One of my suspicions is because she was traumatized because her father cheated on her ....... But in our case, it would be consensual, so there would be no problem of trust.

When she tells me about her past, I keep imagining that if we had a cuckold relationship, she would love it. According to her words, she was a slut. He had many sexual partners. I would be the perfect cuck for her, because not only would I like to see her with other guys, but I would interact with them, sucking the guys together with her, cleaning her after a creampie (she doesn't like facial cumshots or in the mouth), filming our adventures.

What's missing for me? Talk to her more, even though she says she's not interested anymore? I really don't know what to do.

 

[MohamedEgyFly]

Small steps is the most beautiful way..
You need to be patient, not aggressive and straight forward..

Send me message and lets talk..

 

[majorem]

Women tend to me less impulsive, more risk-averse and more guarded than men. When she says she is no longer interested in that fantasy, it is likely because she is not interested in doing it with you. The high-level reason is that your relationship is much more important to her than fulfilling a fantasy. Women tend to have a lot less drive toward sexual fantasy fulfillment than men and a lot more barriers.

I would guess when your wife imagines being DPed, its with some unknown men who she imagines never seeing again and thus doesn't have to worry about how they will see her afterwards or potentially judge her.

I think for a lot of women, there is this aspirational self-imagine as they go to get married, of being the best, most loyal wife and companion. This is, of course, the opposite of what many of us who deliberately married slutty women wanted haha...

Unfortunately, when your relationship was not solid, that may have been the easiest time to convince her to have a 3-some, because she didn't have a lot invested in it to worry about losing. Your marriage being so new is going to make this a challenge. Most young women do not imagine meeting their dream man, having a magical wedding, and then, getting DPed for the first time. You may need to wait for the magic to wear off a bit haha. You also have to make her feel very secure in the relationship and, not only safe but rewarded for letting out her inner slut, whenever she does.

You wanting to suck dude's cocks also could be a big problem for her. I mean, maybe she's into that, some women are and, if that's the case, then this may not be an issue. However, it is also not uncommon for women to have a fear that her man might secretly be gay / cheat on her with other men, maybe eventually decide you're not bi but actually gay and leave her. She might worry you secretly want a 3-some with a man as an excuse for you to experiment with other men.

Another related issue is that many women tend to want to imagine that their man is strong and dominant, at least to some degree, and her watching you suck another guy's cock might diminish that image for her.

It's funny, I saw a thing where a dude was interviewing young women and their boyfriends on the street outside clubs, asking "if your man was offered a million dollars to be in a gay porn, would you want him to do it?" and like 90% of the women said no way. Then he asked the men and like 50% of them were all "hell yeah, I mean, its a million dollars!"

I think for you to have any hope of making this happen, you probably need to chill out, pump the brakes for a bit, wait a year or two - go work on some other fantasies in the meantime lol. Then, once you've settled more into married life, you can slowly bring it up again. Maybe start by just doing some stuff in the bedroom with a dildo - get some simulated DP going on. Tell her you'd really get off watching her fuck it. When you start talking about the DP fantasy again, you need to make it about her. How hot it would be to watch her with someone, how you love it when she's a slut, how it turns you on to see her pussy get stretched, how it would be so hot to see her take two cocks, how you want to give her the ultimate pleasure and see her experience that. Even if she is cool with you being bi, I would probably just not bring that part up...

The exception to above is, if she is the type of women who is really into seeing you with another man and not threatened by it, then you could potentially approach it from the angle of you really wanting to experience another man with her; have her watch you. In this case, it's your fantasy to fool around with another men but you really want her there with you, being part of it. She might then want to do it to help you experience your own fantasy and, once you make a MMF happen, it wouldn't take much for it to turn into an MFM.

The really bad news here is, if her master plan involves you guys having babies anytime soon, you may have to put the DP fantasy on ice for a long time. When women get into mom-mode, their prioritization of family stability goes way the hell up and deviant fantasy action tends to go waaaaaay down. If this is where things are headed, you might be waiting 10-15 years to have any hope here...