Before you start this journey understand that if your not the type of guy that pays attention to details or doesnt know what your wife is really saying, then you may want to start there. This is important because your going to need to read between the lines to get this right. Also know this is not fact, this is just my opinion based off what I've seen over 10 years in the Hotwife Lifestyle and the stories and conversations I have had with men that are currently in it or was previously. So lets begin!
____Step 1: Use Subliminal and Places. Before you begin asking her to sleep with another guy, use opportunities in life to present other men to her without presenting other men to her. What this means is take her to sporting events college sports, pro sports doesn't matter. You want to expose her to physically fit men competing sweating and showing there physical dominance . Read the article next to the thumbs up to get a better understanding. Also start doing physical activities together a boost in physical activates has been shown to increase libido in both men and women.
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Step 2: The Introduction. The introduction needs to be simple and suggestive like the throw back movies listed below. By using movies, artwork, and events such as nude art events and burlesque show, it helps to stimulate sexual arousal in the mind. This need to be something that you make a priority for a few weekends straight. Suggest movie night and other situations and places that will take you out of your comfort zone. Sometime its better to ask forgiveness than ask permission. So if you think she may say no then surprise her with an evening shell never forget by taking her to something she would never expect.
Step 3: Find Her type. This is going to be easier than you think if you have been paying attention at her reactions while at the sports games. Pay special attention to the comments she makes about certain actors and athletes. This should give you some direction as to the type of fantasy guy she wants. Start by creating profiles on several swinger and hotwife forums. You will want to communicate with these guys for a bit and really make sure you have an understanding of their personality. Also at this point you can also leave your computer open with Hotwife porn on it, most women will at notice. This is a subtle way of letting her know what your thinking without actually saying it first. Also if she ask about it be honest and confident in your answer. This will provide security in knowing that you have given the idea deep thought and are comfortable and confident with what you want.
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Step 4: Introduce the Idea. Communicate that this is something that you have been considering. When having this conversation make sure to make her pleasure the focus and explain that you think this will benefit your relationship dynamic. When bringing this topic up make sure that its during a time of pleasure, on a date or while you have a private moment in the jacuzzi on vacation. Make sure its light hearted in nature and that there is no pressure. I suggest being sober when you have this conversation as well.
Step 5: Be Patient and understanding. Listen to your wife concerns. When discussing this new idea make sure to validate her feelings and truly try to find out what you can do to make the whole situation more comfortable. Understand that most women will need time because its not often that men ask their wife to sleep with someone else. Allow her time to process the conversation and sometimes they will question themselves. Some women will think your looking for reason to leave. This is the time that you will need to assure her through your patience and confidence that this is no the case. It can take some women a few weeks and others much longer. Remember to stay patient and don't forget that its all about her. In keeping her first you will find your happiness in or out of the lifestyle.
____Step 1: Use Subliminal and Places. Before you begin asking her to sleep with another guy, use opportunities in life to present other men to her without presenting other men to her. What this means is take her to sporting events college sports, pro sports doesn't matter. You want to expose her to physically fit men competing sweating and showing there physical dominance . Read the article next to the thumbs up to get a better understanding. Also start doing physical activities together a boost in physical activates has been shown to increase libido in both men and women.
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0193723518797041 __
Step 2: The Introduction. The introduction needs to be simple and suggestive like the throw back movies listed below. By using movies, artwork, and events such as nude art events and burlesque show, it helps to stimulate sexual arousal in the mind. This need to be something that you make a priority for a few weekends straight. Suggest movie night and other situations and places that will take you out of your comfort zone. Sometime its better to ask forgiveness than ask permission. So if you think she may say no then surprise her with an evening shell never forget by taking her to something she would never expect.
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Step 3: Find Her type. This is going to be easier than you think if you have been paying attention at her reactions while at the sports games. Pay special attention to the comments she makes about certain actors and athletes. This should give you some direction as to the type of fantasy guy she wants. Start by creating profiles on several swinger and hotwife forums. You will want to communicate with these guys for a bit and really make sure you have an understanding of their personality. Also at this point you can also leave your computer open with Hotwife porn on it, most women will at notice. This is a subtle way of letting her know what your thinking without actually saying it first. Also if she ask about it be honest and confident in your answer. This will provide security in knowing that you have given the idea deep thought and are comfortable and confident with what you want.
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Step 4: Introduce the Idea. Communicate that this is something that you have been considering. When having this conversation make sure to make her pleasure the focus and explain that you think this will benefit your relationship dynamic. When bringing this topic up make sure that its during a time of pleasure, on a date or while you have a private moment in the jacuzzi on vacation. Make sure its light hearted in nature and that there is no pressure. I suggest being sober when you have this conversation as well.
Step 5: Be Patient and understanding. Listen to your wife concerns. When discussing this new idea make sure to validate her feelings and truly try to find out what you can do to make the whole situation more comfortable. Understand that most women will need time because its not often that men ask their wife to sleep with someone else. Allow her time to process the conversation and sometimes they will question themselves. Some women will think your looking for reason to leave. This is the time that you will need to assure her through your patience and confidence that this is no the case. It can take some women a few weeks and others much longer. Remember to stay patient and don't forget that its all about her. In keeping her first you will find your happiness in or out of the lifestyle.
