Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and responding.
I'm 51 and my wife is 44. I need advice on what to do. I'd like to hear from the gals out there as well as the guys. My wife and I have know each other almost 20 years and have been married for 15. I think she is hot and love her very much. About 3 years ago I told her of my fantasy to see her fuck another man. She initially said, "I don't know. I'm not saying no." We talked more and she agreed to meet another married couple to talk and see how this feels. I think I took the lead too strongly, nothing happened and my wife got pissed. I think we didn't have the best communication at the time. She said she doesn't want to see me have sex with another woman and she doesn't want to have sex with another man.
I stopped talking about this after that. She was ok with using penis sleeves and dildos in the bedroom but would always say she liked how my dick felt better and how I give her pleasure and she enjoys herself with me. Real dick maybe feels better than a rubber one. Sometime passed and I brought the subject up again. Maybe we could go to a sex club or place with people in the lifestyle are just to check out the vibe. Maybe we could have sex with each other while other people were watching. Again she got mad and I dropped the topic.
When we have sex it is good and we both get off. After 20 or so years it is a little vanilla though. We have sex maybe once or twice a month. My wife says she is entering into perimenopause and doesn't have as much desire as she used to. I tried watching porn with her and she felt like I was trying to convince her to be like the other women in the videos.
Life is kind of hectic right now. We both own our own businesses which can be demanding. We still have kids at home who are busy with school and sports etc. I've had some health issues. Now is not the time so I've decided to give up. Maybe in another 5-10 years when we are empty nesters thing can be different. I'm afraid after menopause she won't be interested in any sex at all. I don't want that and I don't want to be any other women. Have any wives gotten into this lifestyle after menopause and after the kids are out of the house? Was that easier or more comfortable? I'll be pushing 60 by then. Feeling kind of dejected and rejected. Any advice?
I'm 51 and my wife is 44. I need advice on what to do. I'd like to hear from the gals out there as well as the guys. My wife and I have know each other almost 20 years and have been married for 15. I think she is hot and love her very much. About 3 years ago I told her of my fantasy to see her fuck another man. She initially said, "I don't know. I'm not saying no." We talked more and she agreed to meet another married couple to talk and see how this feels. I think I took the lead too strongly, nothing happened and my wife got pissed. I think we didn't have the best communication at the time. She said she doesn't want to see me have sex with another woman and she doesn't want to have sex with another man.
I stopped talking about this after that. She was ok with using penis sleeves and dildos in the bedroom but would always say she liked how my dick felt better and how I give her pleasure and she enjoys herself with me. Real dick maybe feels better than a rubber one. Sometime passed and I brought the subject up again. Maybe we could go to a sex club or place with people in the lifestyle are just to check out the vibe. Maybe we could have sex with each other while other people were watching. Again she got mad and I dropped the topic.
When we have sex it is good and we both get off. After 20 or so years it is a little vanilla though. We have sex maybe once or twice a month. My wife says she is entering into perimenopause and doesn't have as much desire as she used to. I tried watching porn with her and she felt like I was trying to convince her to be like the other women in the videos.
Life is kind of hectic right now. We both own our own businesses which can be demanding. We still have kids at home who are busy with school and sports etc. I've had some health issues. Now is not the time so I've decided to give up. Maybe in another 5-10 years when we are empty nesters thing can be different. I'm afraid after menopause she won't be interested in any sex at all. I don't want that and I don't want to be any other women. Have any wives gotten into this lifestyle after menopause and after the kids are out of the house? Was that easier or more comfortable? I'll be pushing 60 by then. Feeling kind of dejected and rejected. Any advice?
