My progress so far give me your thoughts

Together 4 years f/ Nov 2015 til October 2019.
Started in January & February 2016 getting into each other deeply and passionately having sex. Just dating in
March - May 2016
I found out a guy Jesse was also crazy bout her, & chasinh her in March thru May, but SexyWife said he was only a friend. Also she Flirted a little bit with a guy long distance but stop after April 2016.
For Me I was also dating another Girl which SexyWife called Friday Night Special.
June 2016 we made it official a relationship. Great til April 2017. Them things started to go a little sour in May 2017 Mid June she was saying she didn't feel love from me. A FB Friend Jimmy listen to her trying to be a friend asking her to come out to the bar but she said come to the Casino instead but nothing went further then that she got some compliments from him. July 2017 partly August 2017 her good friend Jessie again was trying to hook up with her knowing we where having problems. She said they were only friends but I saw 2 texts that concern me
Text #1 Jessie said, "it hurts me to see you holding his hand you're playing with my heart.
SexyWife said, look his Mom and Sister is here I have to play the part and if your going to be jealous and controlling ain't got time for that and not going to put up with that shit"
3 weeks later I saw another text #2 SexyWife saying look mama saw us kissing and now I'm going have to explain to her.
Something similar to that. She was planning to move out and leave me she did tell me that. When I confront her on the text she said the 2nd text - that Jesse leaned into her a stole a kiss and it surprised her.
In September 2017 after all that we made up we stay together and work on it til the rest of the year December 2017.
Feeling really close now. In October 2017 we started talking about fantasies and we actually like and dislike the same fantasy's.
At first she okay about MFM threesome until she watched aovie called, "Savage's" and wanted a MFM like that new guy allowed to do it doggie style, no kissing, wear condom and be kinda rough.
In May 2018 We finally completed our top 7 Fantasy's

Late March 2018 Jessie came around & took Lisa to casino quite a bit and she hung around him sometimes.
From February 2018 - August 2018.
I explored different types of fetishes, gather information, ask questions and learned about diff. types of fantasies - how they work very interesting. I showed my SexyWife's pics on different Forums very surprise of all the compliments I got. I was amaze and excited.
In June I Broke up wit her, I jump the gun thinking she was communicating but made up and back together in July 2018

She stay with Jessie for 4 weeks from June 3rd and made me think they were just friends however in 3 weeks he told her you know you can just have sex with me for rent and that pissed her off and she hit him across the face (she said)
That is why I asked her 1st of July to have SexyWife moved back in
September 2018 I received lots of hits on Forums & the website in less than 3 weeks (compliments) on how sexy she & beautiful she was.

Our top 4 favorites
(1) FFM Threesome 1st 30 min's 1on1 while I was waiting to join in I would watch my SexyWife
(3) Sensual Cuckold MFM Threesome (better than a regular MFM threesome
(4) Swinging

September to November got on Website she did surprised me by actually liking the site, so we paid for 3months.

This pissed me off after she got mad at Jesse for saying that mid late June. My upstairs neighbor took SexyWife to casino but she ask her to take her up north to a friend and when they got there. She told neighbor I want you to meet someone this is Jesse and went up and kiss him. Neighbor said wasn't friend kiss more intimate and a bit passionate. She didn't like that and stop talking SexyWife.

In November 2018 she flirted with a guy but nothing develop and notice small lies, like she would tell me someone else brought her home from casino, telling me not going to casino but end up there.

December 2018 we stay lukewarm and cold promise to spend Christmas together after 1:30 I go see boys she ends up at our old bar Jesse & Tabby take be back by 2 ends up staying out til 8:45 I'm upset and I get home at 9:15

January 2019 she's not well I take care of her for 3 days she goes casino to get out Thursday. I'm thinking Friday night will be our night but she says a friend giving her money to gamble leaves at 6pm says be back 8:30 makes it home around 1:45am

Saturday promises to spend some time with me leaves around 10:30 goes to storage, then to meet daughter @ 12 for an 1½ hour then back around 2:00 spend that time til she leaves with her sister at 5:00.

But reality daughter doesn't show but calls dam Jesse invites him to come to casino around 1:00 he gets there at 1:30 and calls me saying Her sister coming she's gotta hurry up I pack her stuff both get there about same time she forgets about spending time and I don't remind her. And had her stuff packed.

January and February not much time with me
Spends with her biker sister and friends and supposedly she calls her best friend biker Jesse that guy she keeps saying nothing happens I know she had to finally give in a bit with kissing him in my opinion.

In February week after Valentine's on a Saturday she had her granddaughter. I went go get the car when I came back at 1:30 to take them out. SexyWife said she found a couple of lice bugs in Trinity's hair and called Jesse bout 3 min's he is on his way to come get us and take her home. I said I'll take y'all call Jesse back she said no he is already coming. Anyway she leaves around 1:45 says will be back in a couple of hours. She says police should up she kept Her daughter from getting her granddaughter and didn't get out of there til 5:00 would not answer my call until 9:00pm
She was at Tabby and Jesse's place chilling sound like she was having a good time then I ask her won't all of y'all come hang out here. She said okay hold we will leave shortly they did but pass my house went to karaoke she told me they were at the Barbi said you forgot to get me she responded I will be home soon this was almost midnight they left and pass my house again to go back to Jesse's and I said what the fuck however she didn't come home tell almost 5am.

