Wife Wants 1st Big Cock

We haven't crossed the line yet, but we've made a little bit of progress. After the wife and I spoke more about some of her wants including bdsm (which we dabble) and her desire to experience more of it, also that I wouldn’t be present for her first time, there has been some slight changes. She has began chatting with a Dom from our area that she met on FetLife.

All kind of a curveball in how we discussed things starting out. I'm a little reserved to have her dominated like that in a BDSM sense before we even explore rough vanilla open play, but I also know that's her kink and I would like to respect her wants too but the not being there for the first time has me feeling uneasy. (Guy also wants to remain out of video but will do pov style)

In some ways I feel like it's a complete 180 from being there, regular banging, and recording it, .......to wants to be alone with Dom, experience bdsm play, and no full recording. I'm conflicted.

My natural reaction was objection, I got pissed. This was not what we had discussed and talked about. We had a small verbal back n forth and went to bed. Of course as fate has it, I happened to have an erotic dream about me being her total cuck.

I woke up with a 6in cock so hard I could've broke through ice or some ....... I reflected on our discussion and the dream. She was right, her opinion in all of this is not only completely valid, but most important. She has her kinks too. I wrote her a lengthy apology for the way I acted and accepted that she be allowed to pick the who, where, when and how, in all of this. That her pussy was her choice..... (or however that saying goes) and I'm loyal to her sexual prowess, my cock and sexual release are at her disposal.
Not sure I would be on board with her going alone. Part of the joy of being in a shared-wife or cuckold marriage is participating in your wife's sexual pleasure and kinks, even if only to watch. For me, sharing the wife loses its appeal if I cannot be present.

I will say that your wife's desire for BDSM with a Dom is exciting. I definitely would want to be there for that.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Bat boy
Not sure I would be on board with her going alone. Part of the joy of being in a shared-wife or cuckold marriage is participating in your wife's sexual pleasure and kinks, even if only to watch. For me, sharing the wife loses its appeal if I cannot be present.

I will say that your wife's desire for BDSM with a Dom is exciting. I definitely would want to be there for that.
The first few dates it's always both of us but if she wants a solo date I am good with it, she will tell me all about it later anyway.
 
Not sure I would be on board with her going alone. Part of the joy of being in a shared-wife or cuckold marriage is participating in your wife's sexual pleasure and kinks, even if only to watch. For me, sharing the wife loses its appeal if I cannot be present.

I will say that your wife's desire for BDSM with a Dom is exciting. I definitely would want to be there for that.
So as a dom I will say that to actively film the process kind of throws "a wrench in the gears." Setting up a camera and letting it roll was the most i would do. That way I could "set it and forget it" till things were done. I got very immersed with my training and the last thing I needed was to have to remember to film. Plus it kind of ruins the spontaneity of the moment. I didn't want distractions and I definitely didn't like when I got "requests" like I was a circus monkey performing tricks..lol. I'd edit the video I took and send the hubby snippets I thought he might enjoy. Another reason the wife might not want their significant other to watch is because in my experience the wife is a different person without the husband around. They let their guard down more and they completely submit. Some wives feel very vulnerable and just don't want their husbands to see them become such big "sluts." It's makes a BIG difference if the husband is there as to how a BDSM training session goes. So if you're truly doing this for your wife then let her experience it alone and then talk about it after. If you continue to support her journey and show her you're excited and accepting of ANYTHING that happens then eventually she may let you in on more of her experiences. But she has to trust you wont judge or hold something against her. Again. She is very vulnerable as she explores this part of herself. As she becomes more confident and with your support you will become included more and more. Just imagine your wife in any one of the pictures below. She may be embarrassed or shy to admit this side of her with you. The whole part of this is for her to live out fantasies you are unable to fulfill. As a caring, loving (insert adjective) husband it's counterintuitive to be a controlling, demanding dom who will tell her what when and how and teach her to submit completely to his desires. She may want to feel helpless and used by a big cock for her doms desires. This is part of the BDSM lifestyle. So either you're in or you're out. There's no "half doing it." It may also take some time to find the right dom. They are definitely not all the same...lol
 

Attachments

  • 20250804_095014.jpg
    20250804_095014.jpg
    625.4 KB · Views: 2
  • 20260322_132203.jpg
    20260322_132203.jpg
    446 KB · Views: 2
  • 20190916_111416.jpg
    20190916_111416.jpg
    493.8 KB · Views: 2
  • 20191001_000014.jpg
    20191001_000014.jpg
    347.7 KB · Views: 1
  • 20190609_121159.jpg
    20190609_121159.jpg
    206.2 KB · Views: 1