My husband wants me to fuck another man

Cke86

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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
 
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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
you should not do something simply to please another. If you are not an enthusiastic participant it will not be satisfying for anyone
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
Either you are enthustiastic about it or curious. If not you should not agree just to satisfy your husband. The whole thing with hotwifing is that you feel aroused, get utterly satisfied and that your husband gets excited too. If not - skip it - will cause problems.
 
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First of all thanks. I helps us a lot to understand a womans mind. Probably it helps you to understand those of us.
I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
You have a lot insecurities you probably don't need to have at all. I guess your husband loves you unconditionally. When he has the desire to see you having sex with other men it shows his love and that he loves when you are sexually satisfied.
Whatever happens, there is always a NO. For you, for your partner and anybody else. Its about doing things both of you like to do.
I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
Thats hard to believe. I really guess you have some fantasies as well that you never talked about with your husband. And its so hard to take the first step and talk about it. So is it maybe not a low sex drive but only everyday life and nothing special going on after all the years? One thing being said: If your husband tends to be a cuckold - he will be endlessly happy about every wish and every kink that you open up to him. If its to hard for you to open up maybe let him ask questions and you only answer some of them? Or play a sexual game? Both fill out a list of desires online and you are only able to see the matches...
Good luck - I so curious to learn what holds a woman back.
 

majorem

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Anyone in a functional relationship does things to please another - I think its a matter of whether / how strongly they feel against it. I have no desire to massage my wife's feet but she likes it and it's not a big deal for me, so why not? This is obviously much bigger than that and requires more consideration but its the same principal. If you feel strongly against it, then sure, don't proceed. If you just have no personal desire for it or are uncertain but not strongly against it and know it means a lot to your husband, then it is perhaps worth considering.

Also, at some point, I think almost all of us have experiences where we were reluctant to try something but we're pushed into it by circumstances or another person and discover we actually enjoyed it. Sometimes its impossible to understand why you might like something until you've given it a shot. There are many wives on this site who have talked about a similar beginning, not thinking they wanted it and being coaxed into it by a husband only to find they really enjoy it. Then again, wives who don't like their first experience probably don't come post here, so hard to know what the ratio is there. I guess you need to determine whether it is something you feel you might seriously regret for whatever reason or whether its something you could try and, if you don't like it, just move on and never do it again with no harm.

It is something that might help stimulate your sex drive though and thereby potentially improve your marriage.

FWIW my wife is also insecure about her body even though she looks great for her age and far more attractive than her friends. There is nothing I can do as her husband though to change that since she assumes I love her, so of course I'd say she's attractive. The reality though is most of us men are not expecting a supermodel, nor could we get with one if we tried. A lot men are just happy to have some new pussy and will appreciate you for your better qualities and overlook your imperfections. I can also tell you, attitude and sensuality do a lot more for me than just physical appearance. I've dated some very attractive women who were boring and my wife, while good looking, is certainly not the hottest woman I've been with - yet I've never been more attracted to anyone, because of her sensuality.
 
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Anyone in a functional relationship does things to please another - I think its a matter of whether / how strongly they feel against it. I have no desire to massage my wife's feet but she likes it and it's not a big deal for me, so why not? This is obviously much bigger than that and requires more consideration but its the same principal. If you feel strongly against it, then sure, don't proceed. If you just have no personal desire for it or are uncertain but not strongly against it and know it means a lot to your husband, then it is perhaps worth considering.

Also, at some point, I think almost all of us have experiences where we were reluctant to try something but we're pushed into it by circumstances or another person and discover we actually enjoyed it. Sometimes its impossible to understand why you might like something until you've given it a shot. There are many wives on this site who have talked about a similar beginning, not thinking they wanted it and being coaxed into it by a husband only to find they really enjoy it. Then again, you may and wives who don't like their first probably don't come post here, so hard to know what the ratio is there. I guess you need to determine whether it is something you feel you might seriously regret for whatever reason or whether its something you could try and, if you don't like it, just move on and never do it again with no harm.

