My wife won’t fuck anyone else

[Hotwifeinky]

Been trying for about a month to get my wife to fuck someone else. She understands my desire. But she just doesn’t want to. I want to watch her so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

 

[deal201]

Been trying for about a month to get my wife to fuck someone else. She understands my desire. But she just doesn’t want to. I want to watch her so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

Just give her time. Talk about it often. While you're out together point out guys and ask her what she thinks about them. Things like that. She'll come around.

 

[Bobby75]

Just give her time. Talk about it often. While you're out together point out guys and ask her what she thinks about them. Things like that. She'll come around.

It may take years...have some patience. The payoff is worth the effort.

 

[beachescouple]

\You can't force it on to someone else. That's the best way to a quick divorce.

 

[verkitwme]

Took me two years of my husbands prodding before I took the plunge. Wish I had done it sooner....

 

[angstme79]

Took me two years of my husbands prodding before I took the plunge. Wish I had done it sooner....

I've read this same comment on several forums by numerous ladies!! I clearly remember one lady saying she wished she'd have tried being a hotwife right after she got married. She was having such a great time and enjoyed several FWB's that she wanted to kick herself for not starting sooner!! Her husband was happy for her and their marriage got better when she had another guy or two "on the side." Her husband was tickled and didn't want her to stop.

 

[Uncledude55]

Been trying for about a month to get my wife to fuck someone else. She understands my desire. But she just doesn’t want to. I want to watch her so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

I'm going to tell you what you probably don't want to hear (read) and echo some of the other posters. It took me several years to get my wife to try fucking another man while I watched. If you rag her about it, she'll just get turned off by the whole idea. I would talk to her during hot sex (and I usually talked about it during foreplay and while I was fucking her with a toy). I would explain in every little detail what I would like to see her do and tell her how in my fantasy she would be really turned on. I didn't mention it every time we had sex, she needs to know your turned on by her besides wanting to see her fucking other guys. She also needs to know there is absolute trust between you and that you won't get jealous.

If she gets turned on when you talk about it during hot sex at least you know the idea can get her hot. Build on that, take your time, have patience, don't pressure her. Then when she agrees to try, set up a situation where SHE feels comfortable. Communication is the key, and she needs to know that ultimately she is in charge. If she says "no" then "no" is the answer. She might even test you about it. It might take a time or two. The first time my wife agreed to meet another guy and take him to our motel room and fuck him....she hid in the bathroom. I didn't get angry, I didn't show disappointment, I showed support for her. The second time we tried....she went through with it and loved every second of it. On the way home the next day she said if she had known it was that much fun she would have did it years ago. For over 20 years now we've enjoyed a sex life most people only fantasize about. If your serious about this....show allot of trust and patience. I did, and now I'm reaping the benefits !!!

 

[calamarito]

But life is so short, who wanna spend an arbitrary an unknown number of years of his life to convince its partner to try it? With the uncertainty that she will ever wanna try. For me is a pain. Really.

 

[Uncledude55]

But life is so short, who wanna spend an arbitrary an unknown number of years of his life to convince its partner to try it? With the uncertainty that she will ever wanna try. For me is a pain. Really.

If you don't have the patience for it, my advice is keep it a fantasy.

 

[2wheel]

I'm going to tell you what you probably don't want to hear (read) and echo some of the other posters. It took me several years to get my wife to try fucking another man while I watched. If you rag her about it, she'll just get turned off by the whole idea. I would talk to her during hot sex (and I usually talked about it during foreplay and while I was fucking her with a toy). I would explain in every little detail what I would like to see her do and tell her how in my fantasy she would be really turned on. I didn't mention it every time we had sex, she needs to know your turned on by her besides wanting to see her fucking other guys. She also needs to know there is absolute trust between you and that you won't get jealous.

If she gets turned on when you talk about it during hot sex at least you know the idea can get her hot. Build on that, take your time, have patience, don't pressure her. Then when she agrees to try, set up a situation where SHE feels comfortable. Communication is the key, and she needs to know that ultimately she is in charge. If she says "no" then "no" is the answer. She might even test you about it. It might take a time or two. The first time my wife agreed to meet another guy and take him to our motel room and fuck him....she hid in the bathroom. I didn't get angry, I didn't show disappointment, I showed support for her. The second time we tried....she went through with it and loved every second of it. On the way home the next day she said if she had known it was that much fun she would have did it years ago. For over 20 years now we've enjoyed a sex life most people only fantasize about. If your serious about this....show allot of trust and patience. I did, and now I'm reaping the benefits !!!

