I have tried to get the wife to step out for years with no success. She got around a good bit before we married, and then we had kids and it just turned into the monogamous boring relationship. Here the past year or so the sex has been almost non existent. I just gave up on it happening. Lately she seems a little different, she's lost a little weight and is looking prime. Has had a time or two lately where she was gone for a few hours here and there that made me a little suspicious. She's had a beach trip planned with our girls and her sister for a while now. The week before she changes plans and is having her sister take our kids and she will meet them there a couple of days later while she goes with some tennis friends to a different beach for a couple of days. Just seems a bit off to me. Seems she has been more guarded with her phone as of late as well. I just. Noticed that the lube is in with her toiletries. Maybe she has had it in the bag for a while now, I don't know. It's not like we have been using it and I needed to look for it. What are your opinions of what's going on?