Am I cuckold?

[antonio13]

Can l ask you, do you pleasure yourself thinking about other guys doing your wife ?

Yes. To me it is most erotic to think how my women takes all the pleasure by other guys using her sexual power as a female and me being faithful to her only.

 

[hubbysexywife]

You are in same situation as most of us I think. I start with this kind of feelings but it just grow and grow. You should read some of my threads, especially

Trying make my wife a Hotwife - Am I on the good way?

Hi, we are married for about 15 years and a few years ago i start fantasised about see my wife well fucked by another guy. We are a little above middle 30's couple. She is a very beautiful brunette with very attractive big boobs that always get a lot attention. I never though i would get this...

www.wifewantstoplay.com

Will pm you

 

[hubwithwantonwife]

I would say that you definitely have the cuckold kink.

 

[Sparticus69]

Hi, I’ve been a lurker for some time on here and I just signed up. I have been married for 16 years, during which time I have often fantasized my wife being with another man. I use the word “fantasized” loosely, because I still am not sure what or why I am doing it.

I am a reasonably attractive man, but not entirely fit, I’m muscular and tall with a bit of a belly and some love handles to boot, something I’ve been self-conscious of for years.
Meanwhile my wife is extremely fit and attractive, she’s a model, and is constantly booked. Flawless body. She was somewhat a late bloomer, she was cute when we got married when she was 20 but really blossomed about five years later. Anytime we go out she gets nothing but stares from men.

For me, it all started about ten years ago when I went from being jealous and territorial about the way she was acting with a gym trainer and other men from her gym, to then imagining her cheating on me with them. I got rock hard at the thought that first time I let it enter my head, but I also felt guilty. After months of masturbating to those thoughts or to some similar themed porn videos, I rationalized I was doing it to cope with my feelings of inadequacy, being out of shape etc. Those thoughts/fantasy’s developed over the years, however, until all I could was masturbate to the thought or of her cheating. My porn habits also followed the same trend. I was no longer imaging myself in the porn scene but rather my wife with another man. Now for the last year my thoughts/fantasy's have again evolved to having her cuckold me with a more endowed man.

Anytime she mentions another man, I feel some strange angst/excitement wondering if she’ll cheat on me with him. Again, still conflicted, still confused.
I got the courage to mention my feelings to her just last month, using science as a safety net. I also mentioned how cuckold’s and swingers etc. go on vacations to have their “fun”. She seemed very eager about that thought, and has brought it up more than once.

My cock is just shy of 7 and around 5.15 thick but I’m not sure how good I am at sex. My wife acts like she loves it, but then again she hasn’t ever had another man. Nor have I had another woman, we were both raised in a very religious community.

I’ve always considered myself “manly” as has those around me, which in our culture doesn’t match being a cuckold. But I know I need to put that ideology aside and be honest with myself. This morning is the first time I’ve really admitted this to anyone, and I figured there was no better place than here. I don't have any pics besides the ones below for now. She was okay with me posting them. Anyway, your thoughts and advice is most appreciated.

So freaking hot and sexy

 

[Jamestown11]

Thanks a ton for all the replies. We put the cuckolding aside for some time but last night after some wine and a nice date night my wife brought up cuckolding to my surprise. She said her previous hesitation was because I wouldn't be doing anything while she hooked up with other men, and she'd have a hard time wanting to have sex with me afterwards. "I just don't get it, are you giving me away?" she kept saying. "You don't fit that bill, aren't cuckold's weak?" I tried to explain that its all about her pleasure and stags or cuckold's can come in different sizes, and I 110% love her, and all of that. Anyway, here's the kicker; she said if I had sex with other women, in other words like an open relationship or some form of swinging she thought that would be very hot. I nearly dropped my drink. She grinned and said: "Yes, it would be way hot, I'd definitely go out with other men and let them fuck me if I knew you were with other women." *she rarely swears
Anyway, it seems I have a couple of choices assuming she is really ready for it: A - Go sleep with another woman as is her terms so I can enjoy the stag/cuckolding side of things afterward. B - White lie and say I am dating other women, so she dates and hooks up with other men. *For some reason this is even more arousing to me.
I think she has been thinking about this idea since was last spoke and now I believe she has a crush with a man at her gym. If I am to be honest, whomever she dates is going to want to fuck her asap, she is really attractive. Anyway, I am somewhat anxious about the whole thing, and I'm concerned that she is the one who brought it up. It's what I wanted right? But now that she seems willing, I have to admit some nervousness. Maybe that is normal? I am not worried about our relationship as we are very close but anyway... any thoughts?
*Picture is when I caught my wife this morning taking off her pajama tank to change into her gym clothes.

