Need advice on first mfm

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My wife and I have never had a mfm threesome and we are looking to have our first possibly this week. We are getting away for a night to a local resort/casino. My thought it to have my wife dress sexy and have her sit at the bar to hopefully get hit on. Anyone have luck with the method? How should the topic come up with the potential guy? Is it better to be blunt up front and explain right away what we’re looking for? My wife previously has said she would gladly come right out to a guy and basically say “would you like me to suck your cock while my husband watches?” Any advice would be great! We’re super excited to give this a shot.
 
My wife and I have never had a mfm threesome and we are looking to have our first possibly this week. We are getting away for a night to a local resort/casino. My thought it to have my wife dress sexy and have her sit at the bar to hopefully get hit on. Anyone have luck with the method? How should the topic come up with the potential guy? Is it better to be blunt up front and explain right away what we’re looking for? My wife previously has said she would gladly come right out to a guy and basically say “would you like me to suck your cock while my husband watches?” Any advice would be great! We’re super excited to give this a shot.
It’s best you pre arrange this on an adult website with a bull if your wife’s choosing.
 
My wife and I have never had a mfm threesome and we are looking to have our first possibly this week. We are getting away for a night to a local resort/casino. My thought it to have my wife dress sexy and have her sit at the bar to hopefully get hit on. Anyone have luck with the method? How should the topic come up with the potential guy? Is it better to be blunt up front and explain right away what we’re looking for? My wife previously has said she would gladly come right out to a guy and basically say “would you like me to suck your cock while my husband watches?” Any advice would be great! We’re super excited to give this a shot.
My wife and I started this way. And my advise to you is you both go to a bar and have your wife look more conservative - but wear a blouse with buttons that show a little cleavage. Then you keep walking away pretending to answer phone calls, and let other guys move in. And when your wife decides a certain guy is the right guy, have her subtly open one more button on her blouse to show a little more cleavage. And then when she believs he's the right guy to play with - wait for him to ask her to go to his room, place, whatever, but have her say her husband needs to come along - and he's ok with this - or something like that to make the guy feel at ease. It works.
 
It’s best you pre arrange this on an adult website with a bull if your wife’s choosing.
Disagree. We don't prearrange anything. But we're not a cucking type relationship either. We let things happen to see if there is anyone May wants to play with. It's totally open and she may (no pun intended) or may not find someone. If not, she and I go back to the room and fuck our brains out.
 
My wife and I started this way. And my advise to you is you both go to a bar and have your wife look more conservative - but wear a blouse with buttons that show a little cleavage. Then you keep walking away pretending to answer phone calls, and let other guys move in. And when your wife decides a certain guy is the right guy, have her subtly open one more button on her blouse to show a little more cleavage. And then when she believs he's the right guy to play with - wait for him to ask her to go to his room, place, whatever, but have her say her husband needs to come along - and he's ok with this - or something like that to make the guy feel at ease. It works.
That's pretty much our recipe. May will wear a white silk top without a bra on. Her big nipples poking through the material, and some cleavage, attract a lot of attention. Also she is usually about the only Asian woman in most places! If she finds someone to play with, she'll dance with him as he explores her body on the dance floor. At some point I'll stand nearby to find my opening to let the guy know I'm her husband, but May is available to be fucked. Generally works pretty well.
 
If this is your first time doing something like this be prepared for her to get really, really turned on and she'll probably do things with him you wont expect.
That's how it was for us and still is. We are mid 50s, very conservative, classy. We do this with a guy we know pretty regularly now. You'd never belive our sex fun with him if you met us. My wife gets so horny when he's with us. We take turns doing her till him and I are beat.
Have fun but you might see a whole different side of her.
 
