I am the wife answering this question. My first lover and I had a chemistry that even our friends could see. The sex with him and Diver was amazing and the sex with some of our friends was good but not as intense. Over the years I have had a few lovers where we had a “chemistry” and it made for incredible sex
Quality of sex when wife has emotional connection with other man vs someone new?
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The chemistry you speak of is where my hotwife always says it was incredible. Over the years she has mostly focused on finding and keeping those best relationships…her current will b 3 years in spring. And there connection is strong that they are doing a week in the Caribbean in the spring. And they are an interracial couple so they will fully enjoy their relationship making new friends. I will await whatever photos or stories she wishes to share. But for that week I will b in total cuck life thinking all the time about what they are up to.
My experience is that men can separate sex from their hearts. Women tend to have their pussy tied to their hearts. Of course, that's a generalization, and your mileage may vary.
We currently have 3 long term guys who I fuck.And often my husband will let me do my "pub" routine where he watches me get chatted up from across the room then comes and joins us if I give him the "this one please nod".
It's hard finding guys that are OK with the stag/vixen ..hotwife life.
Then you have to get to know them make sure they are clean etc..which takes time.
And you would be surprised of the amount of men who are not into threesomes.
But when I fuck of our regulars ,there is a connection of course there is ,it's a mixture of lust and excitement and pure sexual adrenaline.
Plus my husband thinks of them as friends and we often go out all together for a drink and a laugh.
He is always involved and 9 out of 10 times joins in .He likes to see me go wild and as he calls it "cock ......".
But I only love my husband,the guys are just like sex toys to me .I like cock xx 😈
It's hard finding guys that are OK with the stag/vixen ..hotwife life.
Then you have to get to know them make sure they are clean etc..which takes time.
And you would be surprised of the amount of men who are not into threesomes.
But when I fuck of our regulars ,there is a connection of course there is ,it's a mixture of lust and excitement and pure sexual adrenaline.
Plus my husband thinks of them as friends and we often go out all together for a drink and a laugh.
He is always involved and 9 out of 10 times joins in .He likes to see me go wild and as he calls it "cock ......".
But I only love my husband,the guys are just like sex toys to me .I like cock xx 😈
If they are Alive walking talking sex toys do you ever get more than one of them at the same time?
What about a friend with benefits that's in between boyfriend and fuck buddy
My second lover was my boss for almost three years and again we had a chemistry at the time Diver only knew I fucked him once a week but it was usually like 3-4 times. Before you ask no Diver didn't suffer his office mate was a very attractive lady and he got into her pants several times a week as well. I only stopped fucking him when Diver and I decided to have children. There was a very strong chemistry between Diver and his office mate and some how she got pregnant at the same time. We found out later she cut off her husband until she was pregnant.
my wife had 2 regular guys. one was my best friend and her first guy we shared her with. after the 3rd time we all hooked up they had their own routine. Our other regular guy was a young guy who worked for me. He was her favorite. He used her like he owned her. I remember one night I woke up to the sound of my wife screaming and he was hitting it from behind so hard I thought he was hurting her. I asked her if she was all right? She said Oh god yes.. I don't want him to stop. He didn't. Many times I would tell him to stop at my house when I sent him out for parts and when he came back ,he would fill me in how he fucked her. They really had a attraction.
Nothing wrong with that my hotwife has 3 regulars .She and i love the pub pick.up its not a three some she likes the seduction sometimes itd her doing it or him and she will sometimes encourage it one of regulars happened that way
our regular guys became friends. our guys had wifes or girl friends so they were very discrete. If we were out with one of them we almost always went back home and invited them to join us. Sometimes My wife would ride back to our house with them. I enjoyed that. I would see them climb in the car or truck and first thing they would do is a mini make out session . She would always go down on them as they drove to our house and many times they would have another Mini make out session when they pulled into our driveway. ( I have no doubt some of our neighbors caught that act)
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I have the same experience. Sex with her steady lover (with whom she fell in love) was extremely beautiful to watch.
We figured out RIGHT AWAY that I was not capable of bieng hubbies private porn star!! I absolutely HATED him being there, directing things, asking stupid questions, interrupting the flow, etc. Even though I LOVED having extramarital Lovers, we stopped because I couldn't do this with him present.
Then, a guy at work started paying more attention to me than was needed, and the rest is FANTASTIC history!! He was my first affair alone without hubby present, I could relax and focus on him and US and WOW was I in heaven!!!
I need an emotionsl connection with my Lovers too, and I need to be able to express igt intimately in a way I simply can't do with hubby there. I have to LIKE them before I can have sex and eventually I definitely am "in love" to some extent with long term Lovers. Admittedly, this can be a bit risky.....there have been two that I seriously considered ending our marriage for but even hubby will admit that the intensifies the sexcitement of this lifestyle!!
