I would love to hear updates from those who have talked to their wife/gf about her being a hotwife but have not yet taken the plunge. I thought I could convince my wife in a few weeks but now I know it may take a year or more. Hopefully not, but either way I have learned to move at her pace. Pushing too fast is a big turn off and helps me too, because I have sometimes had second thoughts. I'm curious to hear from others.
We have been married ten years, sex life has always been great, and we have often flirted with the idea of adding a third. It's always been playful sexy talk, but has turned more serious in the past few months when we talked about her fucking another guy instead of bringing in a girl. We are both straight but open-minded, kinky, and like the idea of adding some extra spice.
We have started/stopped the conversation many times. She brought up my fucking another girl (something we have always joked about) and honestly I would consider it only if it is something she wanted, but I told her "no" because I dont want that to distract from my want, which is her pleasure and fantasy fulfillment. We have gone everywhere from steamy hot talks where I thought she would say "Yes, let's do it," to a hard "No, I don't want to." At least two times when she said "no" I was planning to drop it and be content with just the fantasy. But then it keeps coming up, often initiated by her which let's me know she is thinking about it.
Neither of us are fast cummers. Minus foreplay, etc. we both need about 5-10 minutes of hard fucking to climax. However, the other night when she was riding me she came hard in less than one minute. She has cum fast a few times before, but never ever that fast. The next day I asked who she was thinking about (hoping to spark the fantasy again) and she just laughed. I think most people have a celebrity crush. One of my wife's is Jason Statham (don't ask, lol), so I asked if she was thinking of him and she again laughed in a flirty way then said "You will always be the only one in my heart" which I took as "Yes," she was thinking of fucking someone else while on top of me which made her cum faster than usual. I would have pressed into it but the timing was bad.
She has asked a few times before, "Would you be ok with me fucking another guy?" and I said "yes" to reassure her that's it's just sex and for her pleasure. One time she said it feels like cheating and I responded by saying it's not cheating if we both know about it, which I truly believe. Some of the best advice I got while on this journey is dont become a spokesperson for hotwifing when trying to convince your partner. She has to feel it's her choice, and I want my lovely wife to feel that way as well. So I drop little nuggets without pushing too hard.
Anyway, this and other hints along with the fact that it keeps coming up is a sign of progress. She has been buying more lingerie and allows me to take sexy, sometimes nude pics of her, something she has never done before. And our already active sex life has kicked up a few notches since flirting with the idea. I don't know how long it will take, but if we ever take the leap it will be worth the wait!
We have been married ten years, sex life has always been great, and we have often flirted with the idea of adding a third. It's always been playful sexy talk, but has turned more serious in the past few months when we talked about her fucking another guy instead of bringing in a girl. We are both straight but open-minded, kinky, and like the idea of adding some extra spice.
We have started/stopped the conversation many times. She brought up my fucking another girl (something we have always joked about) and honestly I would consider it only if it is something she wanted, but I told her "no" because I dont want that to distract from my want, which is her pleasure and fantasy fulfillment. We have gone everywhere from steamy hot talks where I thought she would say "Yes, let's do it," to a hard "No, I don't want to." At least two times when she said "no" I was planning to drop it and be content with just the fantasy. But then it keeps coming up, often initiated by her which let's me know she is thinking about it.
Neither of us are fast cummers. Minus foreplay, etc. we both need about 5-10 minutes of hard fucking to climax. However, the other night when she was riding me she came hard in less than one minute. She has cum fast a few times before, but never ever that fast. The next day I asked who she was thinking about (hoping to spark the fantasy again) and she just laughed. I think most people have a celebrity crush. One of my wife's is Jason Statham (don't ask, lol), so I asked if she was thinking of him and she again laughed in a flirty way then said "You will always be the only one in my heart" which I took as "Yes," she was thinking of fucking someone else while on top of me which made her cum faster than usual. I would have pressed into it but the timing was bad.
She has asked a few times before, "Would you be ok with me fucking another guy?" and I said "yes" to reassure her that's it's just sex and for her pleasure. One time she said it feels like cheating and I responded by saying it's not cheating if we both know about it, which I truly believe. Some of the best advice I got while on this journey is dont become a spokesperson for hotwifing when trying to convince your partner. She has to feel it's her choice, and I want my lovely wife to feel that way as well. So I drop little nuggets without pushing too hard.
Anyway, this and other hints along with the fact that it keeps coming up is a sign of progress. She has been buying more lingerie and allows me to take sexy, sometimes nude pics of her, something she has never done before. And our already active sex life has kicked up a few notches since flirting with the idea. I don't know how long it will take, but if we ever take the leap it will be worth the wait!
Last edited:
