Overcoming sexual agony

No doubt fucking is the ultimate pleasure to end sexual act between man and woman.
Unfortunately some can't end it that way.
There are young and old men and women who could not or don't like or hate dick penetration fucking.
How do such people handle their mind's or body's sexual urge?
What is their best one or more act (masturbate, suck, dirty talk, watch others or other things) that would help to release tension and easy to happiness and normality.