It is something that might help stimulate your sex drive though and thereby potentially improve your marriage.

FWIW my wife is also insecure about her body even though she looks great for her age and far more attractive than her friends. There is nothing I can do as her husband though to change that since she assumes I love her, so of course I'd say she's attractive. The reality though is most of us men are not expecting a supermodel, nor could we get with one if we tried. A lot men are just happy to have some new pussy and will appreciate you for your better qualities and overlook your imperfections. I can also tell you, attitude and sensuality do a lot more for me than just physical appearance. I've dated some very attractive women who were boring and my wife, while good looking, is certainly not the hottest woman I've been with - yet I've never been more attracted to anyone, because of her sensuality.
Excellent post with a ton of great points. I wish i could get my wife to understand men wouldnt even notice the things she sees and is unhappy with.
 

Cke86

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you should not do something simply to please another. If you are not an enthusiastic participant it will not be satisfying for anyone
Either you are enthustiastic about it or curious. If not you should not agree just to satisfy your husband. The whole thing with hotwifing is that you feel aroused, get utterly satisfied and that your husband gets excited too. If not - skip it - will cause
Anyone in a functional relationship does things to please another - I think its a matter of whether / how strongly they feel against it. I have no desire to massage my wife's feet but she likes it and it's not a big deal for me, so why not? This is obviously much bigger than that and requires more consideration but its the same principal. If you feel strongly against it, then sure, don't proceed. If you just have no personal desire for it or are uncertain but not strongly against it and know it means a lot to your husband, then it is perhaps worth considering.

Also, at some point, I think almost all of us have experiences where we were reluctant to try something but we're pushed into it by circumstances or another person and discover we actually enjoyed it. Sometimes its impossible to understand why you might like something until you've given it a shot. There are many wives on this site who have talked about a similar beginning, not thinking they wanted it and being coaxed into it by a husband only to find they really enjoy it. Then again, you may and wives who don't like their first probably don't come post here, so hard to know what the ratio is there. I guess you need to determine whether it is something you feel you might seriously regret for whatever reason or whether its something you could try and, if you don't like it, just move on and never do it again with no harm.

It is something that might help stimulate your sex drive though and thereby potentially improve your marriage.

FWIW my wife is also insecure about her body even though she looks great for her age and far more attractive than her friends. There is nothing I can do as her husband thought to change that since she assumes I love her, so of course I'd say she's attractive. The reality though is most of us men are not expecting a supermodel, nor could we get with one if we tried. A lot men are just happy to have some new pussy and will appreciate you for your better qualities and overlook your imperfections. I can also tell you, attitude and sensuality do a lot more for me than just physical appearance. I've dated some very attractive women who were boring and my wife, while good looking, is certainly not the hottest woman I've been with - yet I've never been more attracted to anyone, because of her
Anyone in a functional relationship does things to please another - I think its a matter of whether / how strongly they feel against it. I have no desire to massage my wife's feet but she likes it and it's not a big deal for me, so why not? This is obviously much bigger than that and requires more consideration but its the same principal. If you feel strongly against it, then sure, don't proceed. If you just have no personal desire for it or are uncertain but not strongly against it and know it means a lot to your husband, then it is perhaps worth considering.

Also, at some point, I think almost all of us have experiences where we were reluctant to try something but we're pushed into it by circumstances or another person and discover we actually enjoyed it. Sometimes its impossible to understand why you might like something until you've given it a shot. There are many wives on this site who have talked about a similar beginning, not thinking they wanted it and being coaxed into it by a husband only to find they really enjoy it. Then again, you may and wives who don't like their first probably don't come post here, so hard to know what the ratio is there. I guess you need to determine whether it is something you feel you might seriously regret for whatever reason or whether its something you could try and, if you don't like it, just move on and never do it again with no harm.

