My biggest wish is the bbc fantasy. But please give me your opinions on this one aspect. My super voluptuous bbw wife is very vanilla. I can’t get her interested in the idea of bigger dicks, she doesn’t like dildos, and she cannot understand my desire to see her enjoy bbc. I have an actual micropenis and literally cannot penetrate at this point (I could a little when we both weight less, but at our current weights I cannot get in at all). I’m the only cock she has ever had, and we’ve been married 35 years. Do you think the whole idea of a bigger dick being more enjoyable isn’t even on her radar because she is just wired that way, or because she has literally never experienced even an average sized cock? Any and all opinions, insights, and advice are welcome. Thank you!
Vanilla wife and micropenis
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Some women aren't wired that way and no amount of persuasion will work.
Some would be open to it in the deepest recesses of their imagination but would be horrified to act on those dark impulses- society frowns on such feelings.
Some come round to it over time (mine did, briefly). Most lack confidence in their own attractiveness and their ability to turn on another man (especially after a long, faithful marriage).
Gentleness, persistence, and loving persuasion are essential.
Speaking personally, I fucked up years ago. The sight of my wife riding another man's cock blew my mind and I couldn't handle it - something I regret to this day. It left a scar, which is hard to heal. Be careful. These are major issues, and it is a huge step which has destroyed relationships.
Some would be open to it in the deepest recesses of their imagination but would be horrified to act on those dark impulses- society frowns on such feelings.
Some come round to it over time (mine did, briefly). Most lack confidence in their own attractiveness and their ability to turn on another man (especially after a long, faithful marriage).
Gentleness, persistence, and loving persuasion are essential.
Speaking personally, I fucked up years ago. The sight of my wife riding another man's cock blew my mind and I couldn't handle it - something I regret to this day. It left a scar, which is hard to heal. Be careful. These are major issues, and it is a huge step which has destroyed relationships.
She is a very sexy lady.
I hope you can convince her to experience a real size cock some day.
Patience
Hello Jared7. My view is that some women just aren't interested in other men in their lives - after all, that may be part of the reason she married you - so that the dating and experimentation would end. If you've sincerely and in a non-threatening manner have shared your interests with her and she's not buying in, there's no sense creating unneeded turbulence in your relationship by mounting a campaign or pressuring her, and assuming your marriage is sound, just let it ride. If Mr. Right does happen along, she'll let you know. Besides, you can live vicariously through us. That might be even better in your situation! 😁
This is much closer to the reality. I would go even further and say that MOST women aren't "wired" that way. My wife is a perfect example of your description of lacking confidence in her attractiveness. And yes we have been married a long time so that goes along with your "long, faithful marriage" notion.
As to your personal reflection, I've thought A LOT about witnessing my wife with anyone else. Years ago I convinced my wife to have some roadside sex when we were driving through the Tehachapi Mountains. She very reluctantly agreed. We scampered off to the woods about 10 yards off the road. There was lots of traffic and we could see them but they couldn't see us. My wife just wanted it over and done with. When she bent over and pulled down her pants and panties she was sopping wet. I mean wet like I'd never seen before.
Like I said we have been together a long time and I've had lots of opportunities to try and reproduce her getting that wet. Since the roadside thing was a "one and done" for her that was out as a way to reproduce that. NOTHING I've ever done since that day has been able to make that happen again. What worries me is that if another came in out of the blue and caused her to get wet like that again and I saw it happen I might spiral into a dark place. I'd know she doesn't get wet like that for me under normal circumstances but she does for some random guy.
I'm also not so sure about the idea that I've been wanting and working towards a more exciting sex life for us both for decades. All the awkward discussions and subtle hints and not so subtle hints over the years that never advanced her beyond the "never gonna happen" stage/point would feel like wasted effort if some guy, in one one night, changed her mind. I'd feel like it happened because of this random guy and not because of my decades of support.
I'm not sure I want to feel those feelings. I know I'm not the biggest or the best but I don't want to feel inadequate either. I still want an exciting sex life for myself. Would I love see my wife having a mind blowing experience, yes I would, and I would hope she would want the same for me! I don't want to be weighed down with a bunch of emotional issues that I would have to work out on my own. I believe people marginalize how the "mental/emotional" can torment the husband/bf if left unattended or unaddressed.