Following week later Jesse came over waiting to take her a on a bike ride and I said to him look I know you liked her this whole time and I know what you said to her and told him we are not together and splitting up and told him if you want to be with her go get her! I will step aside, Hell! I would even help you. He left then gone for 30 mins.
SexyWife showed up ready for some wind therapy. Then told me going for a bike run with Jesse. Gone for a couple of hours going to the casino and was Really chilly coming back almost dark around 8:30 sun almost setting in. I was inside I heard the bike and way my window was set up I saw her get off the bike come around where I saw her facing him only seeing the back angle but I could she his face partially she stood there talking for a few minutes then she put her arms around him what look to be kind of intimate. Then leaned in what look like she kissed him bout 2 times which lasted bout 7-10 seconds however not to be bias it also looked like she could of leaned in to whisper something in his ear then kiss him on the cheek but I think she might of kissed him and played it off by saying when she came in that it was cold and hurried up by saying goodbye and coming in. Then told me why you tell Jesse that I would step aside and go for her. I simply said he has been going for you all this time maybe you should give him a chance and go for it. That was the end of that she responded saying we're just friends.
Since then we split up she never told me about a guy she flirted with last summer I found out March we didn't hang out but mid April she spent once a week having sex then in May 2 days a week always having sex and playing with toys then She wanted to for us to get together and move to a another place she moved in with her ex back in late April
The one I took her away from nothing she said was going on but she never talk bout Jesse again. She finally moved back after labor day we have been steady and one last concerned 2 weeks after living with me. On a Sunday I work at a Casino she comes up there with me and after working for almost 2 hours she hadn't come to the poker room so I go look for her and I finally found her playing on a machine with this big guy hanging all over her. So I moved around where I can both of their faces and looks like she's having fun hits a bonus and he is groping her and she hits something good on bonus and for the first time I actually see her leaning in and him kissing each other and having a smile and being relaxed then I walked around behind them and see her leaned in to cuddle next to him. When that happen I decided to walk by and I glanced my eyes to her quickly she did and saw me I kept walking forward and turned away as she was frantically coming to me and said baby he scared me I was scared he wouldn't leave me alone. I told it's okay let me walk u out okay she was so nervous and when she saw me at the moment she was like as white as a ghost and I saw her got so nervous she didn't talk about it when I got home I waited 32 hours to mention it she didn't want to talk about it and said she was scared and I should understand when she was young she was taken advantage of and didn't want to so I had to forget about it since then we have focus on us and got back on the website again and wants to be with me forever strong the last 6 weeks.
I feel like she's afraid to admit anything and keeps saying she has never doe anything what do y'all think?
 
This sounds like years of continuous drama and not very fun for you actually. Maybe it's just me. She ultimately wants to be with someone else but she keeps making bad decisions on who that would be. She will keep looking.

HW
 
So what should I do encourage her to meet more men on Adultxxx dating site. We actually got into that and I found out her Preferences she wanted for a 3rd wheel, definitely wants a Caucasian male circumcised 5'9" -6'4" a few Xtra pounds to average to athletic. Also loves the color of eyes to be Blue,green,or Hazel also girth from average to thick but not too thick and for length (size) from 5"-7" nothing smaller than 5" like 4¾" no go 5" is the smallest and if it was like 7¼" it would depend on how the guy was treating her nice and being respectful.
 
So what should I do encourage her to meet more men on Adultxxx dating site. We actually got into that and I found out her Preferences she wanted for a 3rd wheel, definitely wants a Caucasian male circumcised 5'9" -6'4" a few Xtra pounds to average to athletic. Also loves the color of eyes to be Blue,green,or Hazel also girth from average to thick but not too thick and for length (size) from 5"-7" nothing smaller than 5" like 4¾" no go 5" is the smallest and if it was like 7¼" it would depend on how the guy was treating her nice and being respectful.
I hate to bring this up but you have no relationship. Everything you describe is a mess. Your problems are MUCH deeper than lifestyle issues. I would recommend that you just leave her alone about all of this and take a break. Try to figure out what it is that both of you want. She seems to want a relationship with somebody else, you keep pushing her away, but you're around when she needs support. This isn't the site for you at this point IMHO.

HW
 
doing the same thing over & over while expecting a different result is absolute lunacy. i think she has made her intentions clear. she is going to do what ever she wants & with whom ever she wants & everyone else be damned.

i will also tell you that people do things for their own reasons.

unless, & until, someone gives her a good reason to stop all this drama she will continue without experiencing any regret or recriminations.

good luck.

pete
 
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