Every couple is different. I tried the soft approach for what seemed like forever. I picked up the pace and intensity. It went from occasional talk, to nag, to actually almost daily badgering. She finally gave in in an effort shut me up, planning on doing it once, get it over with and move on. Instead she took to it like a duck to water. In the last 18+ months she's had 100+ different men, numerous repeats and 2 GBs.

 

[CaliHusband]

Been trying for about a month to get my wife to fuck someone else. She understands my desire. But she just doesn’t want to. I want to watch her so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

I think you're asking your wife the wrong question. Why don't you ask her what SHE fantasizes about, something she thinks SHE would like to try, and then start there? Maybe she'd be excited to give you a blowjob in a strip club. Maybe she thinks it'd be fun to expose herself to a stranger, and get him turned on. Maybe she's curious about blindfolds and restraints. Maybe she wants to try fucking outdoors in this great weather. Find out what she wants to try....and then, do that.

A woman has to check so many mental boxes to have sex with another man, with her husbands knowledge. Is it going to change his image of her? Is he asking her to do that, so he will have an excuse to fuck other women? Is it going to blow up their relationship? Would he ever use it against her in an argument? There's about 500 more, too. When women sleep around they get called sluts and whores, when men sleep around they get called studs. Think about what you're asking her to do, from her point of view.

And when (if) you get to that point....make sure she has fun with it. Start out with something less intimidating....like, you both go out, and then let her dance by herself, or even sit by herself for a while. Let her flirt a little with other men, and have a good time. It's not intimidating, it's harmless, she'll get a big thrill out of it.

 

[Wifelovermd]

Been trying for about a month to get my wife to fuck someone else. She understands my desire. But she just doesn’t want to. I want to watch her so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

I had this issue keep on trying sowly

 

[hotasianwife2fuck]

But life is so short, who wanna spend an arbitrary an unknown number of years of his life to convince its partner to try it? With the uncertainty that she will ever wanna try. For me is a pain. Really.

Spoken like someone that is and will remain single. Lol

 

[Bobby75]

This has been a really really good week! I'm so happy I tried this different path with the GF. We had sex this morning and resumed our sex talk regime. She went to bed early last night and was waiting for me, but fell asleep before I got there. Anyway, this morning when we started fucking she started with the sex talk - I have to say she's a very good sport about it, although she's always kept it generic.

As I was fucking her doggy style, she started talking about how great it would feel with some other guys cock in her. I know she’s saying these things because she knows it’s what I like.

So I asked her, “what does he look like”? She responded she didn't know - that he wasn't anyone in particular. So I jumped on the opportunity to make it a little more real. I find it always make things hotter if we're thinking about real people, not just some random faceless guy.

I know she had a relationship with a guy with a big dick before we had met, but other than that I didn't know anything about him. I’ve had girlfriends in the past that told me everything about their ex boyfriend/husbands, almost too much. But she’s never talked about any of her ex’s.

So I went to work....

[While fucking her] Hey, that guy you dated before me

• “Yeah?”

The one with the big dick, what was his name?.

• “His name?”

Yeah, what was his name?

• “His name was Andy".

Ah, Andy, I never knew that. And he has a big dick?

• “Yes”

Did you enjoy his dick baby?

• “Yes”

How big was his dick baby?

• “I used both my hands when I sucked it, but he was thinner than you”

I was in heaven. She was actively engaging me in conversation about sex she had with her ex. Her Ex with the big dick no less. Now, I don’t know if everything she said was true, but it is funny how your mind works.

When she said he was thinner, I was disappointed. I mean, I have a 5 inch dick. And I wouldn’t say it’s thick. So this guy must have had one hell of a thin dick if it was 7-8 inches in length. Anyhow, as they say, beggars can’t be choosers. I was just really happy she was engaging me in something more real.

How long did you date?

• “About a year”

Did you fuck a lot during that year, baby?

• “Yes”.

How much?

• “We would get together two or three times a week to fuck”.

Did he fuck you hard?

• “Yes. He would fuck me so hard! – he loved fucking me hard!”

What else did you guys do?

