A few months ago - I posted about my fiancee having an affair with a much older, married man. They were using my apartment and I was letting her do it thinking our soon to be wedding was canceled. However, I have learned that her physical needs have nothing to do with how she feels about me. She wants to continue the marriage (mostly for appearance I think) but I've made up my mind I want to be with her regardless.
Its not the fairy tale marriage we all think about - but you learn that different people have different needs. While she and I both are 22 years old - she wants her physical needs taken care of by older men. Since the men she has seen so far are married - it poses no threat to our marriage. I don't watch - she likes her privacy so she can "let go". Me watching kind of makes her too uptight. So - I just sit in the spare bedroom and listen.
We have to make sacrifices for the things we want in life. I want to be with her - I am making the sacrifice.
Its not the fairy tale marriage we all think about - but you learn that different people have different needs. While she and I both are 22 years old - she wants her physical needs taken care of by older men. Since the men she has seen so far are married - it poses no threat to our marriage. I don't watch - she likes her privacy so she can "let go". Me watching kind of makes her too uptight. So - I just sit in the spare bedroom and listen.
We have to make sacrifices for the things we want in life. I want to be with her - I am making the sacrifice.