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If this is your first time doing something like this be prepared for her to get really, really turned on and she'll probably do things with him you wont expect.
That's how it was for us and still is. We are mid 50s, very conservative, classy. We do this with a guy we know pretty regularly now. You'd never belive our sex fun with him if you met us. My wife gets so horny when he's with us. We take turns doing her till him and I are beat.
Have fun but you might see a whole different side of her.
I’m definitely expecting this. When we role play and watch mfm porn now, she is typically dripping wet. From the time I mentioned this as a fantasy of mine she said she has never been this wet before. She is extremely turned on by all of it. Although she is hesitant and wants to make sure I’m ok with everything that could happen. (Which of course I am) I told her a couple cocktails to loosen the inhibitions will work wonders I’m sure.
 
My advice is to try not to write the script too much. It's hard not to think about it, but remind yourself that it can go VERY differently and be ready for that.

Try to avoid expectations that it will even happen at all. A lot of things have to come together. When you're horny stroking your cock to the thoughts of it, it's hard to imagine that it wouldn't happen if she's putting it out there. But real life isn't like that. Guys can be skittish. Sex is supposed to be an effort and if it's too easy, red flags kick in. Throw in a husband, and a lot of guys can get scared off. Take it slow, make them work for it in a natural way. The more effort they put into it, the more "hooked" they'll be. And once they're hooked, not just considering it, but really prepared to close, then she can mention that it's going to be different than he was maybe expecting.
That's how it played out with my ex. She tried to seduce a contractor, but he was scared off by that. When she finally did it, it was more organic, she was casually flirting, not dressed too naughty or outlandish, and the flirting in a bar setting just slowly escalated. At one point, they were dancing and he'd let his hand slide down and fondle her ass, she'd respond by pushing into him and resting her head on his shoulder.

After several hours of this, they walked together out to the lobby area of the restaurant/bar and she motioned me with her head to come over there. When I got there, they were holding hands and he was beaming. He told me "Your wife wants to go back with me to my hotel room, and she said you'd be OK with it?"
"Absolutely", I told him smiling. She leaned over and whispered in his ear, and he was taken aback for a couple beats, then said, "Oh. She says she wants us ALL to go to my hotel room." He was only slightly unsettled by this, and recovered quickly, back to smiling. "I guess that could be fun!" and it was on!

No way to know for sure, but I suspect if she had opened with being DTF and especially if she threw it out there early that her husband was part of the deal, he could have been scared off. But by the time she sprung it on him, he was hungry as hell for her pussy, and it was one helluva hot night for all of us.
 
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If you're going to do it that way then definitely be upfront out of the gate otherwise it could end badly and be a huge waste of time. To be honest you would be better off just bringing one of your buddies with you to the casino for a night and just have a MFM with him.
 
That's pretty much our recipe. May will wear a white silk top without a bra on. Her big nipples poking through the material, and some cleavage, attract a lot of attention. Also she is usually about the only Asian woman in most places! If she finds someone to play with, she'll dance with him as he explores her body on the dance floor. At some point I'll stand nearby to find my opening to let the guy know I'm her husband, but May is available to be fucked. Generally works pretty well.
Perfect reply - we do the same thing. Well said.
 
Different people will use different ways to find the third person in a threesome. As long as you are safe they are all good. We have found a restaurant bars or with other swingers. Occasionally someone in our inner circle. I do agree dressing conservative over slutty works better and you'll get a better man. Lay down the rules ahead of time. What the third is allowed to do. I would say no pictures. One night of a fun MFM shouldn't come back to bite you.

I have had several MFM. I bull fucking me from behind while I suck hubby. I can almost tell when I walk in a room who I can approach.
 
That's pretty much our recipe. May will wear a white silk top without a bra on. Her big nipples poking through the material, and some cleavage, attract a lot of attention. Also she is usually about the only Asian woman in most places! If she finds someone to play with, she'll dance with him as he explores her body on the dance floor. At some point I'll stand nearby to find my opening to let the guy know I'm her husband, but May is available to be fucked. Generally works pretty well.
We use good quality city hotels mid week where you get lots of middle age business men staying overnight. My husband is one of them and I join him, do a day’s shopping and meet him in the bar. I’m often in the bar waiting for him when he gets back and usually never fail to get chatting to a couple of cute guys before he gets there. They get I’m flirting with his permission, and we’ve had some great fun, only a few failures.
And, as someone has said, I get so horny it’s difficult to describe, I love it! And my husband gets the hardest erections imaginable 😊
 
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I see that you opted for a swinger’s club visit, vs. trying the pick-up game at a bar… that works, more or less guarantee of sex in that sort of venue.

