Is this going in the right direction?

[Anita_Andrea]

I (42M) have been with my gorgeous wife (40F) for 10 years. A few months back I told her I would be open to mmf. Her reaction surprised me a little. She didn't say no, she didn’t shut me down, she asked me why and I told her it's because it turns me on to see her pleasured and wanted. She told me that under the right conditions (e.g., at a party, a few drinks, and interesting guy) it could potentially happen.

One night about two months ago, I told her a guy we both know thinks she is hot. The morning after, as she left home to catch her usual train, I noticed she dressed up differently, her skirt was shorter than usual, her heels higher than usual. They are both commuters and they catch the same train in the morning...

During sex she has started roleplaying mmf scenarios occasionally. Also, recently (this is new) during sex she starts sucking her thumb, pretending it's a cock. And when I ask her if she is enjoying that cock, she moans.

What are your thoughts?

 

[Wantsomefunto]

Sounds like her mind is exploring the possibility. If you don’t have a life like dildo bigger than you, get one for her to try. Fuck her with it as she sucks you.

Ask her when she is worked up sexually if she has imagined anyone she knows fucking her.

 

[Wantsomefunto]

Can you share pics of her?

 

[steve181818]

Yup! Like Wantsomefunto said its time to introduce some toys! Play with them as normal and occasionally slip in a line of how good she looks taking his dick or does his dick feel good and that'll get her mind thinking about it more. just dont over do it and make it pushy and uncomfortable for her. You know her best so take it at the pace youd think shes comfortable

 

[Anita_Andrea]

Sounds like her mind is exploring the possibility. If you don’t have a life like dildo bigger than you, get one for her to try. Fuck her with it as she sucks you.

Ask her when she is worked up sexually if she has imagined anyone she knows fucking her.

Both of us are not really into toys, I would prefer not to go down that path. We had sex again last night, and again she started sucking her thumb, pretending she was sucking a cock while I was fucking her. I asked if she loved that cock and she said "yes" in between moaning

 

[Anita_Andrea]

Yup! Like Wantsomefunto said its time to introduce some toys! Play with them as normal and occasionally slip in a line of how good she looks taking his dick or does his dick feel good and that'll get her mind thinking about it more. just dont over do it and make it pushy and uncomfortable for her. You know her best so take it at the pace youd think shes comfortable

Yeah, I definitely don't wanna get pushy or look like I am expecting it to happen quickly.
Also, not sure whether her personality makes her more or less likely to agree to a mmf. She is a bit of a pleaser, she is a bit insecure and craves attention/validation. In bed she prefers to be led, dominated, taken.

 

[Wantsomefunto]

Yeah, I definitely don't wanna get pushy or look like I am expecting it to happen quickly.
Also, not sure whether her personality makes her more or less likely to agree to a mmf. She is a bit of a pleaser, she is a bit insecure and craves attention/validation. In bed she prefers to be led, dominated, taken.

Maybe ask if she would suck one of your friends if she is a pleaser

 

[Mark90]

Insist without overdoing it and don't lose hope. It took me some time to convince her, and there were even times when, once it was done, she pulled back at the last minute. But in the end, she gave in and it was wonderful.