I'm 51, wife is 44. Is it too late? Should I stop trying to convince her?

[danum]

I agree it's never too late. I think my wife was around 49 or 50 when she started. Patience is a necessity for getting over the Hump. It took me probably 3 years to get my wife to try it. I think her BFF and her Husband helped. Her BFF and her Husband are swingers and they are out almost every weekend. My wife spent years hearing her friend talk about the guys she was fucking on the side

3 years?? wow! i salute your patience and persistence.
it took me 13-14 months and i thought that was too long.

good on you.

 

[HubbyJohn]

It isnt' too late at all. In fact the duration of your marriage is what will make it more likely. The stronger you are as a couple the better your chances are. We were well into our 40s before we did it. we fantasized bout it for a decade or more so we were ready. We didn't plan it, we just allowed a situation to happen naturally.

 

[du_sabot]

It isnt' too late at all. In fact the duration of your marriage is what will make it more likely. The stronger you are as a couple the better your chances are. We were well into our 40s before we did it. we fantasized bout it for a decade or more so we were ready. We didn't plan it, we just allowed a situation to happen naturally.

Agreed, I think my wife was 49 or 50 when she started. It's never too late. The only surprise for me is how had it is to find good reliable consistent guys

 

[vrmtr1]

Agreed, I think my wife was 49 or 50 when she started. It's never too late. The only surprise for me is how had it is to find good reliable consistent guys

...so how did you fing good guys? we are inside 50s and I'm still trying

 

[du_sabot]

...so how did you fing good guys? we are inside 50s and I'm still trying

We haven't really. She uses the dating apps. She has a few regulars but it's not like they meet Weekley or anything like that. Sometimes it's months. Some guys I ask why she keeps them on this list because they are never available and when they do set something up cancel all the time. It's much more difficult than I thought it would be. I thought single guys would be lining up but at our age every one has there own life issues and guys seem to be terrible at scheduling their lives. I dont know how some of them function in the adult job market

 

[Montbbc]

Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and responding.

I'm 51 and my wife is 44. I need advice on what to do. I'd like to hear from the gals out there as well as the guys. My wife and I have know each other almost 20 years and have been married for 15. I think she is hot and love her very much. About 3 years ago I told her of my fantasy to see her fuck another man. She initially said, "I don't know. I'm not saying no." We talked more and she agreed to meet another married couple to talk and see how this feels. I think I took the lead too strongly, nothing happened and my wife got pissed. I think we didn't have the best communication at the time. She said she doesn't want to see me have sex with another woman and she doesn't want to have sex with another man.

I stopped talking about this after that. She was ok with using penis sleeves and dildos in the bedroom but would always say she liked how my dick felt better and how I give her pleasure and she enjoys herself with me. Real dick maybe feels better than a rubber one. Sometime passed and I brought the subject up again. Maybe we could go to a sex club or place with people in the lifestyle are just to check out the vibe. Maybe we could have sex with each other while other people were watching. Again she got mad and I dropped the topic.

When we have sex it is good and we both get off. After 20 or so years it is a little vanilla though. We have sex maybe once or twice a month. My wife says she is entering into perimenopause and doesn't have as much desire as she used to. I tried watching porn with her and she felt like I was trying to convince her to be like the other women in the videos.

Life is kind of hectic right now. We both own our own businesses which can be demanding. We still have kids at home who are busy with school and sports etc. I've had some health issues. Now is not the time so I've decided to give up. Maybe in another 5-10 years when we are empty nesters thing can be different. I'm afraid after menopause she won't be interested in any sex at all. I don't want that and I don't want to be any other women. Have any wives gotten into this lifestyle after menopause and after the kids are out of the house? Was that easier or more comfortable? I'll be pushing 60 by then. Feeling kind of dejected and rejected. Any advice?

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