At this point she let loose. She told me he would eat whipped cream off her tits and pussy, and she ate it off his dick. That he loved her tits and thought they were the best he’d ever seen – can’t disagree with that. That he liked to stand in the corner of his bedroom and watch her rub her pussy while he stroked his dick. Told me that he loved to cum all over her tits.

I added to the fantasy saying it would be so hot if she texted him to see how he’s doing now. That they should get together for a drink and catch up. She agreed. She said that he use to send her dick pics which turned her on. And she said we should take some sexy pics in lingerie that she could send back. I suggested a cut off t-shirt so the bottom of her tits are exposed and thin little panties - love that look.

I told her how hot it would be to dress her for a second date with him at his house where they would fuck on his bed. She complied saying she would put on a tight top, no bra, and a miniskirt with no panties. That I could wait in the car for her, and she would leave her phone on so that I could hear them fucking. How he would cum all over her tits and pussy and then I would drive her home.

I was so fucking hard. She was so incredibly wet. Her pussy was dripping. At one point, she asked if we should text him right there. I said YES! But unfortunately she no longer has his number. Not sure if she has any intention of going through with any of it – put she more than played along – it was so hot.

I was very pleased to hear they dated a year. A year is long enough to develop strong feelings for someone. And let's face it - if you're fucking someone for a year, you're likely enjoying their cock and their company.

I say that because I sense that in order for her to take the next step and sleep with another guy she’s going to have to be very comfortable with him. And what’s more comfortable than an ex lover? Much less scary than a stranger – you have a shared history and know what to expect.

We fucked so much this morning, and I was so turned on, but for whatever reason I couldn’t cum. It actually worked out because we laid there stroking and feeling each other and I continued with some deeper conversation on how hot this would be for both of us. And I wanted to appease any fears she might have. She said part of her reluctance was her fear of doing it and regretting it. Or do it and then not want to continue which would disappoint me.

So I did my best to alleviate her fears. Told her we are in this together. That I wouldn’t push her any faster than she was willing to go. That I wanted for us to be together forever, financially, emotionally, and sexually. And this adventure would be for the both of us and it would be outside of our emotional bond.

Then she said something that BLEW my mind. She said, “I know you’ve wanted this for a while, and I’m sorry I haven’t been more engaged with making this a reality for you”. She said she started doing research. AND, the research suggested that she should masturbate regularly and when she does, to disassociate me with the masturbation so that when she does have sex with another guy, it’s for sex and pleasure only! What!!!? Are you freaken kidding me!? She’s actively psyching herself up for it. So bloody happy right now.

Little by little. I asked her to find some porn that she likes for our next romp. Next step is to find this guys contact and hopefully have her reach out to him when i get her good and wet thinking about his cock the next time.

Such a good morning, day, week

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Happy for you. I remember when my wife told me she had been doing research on hotwifing. It blew my mind !! We are well on our way which I think you too shall be soon !!
Her last encounter !! Amazing !!

 

[goodtogo]

Been trying for about a month to get my wife to fuck someone else. She understands my desire. But she just doesn’t want to. I want to watch her so bad. Anyone else have this problem?

Its common for them to refuse at first. It's a matter of confusing a love relationship with raw sexual desire. They are completely different. She needs to know that. First thing you should look at is your relationship with her, because if you two are emotionally closed off to each other you will never convince her. Start listening to her, really listen! She will feel and be much more connected to you. She needs to feel your love for her. If that's not in place, she will just feel like you are using her. Once you have established that type of closeness, she will relax, open up and be honest with you. Then you two can exchange sexual fantisies. She should be the one doing most of the fantasizing, telling you what turns HER on. Once she begins telling you her fantisies, her imagination and juices will begin to flow. Every woman has fantasized about being fucked by two guys, or taken by a stranger and fucked good. Sexual fantisy starts in the mind. It's in everyone of us. Your task is to get her there. She needs to feel like she is the sexiest and hottest woman on the planet to you. That really turns them on. She may shrug it off in the beginning, but don't give up. She WILL respond if you're sincere and consistent. When you get her to the point where she begins to share her fantisies with you, tell her it turns you on. Ask her simple questions, like, have you every fantised about two men or more at the same time. assure her that it turns you on when she is. Before you know it, she will agree to try it. If you are serious about getting her there, it's going to take some work on your part. If you need any help, messege me. I'm help you lay the groundwork.

