My wife and I are both around 31 years old. We’ve been together for a very long time, starting from when we were dating. We’re a small but happy family with two kids. My wife is a bit conservative and not particularly highly sexed. So if you’re imagining she jumps on me if we haven’t had sex for a few weeks, that’s not the case. Yes, she gets horny, but for her sex is more like dessert after a meal — she can easily do without it.
I first opened up about my cuckold feelings to her while we were engaged, during sex. In that moment she immediately joined in and we talked about how another imaginary man would touch her and fuck her. The conversation was incredibly hot and it didn’t feel like I was leading it at all. It was like a river current — both of us were just carried away and neither wanted to get out.
About a week after that session we had a huge fight. After that, these fantasies came and went. Sometimes we wouldn’t mention it for months, sometimes we talked about it every time we had sex. Roughly 7 years have passed with these fantasy-filled conversations. There were times I thought she would actually accept it one day, and many times I felt completely hopeless. But now, for quite a while, we don’t argue about these talks at all — I think she’s really gotten used to them.
However, in the last year some very interesting things started happening during these talks. A few times, completely on her own initiative, she brought up her ex-boyfriend. They never had real sex, but she had seen his dick many times on .... After that, a few times she couldn’t get off during normal sex — she just couldn’t reach orgasm. Then she closed her eyes, clearly imagined something, and came incredibly hard. She has never told me what she was thinking about.
Normally she’s not a very sexual woman, but during some of these fantasy talks she gets so wet and so turned on that I’m certain I’ve never seen her that horny before. When I ask her about it she completely denies everything. She says “I was imagining you, I don’t want another man” or “I get horny because you’re horny.”
My head is all over the place. Sometimes I genuinely feel like she wants it for real, but the next day she turns into the same woman who won’t give an inch. I feel undecided and helpless.
What do you think I should do? How should I proceed?
Ps:
I know I’m supposed to talk to her about it. But unfortunately that advice doesn’t work for me at all. The moment this topic comes up, she shuts it down instantly and cuts the conversation dead. So sadly, “just talk to her” isn’t actually helpful advice in my case. I need something else—another way to solve this mystery and to reach/catch that woman who’s hiding inside her
I first opened up about my cuckold feelings to her while we were engaged, during sex. In that moment she immediately joined in and we talked about how another imaginary man would touch her and fuck her. The conversation was incredibly hot and it didn’t feel like I was leading it at all. It was like a river current — both of us were just carried away and neither wanted to get out.
About a week after that session we had a huge fight. After that, these fantasies came and went. Sometimes we wouldn’t mention it for months, sometimes we talked about it every time we had sex. Roughly 7 years have passed with these fantasy-filled conversations. There were times I thought she would actually accept it one day, and many times I felt completely hopeless. But now, for quite a while, we don’t argue about these talks at all — I think she’s really gotten used to them.
However, in the last year some very interesting things started happening during these talks. A few times, completely on her own initiative, she brought up her ex-boyfriend. They never had real sex, but she had seen his dick many times on .... After that, a few times she couldn’t get off during normal sex — she just couldn’t reach orgasm. Then she closed her eyes, clearly imagined something, and came incredibly hard. She has never told me what she was thinking about.
Normally she’s not a very sexual woman, but during some of these fantasy talks she gets so wet and so turned on that I’m certain I’ve never seen her that horny before. When I ask her about it she completely denies everything. She says “I was imagining you, I don’t want another man” or “I get horny because you’re horny.”
My head is all over the place. Sometimes I genuinely feel like she wants it for real, but the next day she turns into the same woman who won’t give an inch. I feel undecided and helpless.
What do you think I should do? How should I proceed?
Ps:
I know I’m supposed to talk to her about it. But unfortunately that advice doesn’t work for me at all. The moment this topic comes up, she shuts it down instantly and cuts the conversation dead. So sadly, “just talk to her” isn’t actually helpful advice in my case. I need something else—another way to solve this mystery and to reach/catch that woman who’s hiding inside her