It is something that might help stimulate your sex drive though and thereby potentially improve your marriage.

FWIW my wife is also insecure about her body even though she looks great for her age and far more attractive than her friends. There is nothing I can do as her husband though to change that since she assumes I love her, so of course I'd say she's attractive. The reality though is most of us men are not expecting a supermodel, nor could we get with one if we tried. A lot men are just happy to have some new pussy and will appreciate you for your better qualities and overlook your imperfections. I can also tell you, attitude and sensuality do a lot more for me than just physical appearance. I've dated some very attractive women who were boring and my wife, while good looking, is certainly not the hottest woman I've been with - yet I've never been more attracted to anyone, because of her sensuality.
Thank you! You definitely helped shed some light on this.
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
What is in it for you would be the question I think you need to answer.
I bet sounds like your husband wants you to be his personal porn actress, right? But, if he is like me, he might feel like having another man getting it on with you validates what he treasures. Also, to a large degree, I want my wife to experience pleasure that a man with longer stamina (not to mention a longer Johnson) could give her.
My wife has repeatedly said that it will not happen. I still fantasize about it, but have largely given up as we both get nearer to 60 years old.
 
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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
Hello. If I were you, don’t over think things too much, the reason for this or the reason for that. Why don’t you both just try it and see if you like it. If you do, that’s great, if not that’s also fine. Don’t complicate things emotionally. I recommend finding a decent guy on one of the swinging sites. Have a drink or a meeting at a nice hotel and go up to the room for sex. I think you will be pleasantly surprised how much you and your husband like it. It’s certainly going to increases your self confidence and natural sexiness. If you want something to really turbo charge your marriage, this is it. It’s a very exciting thing to do together. Just keep a open mind and see how you go. If you have any questions you can always DM me. Good luck.
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
Do it! It will do loads of help with ur self confidence & self image.
You'll cum to luv it, so will he. Everybody wins.
 
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I fully agree not to do it for him, but for yourself. However, I badgered my wife for so long she finally did it to shut me up. So I didn't practice what I'm preaching.

 
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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
you cant do it just for him you need to want it to or you might regret it later
 
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A few things I noticed, 1. Don’t do it just for him, if you hate it you will resent him for “making” you do it.

You mention not much of a sex drive and inexperienced. You’ve been married 13 years, you are not inexperienced. Maybe not a lot of partners but more partners doesn’t mean better experience. The question I would have about your drive or desire is how do like sex with your husband? When you fuck do your cum always? Sometimes, never? Does he give oral? Do you cum? Sometimes, always or never?

I’ve found that a women having regular and many orgasms is always more interested in sex than one who doesn’t.
 
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Hello. If I were you, don’t over think things too much, the reason for this or the reason for that. Why don’t you both just try it and see if you like it. If you do, that’s great, if not that’s also fine. Don’t complicate things emotionally. I recommend finding a decent guy on one of the swinging sites. Have a drink or a meeting at a nice hotel and go up to the room for sex. I think you will be pleasantly surprised how much you and your husband like it. It’s certainly going to increases your self confidence and natural sexiness. If you want something to really turbo charge your marriage, this is it. It’s a very exciting thing to do together. Just keep a open mind and see how you go. If you have any questions you can always DM me. Good luck.
I think this is good advice. In the end it is all about more pleasure and more orgasms for the wife.
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, he has recently told me this fantasy of him watching me being fucked by another man. I’m such a stick in the mud, I’m insecure of my body and very inexperienced. This has caused quite the argument in our life, I’m trying to understand how this works and what it means. Any advice anyone can give? I have no fantasy of my own, and I don’t usually have a high sex drive, but I do want to make him happy and fulfilled!
You should start slow, enjoy the conversation with your husband and go at your own pace. He will find it very exciting and you should enjoy his fantasies. Later on you can venture on to following through with someone you guys like. That’s what my wife and I did. I really enjoy watching her get pleasured. It is very exciting!