 

[goodtogo]

How long have you been together and how old are you two? There may need some reconstruction to be done.

 

[goodtogo]

I posted this in another topic area....

I have the same issue. I've had the same fantasy for 3-4, maybe 5 years now. It's been fustrating to say the least. She's very much into dirty talk during sex. When i talk about another guy fucking her during sex she's all over it. Says how much she would love it. Engages me in the dirty talk conversation. For example how great it would be to have another guy cum all over her tits.

A few years ago on my 45th birthday we visited a sex club - she's 9 years younger than me. Her idea! She found it, and took me there. She's not shy. She walked around that sex club pretty much naked. We even had sex together in the 'couples room". Again she was completely naked sucking my dick and then sat on my dick when there were other people around us having sex. So shortly after that experience having returned from vacation i started getting agressive with the dirty talk conversation, ie: how i wanted to bring this to a reality - find her a bull. She started to get emotional - next thing you know tears. So frustrating! I thought we were so close.

After that experience i was turned off. I didn't even want to have sex with her anymore. I feel like she had been leading me on. Needless to say the sex has been a lot less frequent. And no more dirty talk. I know it wasn't the best move - but somehow, i thought, maybe if i deprive her of sex she'll either dump me, or cheat on me. The cheating would have been great.

Well, that hasn't worked either. So, after many months of either very limited sex or vanilla sex, I started the sex talk again a few nights ago. I read a hotwife blog written by a hotwife, and she suggested that the only way to get a wife to take the plunge is to lead her there by making her feel confident and sexy so she'll want to be a hotwife, and being open with each others wants and needs. Start with porn etc. and continue with a diet of videos in the 2 guys and a girl genre.

Anyway, she was very receptive again during the dirty talk sex. I was very explicit telling her how important this was for me and how i would love for her to join me in this adventure. We even watched a couple MFM vidos (sensual ones) while we had sex. It really turn her on. Again, very receptive, saying how she would love to have a threesome. Meet a guy in a hotel and then bring him back to our room. She even said she was looking for another sex club in spain (we were planning a vacation in may that didn't happen - thanks covid!). I actually was surprised and delighted when she told me). She mentioned she would love to bring a girl into our sex play, she said how increadibly hot it would be to press their breasts together! I suggested we set up an online profile together and find some guys we both like. She said how hot it would be to text a guy back and forth!!! She really responded to the video i chose and watched it intensly - said things like "yeah, fuck her pussy", "she must be so wet with those two guys", while she watched.

So i think she's moving in the right direction. It's just not fast enough for me. I was really hoping that the next day she would bring up our conversation. Maybe say, "hey, remember that conversation we had last night? That was incredibly hot! Do you want to play around on Match.com?" But she hasn't said anything. She's either super hot, and wet, and into it when sex is happing. But then goes cold when we're out of the bedroom.

She's so hot, and i really want to share her. If Sunny Leone and Jenaveve Jolie had a love child - that's what she looks like, maybe with an extra 20 lbs. She has beautiful natural breasts. I've never made her cum by fucking her - only with my mouth. I know she could easily take a bigger cock and really enjoy it. She mentioned early on in our relationship she had a short relationship with a guy with a big dick, and i don't remember her saying she hated it!!

I feel like it's a little like skydiving. It's so scary when that plane door opens, but when your chute opens and you glide down to the ground you wonder why the hell you hadn't done this sooner. You want to do it again right away! I feel like if I can just get her comfortable enough to take that leap, there'd be no holding her back.

Although it's frustrating at times (most times), i feel it has to be a slow and deliberate approach. Further to CaliHusband's points, there is a book called the "etical slut" which i hope to have both of us read. It's apparently a good book to have your wife/gf deprogram all the crap about sex with multiple partners being dirty or unethical.

To all the frustrated cucks out there, stay strong and good luck in your journeys

Very good. The person being selected should have the ability to stimulate her mind. My favorite thing to do is to make them cum just by talking to them. I have had a lot of success. I suppose I like to do this because it's such a turn on to me. I dont simply tell them how hot they are, or how big my cock is. It's much more than that. I love stimulating a woman's sexual imagination!

 

[goodtogo]

Thanks goodtogo, that's a very good point. I'd love to learn more about how you stimulate their imagination? I think it would also be benfical in convincing her to want to be seduced and taken by another man

I would be glad to help. So you have or do you know what kik is?