My wife was pretty uninterested in the lifestyle and I suggested erotic massage a few times but she wasn't interested. Then one day I persuaded her to let me vet a kind and gentle person who would be authorized to massage her back while I massaged her lower half, but she wanted it totally anonymous to her (blindfold and earplugs to keep it a sensual and receiving experience for her). I think the 4 hands element appealed to her. The idea was that, if she felt comfortable and relaxed she would roll over and expose her breasts to his touch (this was new and very exciting!). In the event, though, she confided to me that she might also let him massage her pussy while I continued to massage her breasts. She did, and even let him stimulate her g spot to a highly aroused squirt. She and I both had a very exciting time.