This is a very good point, you could argue that the sex act for a cuckold lasts for days, weeks, months not a few minutes.
I wonder if we see anticipation being better than realisation in other parts of our life.
For example I find the research and planning for a home/hobby project much more satisfying that actually getting on and doing it. I much prefer the research, planning and anticipation for a holiday then actually going on that holiday.
I love Christmas, my favourite time of the year, but for me it starts on 1st December, maybe even earlier. I get truly giddy with excitement with all the planning and preparation, but when it comes to be big day it’s like “meh”, total anti-climax. I wonder if that is a good analogy for the cuckold lifestyle.
Interestingly, my lifestyle flows over to my career, or maybe my career choice has driven my lifestyle. I am Solution Architect, I design very big and complex IT systems. I really get a kick out of analysing what the customer wants, proposing realistic alternatives, researching what products could provide that and designing the solution to hand over to the developers. I get a big buzz out of that - I then have to hang around for the rest of the project acting as Design Authority but if I’m honest the buzz has gone by then and I really want to move onto something new.
As 99% of our encounters with other men are pre planned the excitment for me does commence days before the meet, i am then on a mental high, i look at my "normal vanilla" wife and her body doing her normal tasks yet still in a way disbelieving she will mentally and physcially soon willingly surrender to her lover for him to do as he wishes to her and she enjoys this so much.
This will not just be normal sex, she will surrender completely and enjoy being tied up in rope or chain, suspension, heavy BDSM, waxing and may include electrobes, then the final act of her begging for his cum over many hours.
As a respectable middle class couple, this is pure kink and forbidden fruit, this makes it so exciting in my mind too, people we know would be shocked to the core if they knew of our adventures or me a normal 6ft 4 dominant alpha male was actually a locked pantied, collared cuck looking forward to this experience of handing his wife to her lover or to be realistic watching her go to him and surrendering her body and mind.
I agree the actual act is not quite as exciting for me, still a major turn on but not quite at the level and degree of anticipation, i may watch in part then leave, or sometimes allow her to go alone to him, dozens of permitations i have practiced them all bar being tied and forced to watch. My high continues on a lower level for the following few days, boosted knowing i have the pictures and or video i have taken during the encounter, rarely do i view them for a week or so.
Viewing later is hughly stimulating more than actually standing and taking them was.
I suspect her experience and views are different,
She will happily agree to the meet, she knows what she wants and is happy she has a husband that affords her and also enjoys these pleasures, the day or so before she changes, becoming like an excited schoolgirl knowing the free sweet shop awaits, her whole persona changes.
On the day she will allocate me my clothing for the meet, taking time to dress me as her semi feminised cuck husband, nothing out the ordinary really, except a larger collar, tighter girlie jeans with suspenders underneath. Locked, knickers, painted toe nails are normal for me, she may change my CB though.
A lot is written about a cuckoldress or hotwife dressing and what she wears, this is rarely necessary as often her lover comes here, she knows what she wears will not remain on so why go to hugh lengths to dress for him when she knows he will undress her or dress her as he requires.
On the day it is me that is nervous not her, she will kiss me and go to him and she is his.
She will talk to me look at me but in the main she is zoned out with a look more like a drug user blank and in a different world of pain and pleasure but without taking drugs, as she has said its like an out of body experience driven by sexual simulation and orgasms. Its a strange sight the first time you see this.
If she captures his cum in her knickers she gives me those to wear.
The following day she has a glow of fullfilment then days later normal life has returned...till next time.