We have definitely talked everything to death. May need some serious things to fix it. Some serious boundaries were crossed and she still said she cheated to “get my attention” and risked it all. Maybe we don’t have the maturity for this. I post more details later.
Just found my wife on tinder
- Thread starter goodboysoul
- Start date
Every one that has gone through this states that rules and boundaries need to be in place before the journey begins.
Hindsight is 20 20.
Easy to say that now.
I hope you can work it out together.
I can feel your pain in your post.
Hindsight is 20 20.
Easy to say that now.
I hope you can work it out together.
I can feel your pain in your post.
She’s made all kinds of threats about leaving and how she’s backed into a corner and all these unfairnl things that happen
Wave goodbye as she leaves her key. She’s already left. Just needs to move out.
Has nothing to do with this site or Tinder.
Any screen shots of wife's Tinder pages? Blurred for privacy of course ✌🏻
I think this LS has a hold of her and she has no idea how to respect boundaries or our relationship. I think she would like a completely private dating life now but she agreed to follow rules and boundaries and went back on everything
So sorry mate. Jen and I went through this years ago and it almost broke us. But we talked it through.
We’re on our way to therapy now
The emotional/connection side is too intense and she’s been calling me controlling. It’s very scary
This is a risk everyone takes getting into this lifestyle. If the relationship is strong before you start, it generally has a better outcome.
But if there were issues beforehand and one or both of you thought this might help your relationship, then it was doomed from the beginning. Don’t blame the lifestyle. Whatever issues are going on happened before she got on Tinder.
But at least now it’s out in the open.
Good luck.
Send her Tinder profile. I’m just curious
She deleted her profile because she is all in on the guy she is currently into. That’s how she operates though it’s always 1 guy at a time cuz she is so fixated on the current connection and she can’t handle the emotions of coming off that relationship, there are poly elements to it
We have a very solid foundation or at least we felt we did. We’ve been together almost 2 decades though it’s probably was a lot of trauma bonding so once we got through that we found out communication isn’t as good as we thought. We are on opposite ends of the spectrum of things like emotional connection and everything is hitting a really intense point and there is a lot on the line
Sounds like what you really need is better communication between the two of you. It’s not uncommon for couples to drift apart in certain areas over time.
What takes effort is realizing the positives in your relationship what keeps you together.
This will work itself out over time.
