She's not quite ready to tell you she loves him. Your wife wants to be sure you can handle it, as it's a big step.
Quality of sex when wife has emotional connection with other man vs someone new?
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Since I wrote that response, she told me that she loves him. I asked her if that means that our marriage is over, and she told me definitely not. She told me that she loves me and wants to stay married to me, but that she wants him to be a part of her life too. She said that he's really good in bed and that she likes being with him. I'm not sure what all of this means yet, I'm still processing it. In the mean time he is certainly keeping my wife sexually satisfied, and I'm happy about that.
I have heard these exact words. And it worked out well, for years. I was relieved and happy that my wife was confident enough in our marriage to say these things and that she was enjoying the sex with him, much more than sex with me. She didn't need to humiliate me, it was implied. And I loved it. For 9 years while it was happening. It only ended when he moved away after he retired.
"It only ended when he moved away after he retired."
By "it" I'm hoping you mean her relationship with her lover, and not your marriage.
Yes, you are correct. He was a regular in our bed, such that I'd moved some of my things to the guest bedroom for those "special" nights. He had a key to our house, but we asked him to always let us know if he was going to visit so that we could deal with family if they were visiting. It wasn't often, but in those instances he started in the guest bedroom alone and moved into our bed with my wife later in the night while I moved out. That's how my wife's sister discovered our secret, she unexpectedly fell asleep on our couch one evening and woke up when my wife and her BF were just emerging from the bedroom. She was cool with it though, she actually envied my wife.
Dang....it's not like that for us at all.
We have fun but I sure as hell don't spend the night in our guest room.
Well as they say: "different speeds for different needs." I found that there's few things hotter than when my wife visits me in the middle of spending the night with him. She loves me and sometimes brings me a special treat. Not always, though. "There's nights when I just want to be his," she says.
Since I posted that message we've had several conversations on the topic, and I'm feeling much better. Hearing her say that she loved another man was a little shocking, and maybe a little arousing too. But we've talked about it and I think this will work out. In a sense, nothing is changing. She's had these feeling for him fo a long time and things have been great. I don't see why it would change now just because I know her true feelings. I'm happy that he's in her life because of his ability to keep her sexually happy and fulfilled. Those are things that she deserves, but that I'm just not able to give her.
I almost always spend the night in the guest bedroom when my wife's lover is with her. I love it. I love hearing their moans, his thrusting, and their orgasms. Hearing my wife cum multiple times is a real turn-on. When I hear her lover moaning and I don't hear any sound from her, I know she is worshiping his cock. When I hear him cum, I know she is drinking his cum load. I love all of this from the guest bedroom.
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