 

[Jamestown11]

I would say that you definitely have the cuckold kink.

Thanks

 

[Jamestown11]

Can l ask you, do you pleasure yourself thinking about other guys doing your wife ?

Yes, more often than I'd like to admit.

 

[Jamestown11]

To be insecure around a beautiful woman like your wife is natural. She is gorgeous and it would take a certain mind set of a person not to be too insecure. I ******** my wife off because I do not get jealous, do not worry about her leaving and do not dwell on those things. This does not make me superior or better than any other husband, it is just my approach. When I was very young, I was super jealous, but then focused on me and what I brought. If that was not good enough, then any woman I went out with could venture to something else. They never did, but many women attached to other men sought me out. It is not arrogance, hubris, or being an asshole, just try not to validate myself via someone staying with me or choosing me. Moreover, I have told most girlfriends, and also have told my wife that if she wants another partner, then all good and go for it. I am a bull, not a cuckold, but I would never ask my wife not to pursue a lover that she desired. We do not play together and do not rub anything in each other faces as she is jealous, but we support each other in endeavors outside of our marriage. Back to you, if you want to be a cuckold, then do not worry about others and what people will think. There are many men like you and if you truly embrace it, then you will find great satisfaction. If your beautiful wife is into it and you guys talk about it and have guidelines and continue communication, then it can enhance you relationship. The key is setting guidelines and then respect interwoven in the relationship.

Thank you, this is very insightful.

 

[NeedaDomInMI]

Thanks a ton for all the replies. We put the cuckolding aside for some time but last night after some wine and a nice date night my wife brought up cuckolding to my surprise. She said her previous hesitation was because I wouldn't be doing anything while she hooked up with other men, and she'd have a hard time wanting to have sex with me afterwards. "I just don't get it, are you giving me away?" she kept saying. "You don't fit that bill, aren't cuckold's weak?" I tried to explain that its all about her pleasure and stags or cuckold's can come in different sizes, and I 110% love her, and all of that. Anyway, here's the kicker; she said if I had sex with other women, in other words like an open relationship or some form of swinging she thought that would be very hot. I nearly dropped my drink. She grinned and said: "Yes, it would be way hot, I'd definitely go out with other men and let them fuck me if I knew you were with other women." *she rarely swears
Anyway, it seems I have a couple of choices assuming she is really ready for it: A - Go sleep with another woman as is her terms so I can enjoy the stag/cuckolding side of things afterward. B - White lie and say I am dating other women, so she dates and hooks up with other men. *For some reason this is even more arousing to me.
I think she has been thinking about this idea since was last spoke and now I believe she has a crush with a man at her gym. If I am to be honest, whomever she dates is going to want to fuck her asap, she is really attractive. Anyway, I am somewhat anxious about the whole thing, and I'm concerned that she is the one who brought it up. It's what I wanted right? But now that she seems willing, I have to admit some nervousness. Maybe that is normal? I am not worried about our relationship as we are very close but anyway... any thoughts?
*Picture is when I caught my wife this morning taking off her pajama tank to change into her gym clothes.

If you have gotten this far, the one thing that would screw it up is dishonesty. If it is hot for her, then make it hot for her.