Most of my affairs last 6 months to a year, usually ending because their wives are asking about ALL the overtime they are suddenly working!! LOL
Hubby is very accomodating of my time and lust for my Lovers and we let my Lovers think he is not aware of the affair, I am just not getting what I need at home, so if they are available I am also. That means 2-3 nights a week they are "working overtime", and maybe on the weekend too. My longest and most intense and satisfying affair has been with my Boss/Lover; it lasted almost 11 years and only ended because of the pandemic (he got VERY strange during the pandemic, lots of people did). We still work together fine, but the sexual affair ended in 2020.
I definitely needed that ability to be alone with my Lovers for this to work for me. J (the wife)
Every guy who thinks he wants to be cuckolded by his wife ought to read your post and think about it, as well as what it is that he really wants over the long term. Initially, it may start with a fantasy to.....make a video, maybe? Or simple watch her get laid? That's candaulism, not cuckold. I think (just personal opinion) that many wives are more than willing (min was!) to make a video with another man for hubby, it can be great fun! But then what? To get to the real essence of "sharing" her and deriving our own not insignificant pleasure and satisfaction from her affection for another man, we will have to give of ourselves and help our wife create the conditions that will allow her to get to the best of what a sharing arrangement can yield.
"Sharing" our wives means giving up a great deal of control, both in terms of sex in our marriage and in terms of spending time with our wife - we can't be going out to dinner with her, or traveling with her if she's traveling with her boss, or in bed with her lover all weekend in his condo. My wife and I talked extensively about this, she was really better equipped for it. But she was in tears telling me she'd developed feelings for her BF and wanted to spend more time with him. Without me with them. Without me controlling it all. i.e., on her terms if we were to continue. And she'd be willing to end her relationship with him right then if it was too much for me, but if I wanted to go forward there would be no turning back. And she was going to tell him I knew about it all, and wanted it to continue. I couldn't say "yes" fast enough. I was 39 at the time. We are still married 30 years later. And we have lots of sexy great stories..... 🤣🤣🤣
My wife has two guys who are primarily her regulars, but one of them is clearly her favorite. I would have to say that there is an emotional attachment between the two of them. They don't see each other outside of our bedroom, but when they are there together the sparks do fly. I asked her once if she loved him, and she responded that she doesn't love him like she loves me. I asked her what that meant and she told me that he is very special to her, and that he is able to stimulate and satisfy her sexually like no one else can, and that she loves that he can do that, so she loves being with him. I asked her if that means she loves him, and she said that she loves him while she's with him.
And isn’t that what a loving husband would want for his wife?
Been there, done all of that!! I was eliminated from participating VERY early on.........I admit I was bothering her, trying to control the action, asking dumb questions, directing things, encouraging conversations she wasn't yet ready to engage in.......she said she felt like my personal porn star and if I insisted on being there, she would stop meeting others. Since then, all of her Lovers have assumed I was not aware and she was having the affair because her needs weren't being met at home.............it worked WELL for her/us and I have to admit, her level of enjoyment and intensity ramped WAY up after I stopeed being there.
It did result in a big loss of control, and time spent together.........but well worth it in the long run. Once her affair with her Boss/Lover FINALLY happened (long story), she spent a significant amount of time traveling "for business" (it was, but they incirporated FUN into it also!!) and the company was a HUGE success as a result. Their affair lasted almost 11 years and he never knew I was aware....he would not have been comfortable knowing either.
She eventually got comfortable telling me I was "cut off" sexually after a few Lovers........I enjoyed being cut off, and she got to enjoy informing me, LOL. As well as cancelled plans last minute, holidays spent away, rescheduled vacations because something came up at work that required her to go with her Boss.Lover instead, "working late at the Lake House" which was code for we both got horny at work and I will be home LATE, decisions like stopping ANY pretense of birth control with him because they would love for a pregnancy to happen......WOW, the intensity of those discussions!! Does make for some GREAT stories over the years!! LOL
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We get with our friend pretty regularly. My wife very obviously likes sex with him. They kiss a LOT, caress each other, do oral on each other, they have slow sensual sex and they fuck hard and fast sometimes. He's younger and has a bigger dick. She's never said anything about him or how she enjoys sex with him that would make me feel bad.
He's a nice guy, divorced, has an ex and a family. He's responsible. I'm sure that's a big part of it for her.
We only see him for sex fun. We don't socialize with him. We really don't talk about him other than when we'll contact him for a visit.
WHILE he's with us she's VERY into him. Its just sex fun for us.
He's a nice guy, divorced, has an ex and a family. He's responsible. I'm sure that's a big part of it for her.
We only see him for sex fun. We don't socialize with him. We really don't talk about him other than when we'll contact him for a visit.
WHILE he's with us she's VERY into him. Its just sex fun for us.
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