Sexting wife. Where did it go wrong? What next?

[wunderland]

Looking for some advice. I told my wife of my desires around 2 years ago which was nervewracking. She took it really well and after a couple days of deliberation she admitted the idea was a turnon and that we could start slowly in chatrooms and exposing her. We both enjoyed the experience although it was a little hit and miss in terms of guys not being idiots. Eventually she met a guy she was into and we started a group chat. After some time they began chatting one on one and I was receiving regular updates. Things progressed to a highly explicit level and both face pics, body pics - tits, ass, pussy and cock - and videos were exchanged. I was sure he was going to the guy to fuck my wife. I included some chat screens here.



At this point she admitted to me she wanted him desperately and it was frustrating that due to young kids it was impossible to organise anything in less than 6 months time. He had her writing his name and friend's name on her tits and pussy and sending it to him. Masturbating until she squirted in another video. Wearing love eggs to do the school run and showing him her panties soaked and her pussy. So she was very willing. Then suddenly conversations with him dried up and she also clammed up and her appetite seemed to disappear instantly. There was no falling out or issue with him and when pressed she again said that nothing could happen and it was frustrating.

Soon after she said that she didn't think anything would happen and she had gone off the whole idea. She knows I expose her online and sometimes is turned on by it but other times ignores my messages to her about it.

So my question is this. Was it that she really wanted him and got frustrated? She intends to do something later but is pushing me off so I don't push her? Did she go off the whole idea? Could anyone be so turned on by something and then so uninterested in it? Am I missing something?

Any feedback, insights, advice or help would be greatly appreciated. I don't want to make the wrong move in case I ruin the chance forever.

 

[C&M Hotwife]

My wife and I were looking for a male for a few months, a lot of talkers and people who just want pictures. They are called fakes.

You wife invested all this time, mentally getting ready as it's huge for woman to do this. I'm thinking after this fake she might end up with one with bad intentions. Her ego was at an all time him, another man other than her husband finds her attractive and now its deflated.

I would give her some time and ask if you can keep looking. Before you invest too much time i would suggest asking for their phone number and make a call. If he answers he's probably has the right intention and has nothing to hide.

 

[wunderland]

love to hear more opinion from anyone with a insight

 

[robbiewillsucku]

love to hear more opinion from anyone with a insight

I had that happen to me many times by males and females --- very hot chat then they get cold feet and drop off line totaylly. They could be fake from the start but I don't think so - most just get scared and pull back - sometimes they return and play.

 

[Builtbull169]

There are lots of fakes, and also a lot of cheaters out there. It’s a shame. Lots of guys, girls and couples are not who they pretend to be. Lots of married guys pretending to be single, looking to cheat. Lots of people not really being who the pictures are. It’s frustrating at times

 

[Mrstevela]

I think C&M really nailed it, in the first reply to your post. While the Internet expands our reach as far as "meeting" people, it shields their real identity in many cases, as well as their real intent. The very word "meeting" wasn't defined with the Internet in mind, - it was coined way back when when "meet" meant a face to face meeting. You know, ......where you can look a person in the eye (and elsewhere), shake their hand and hear the speak. In some cases we pick up additional information from a person's surroundings when we meet physically. The Internet undermines all of that. And in case you hadn't yet figured it out, some of the "women" on this site are men posing as women. Many if not most of the guys here don't yet have the nerve to tell their wife what they want or are simply trying to learn how to approach it with their wife. Most so called "blogs" about "hotwife" relationships and "cuckolds" are merely fronts for people to sell porn, or experience the thrill of writing about the naughty things they want to watch their wife doing. Our children were always a complicating factor we had to compensate for as we didn't want to expose them to what was happening in our bedroom and elsewhere. This kind of lifestyle is probably a better fit for young folks with no children. ))))

Read on if you want to hear how our relationship evolved, but my suggestion would be to focus on more local guys that your wife actually encounters in going about her daily activities. Encourage her to encourage those males who appear sexy to her, let her take the lead. The rest is our story, which might be totally incompatible with your lifestyle. What's below is summarized to keep it as brief as possible, but emphasize local arrangements if possible.

When my wife (second marriage for both of us) and I decided to expand our sexual relationship and seek other men for her we overlooked the most obvious source of men who would fit into our lives - the men she encountered in her daily activities and those she met at work or worked with. We wasted a great deal of time (more than a year) and effort advertising in "swinger" publications. The result was hundreds (yes, that's right, our P.O. box was stuffed when what we wanted was for her to be "stuffed") of replies, and polaroid or other photos of dicks of all sorts. )))))) You know the kind... guys who actually write things like "I'll fuck the hell out of the wife with my 9 inches," or "I can go 45 minutes without cumming," "I'll show her what a real man can do," etc. etc. Good source of humor but it gets kind of old....

We met two guys throjugh the hundreds of replies we received, both of whom were very good sexual experiences for both of us but neither of them could enter into the long term relationship we wanted. Nor were they the "right" guys. So we learned right away that local guys were what we needed to give my wife the excitement and orgasms she craved. One of the two men my wife really liked didn't send a dick pic, - he was a management type who lived in Chicago and came to our area in CA once a month for business. His picture was fully clothed in a business suit. He stayed in a luxury hotel near our home and my wife loved spending those evenings with him as he treated her like a lady, and was a good lay (in her words, not mine). Problem was, she wanted him once a week or more and he couldn't be here once a week. The other guy we met was an insurance salesman who lived locally. His body type and personality (she loves being fucked missionary while her hands are on her lovers hard butt and he's kissing her) were a big turn on for my wife but he was unwilling to invest in a relationship of any kind. He just wanted quick (but good!) sex and he was way over the top into bi, - while a little oral bi was ok with us we wanted a guy to spend the night with her or most of the night with the focus on her. Basically, while he was a good lay for my wife he was seeking to meet men through "swinging" relationships. Still, it was these "trysts" that conviced both of us we wanted more quality. She wanted a long term guy she could have sex with frequently while I slept elsewhere, or joined them - at her request.

Then lightning struck out of nowhere. My wife was dropping our two young children off at day care one morning and met a young divorced man with custody of his two young children. There was some electricity between them right away, and it wasn't long before he was in our king-sized bed with my wife underneath him having an orgasm as I watched, while kissing her neck and ears. )) Our children were with their bio dad for the weekend, so the sex was on and off all day long that Saturday. How she was not impregnated is still a mystery to both of us. And sometimes she'd go to his apartment after all of the kids were in bed, and spend most of the night with him. When she'd come home, we'd have sex and I'd take care of her in all those special ways we talk about here in the forum. Neither one of us was worth a damn at work the next day. At this point, we stopped looking at swinger publications and instead focused on local guys who didn't have to travel much to meet us/her. Takes a while, though.

A couple of years later while traveling for work, my wife was staying in a hotel about 200 miles away. There was an attractive and personable African-American gentleman in the work meetings, and one thing led to another. At dinner, my wife let him know it would be cool if he could stop by her room for a drink. That relationship was on for about 15 years, but was a once a month thing at the most. It was an "all-nighter" every time though, in her hotel room. About 11 pm that first night, she called me and said "my panties are coming off right now, and you won't hear from me again until tomorrow morning." I told her I loved her, and to go for it. In her words to me (after a couple of drinks) it was "the best sex she ever had."