Amazed at all the negative responses here, but I suspect most of them come from pretenders who are NOT actual participants and think this lifestyle is all about THEM and not about the wives.........J (my wife) has cancelled MANY plans with me over the years and I actually find it stimulating.
Getting a call on New Years weekend to tell me that he Boss/Lover asked her to be his best friends date for the holiday weekend and she doesn't need me to bring her an overnight suitcase (turned out to be THREE overnites!!) because they are going to the mall to buy outfits that he wants her to wear, AND she won't need her diaphragm (all the birth control she uses!!) brought down either: they discussed this and he prefers NOT to use it and doesn't want to buy any condoms either since she hates them......yeah, it's a bit of a disappointment knowung I will spend the holiday alone, but WOW the almost constant erections and dripping and teasing it almost to orgasm and then stop, rest, start over again wondering what they are doing right now, is this her fertile time of the month, is she going to text me to tell me ANYTHING they are doing or have done or plan to do.........WOW does that make the disappointment WELL worth it!!
Or texting me to let me know that she and her Boss/Lover have decided to extend their 3 day "work weekend" in DC to an aditional 7 days because they stayed in a "bridal suite" (only suite available) and everyone thought they were newlyweds and they were having SO much fun with it that they decided to stay through her fertile time of the month and HOPE it happens this time!!!!!!!!! Yeah, a bit of a disappointment that she'll be gone even longer, but the REASON she'll be gone longer surely overcomes that, for me anyway!!
Or knowing she planned another business trip out of town over our anniversary because her Lover at the time wanted her to spend it in bed with HIM.........
Or going out shopping with her to buy a new sexy outfit to wear for her Lover on their first date versus the two of us sharing it in bed at home.......
Or, or, or........there have been many times over the years that she has cancelled or revised plans with me to accomodate her Lovers needs and desires. The time she called me at home and told me to BE GONE in 15 minutes, she and Tom (her Boss/Lover) were 20 minutes away and I could NOT be there when they got there and I had to pack up my computer and go work at McD's and then the library for the next SEVEN hours........it was the only time they were together at our homw and in our marital bed. They made GOOD use of the opportunity!! And she left their sheets on the bed that night as she told me aobut their unplanned and HOT afternoon together!! Annoying to get 15 minutes lead time and kicked out for 7 hours..........yeah, but WELL worth it in the end!! THREE times for her, LOL.
CW (an actual yplayer in the lifestyle, not a guy jaggin off and wishing he was involved!!)