Making a Hotwife!

[coastalkid]

Nothing new to report at this time other than my wife hasn’t played since November of last year and as of a month ago she told me she isn’t interested in playing outside of marriage at this time.

At this point, only time will tell if she decides to play again or not.

Things are very good between us, but she hasn’t really explained why she has changed her mind. I feel like I am missing something and she doesn’t seem open to letting me know. Any suggestions?

I'm just now seeing this. Do you suppose that she feels like she tried it, got a good idea of what it was really like and it just didn't have enough appeal for her. Could it have anything to do with the personalities of the guys she has hooked up with? Maybe they have influenced her by being "too much of this or not enough of that". It could be that she sees you as the most compatible partner and the sex with the other guys isn't exciting enough for her to work past their idiosyncracys.

Does the topic ever come up in or out of the bedroom? If she never initiates ANY discussion about it then she inwardly wants it left alone, she's not going to feed the fire. The seed is still there. If she wants it (and she knows she can have it), she'll bring it up. There's also the good chance that in her mind the net result carries more negative than positive now that she has true experience to draw from.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

I had tried to initiate a conversation several times over the past several months and she replies with generalizations instead of clearly explaining how she feels. If I haven’t brought it up, she will rarely discuss it, but will occasionally say something about wanting to hit a club or hint about playing. A couple of weeks ago, while we were having sex, she mentioned how much she wished she had another man’s cum in her while I was fucking her. After sex, she didn’t want to elaborate and hasn’t said anything since.

The only other comment she has made is that she really only thinks about wanting variety when we don’t have enough sex. When I asked what drove the decrease in interest, she said it is too hard to find a good option and it is too easy to get caught. I wonder if she did get caught and hasn’t told me.

 

[coastalkid]

I had tried to initiate a conversation several times over the past several months and she replies with generalizations instead of clearly explaining how she feels. If I haven’t brought it up, she will rarely discuss it, but will occasionally say something about wanting to hit a club or hint about playing. A couple of weeks ago, while we were having sex, she mentioned how much she wished she had another man’s cum in her while I was fucking her. After sex, she didn’t want to elaborate and hasn’t said anything since.

The only other comment she has made is that she really only thinks about wanting variety when we don’t have enough sex. When I asked what drove the decrease in interest, she said it is too hard to find a good option and it is too easy to get caught. I wonder if she did get caught and hasn’t told me.

It says a lot when they don't ever bring it up. She knows she can bring it up during sex and it's not the same as talking about it or making comments about it outside the bedroom. Clearly though, some aspects of the whole scene are still tumbling around in that head of hers to mention another man's cum in her. Those little visions in her mind have taken hold and haven't gone away.

Her reluctance to put out the effort to find suitable partners is not without legitimacy. I would imagine there's a sort of "Goldilocks Zone" that isn't that easy to reach. These guys have either been too much of one thing and not enough of the others. Whatever her standards are she knows there's a lot of time put into sorting them out.

The being caught statement and your notion that she have already been caught is perceptive. Since it should be you she's worried about being caught by, and clearly that's not the case, who is it and what kind of consequences could there be?

Have you considered that she may think that you're TOO into it and that she's really wanting a more conventional monogamous life? She's had a good taste of the life. She's seen the good parts and the bad. Maybe now she's trying to make a justified decision based on the entirety of her experience. It may not feel worth it to her any more.

Pure speculation on my part. I'm only thinking about what comes to my mind. You know I've been a long time supporter of yours and have always wished you the best. At this point, the way things are, what would be your optimum situation? What would you like your sex lives to be like? Do you think there's a place where you both could be content with whatever arrangement you could put together?