Need some advice

So me and the wife have been living in this secret world for a couple yrs now and we’ve ups and down like most ppl. But here recently she’s lost interest in hotwifing. Maybe stress is effecting her mood. She says she doesn’t have the drive I do and doesn’t want it as much as me. But I know that I push her too much and often. I’m going to try and ease up to let her have space. Surely someone else has dealt with this. Advice ??