That being said, my wife KK and I have played variations of the pick-up game for years. It’s fun, erotic, sexy and an adventure, with lots of opportunity for variety in how the scenarios work.

One of our favorites is the “cheating wife” pick-up scenario. For us, it is a form of real-life role-play and fantasy fulfillment.

The basic idea is KK plays the role of a wife seeking revenge on her cheating husband, by giving him a “taste of his own medicine.”

She dresses to the nines in an outfit that is what I generally call “business sexy,” appropriate for a mature woman, classy, a little attention getting, sexy enough to attract the right amount of attention.

We go to whatever venue we’re going to use, almost always a luxury hotel, a facility with a bar/lounge area. We do early check-in to get the hotel suite situated.

Following that, we enter the bar separately, several minutes apart - this presents the illusion that KK’s solo, hunting on her own.

We have a set of pre-arranged signals based on KK’s interest in a guy, the progress, and where things are headed as the seduction develops. Basically KK chats up men that approach her - when she finds someone that she clicks with, they are usually seated together, where KK leads the way with suggestive conversation.

If things are right, KK will excuse herself for a few moments to visit the ladies room - she returns to her target sans panties, having removed them and tucked them into her handbag. When I see her return to the table, I countdown a few minutes, then approach, playing the role of a random stranger interested in an attractive woman.

As she closes the deal, KK will make the bold move of retrieving her panties from the handbag, and place them on the table in front of us, with the simple ask; “Come up to my suite, I’d like the two of you to fuck me…”

We’ve played out dozens of these scenarios over the year, ranging from “accidental” seduction and fucking, to being open with the guy as husband and wife, where I ask the question, along the lines of “My wife would love to experience your hard cock… interested?”

Always a hot outcome. We’ve had maybe two guys turn down the opportunity, which isn’t bad odds.
 
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I see that you opted for a swinger’s club visit, vs. trying the pick-up game at a bar… that works, more or less guarantee of sex in that sort of venue.

That being said, my wife KK and I have played variations of the pick-up game for years. It’s fun, erotic, sexy and an adventure, with lots of opportunity for variety in how the scenarios work.

One of our favorites is the “cheating wife” pick-up scenario. For us, it is a form of real-life role-play and fantasy fulfillment.

The basic idea is KK plays the role of a wife seeking revenge on her cheating husband, by giving him a “taste of his own medicine.”

She dresses to the nines in an outfit that is what I generally call “business sexy,” appropriate for a mature woman, classy, a little attention getting, sexy enough to attract the right amount of attention.

We go to whatever venue we’re going to use, almost always a luxury hotel, a facility with a bar/lounge area. We do early check-in to get the hotel suite situated.

Following that, we enter the bar separately, several minutes apart - this presents the illusion that KK’s solo, hunting on her own.

We have a set of pre-arranged signals based on KK’s interest in a guy, the progress, and where things are headed as the seduction develops. Basically KK chats up men that approach her - when she finds someone that she clicks with, they are usually seated together, where KK leads the way with suggestive conversation.

If things are right, KK will excuse herself for a few moments to visit the ladies room - she returns to her target sans panties, having removed them and tucked them into her handbag. When I see her return to the table, I countdown a few minutes, then approach, playing the role of a random stranger interested in an attractive woman.

As she closes the deal, KK will make the bold move of retrieving her panties from the handbag, and place them on the table in front of us, with the simple ask; “Come up to my suite, I’d like the two of you to fuck me…”

We’ve played out dozens of these scenarios over the year, ranging from “accidental” seduction and fucking, to being open with the guy as husband and wife, where I ask the question, along the lines of “My wife would love to experience your hard cock… interested?”

Always a hot outcome. We’ve had maybe two guys turn down the opportunity, which isn’t bad odds.
Excellent post. Way to go.