So here might be our biggest sticking point right now. She has told me about a fantasy for years of having sex with a black guy for the typical reasons. We have toyed around with hit for years, but far from taking any action on it. Then she told me she really wanted to do it as we started talking about alternate sexual lifestyles and if any might be good for us. As we started to explore cuckolding, she kept saying she wanted to do it, wanted me to let her do it, but wanted me to really treasure her and not want to "give her away". I understand her conflict, but we always said we'd only do this if it brought both us sexual pleasure. If I supported her desire and fought it all the way inside, what fun would I be having. So it seems like the easy answer is to say we should drop the idea. But she says she really wants to do it. So we go in circles. Familiar to anyone?