Any husbands who finally convinced their wife but now regrets getting her to take another man’s cock?

[CONST65]

Me and my wife has never regret that we started with our play with other men.. Just sorry we did not started earlier

This is so true we talked alot before she became valuable hotwife but as you said we should have started it sooner
My wife use to.travel for work about once or twice a month .we agreed she should have started sooner as with traveling it woukd have made Her travel exciting. She doesn't travel any more but we have considered her traveling about once or twice every few months . We agreed if she starts again . She needs some special.clothes for traveling maybe even.takimg a extra travel day.

 

[imherManwantHER]

Yes I have.
I’ve trawled this forum and another one similar with the last few years but never joined until I seen this post, and I have to reply.
Because yes there is another side to this.
So although I may be the exception, I hope it’s something to consider for anyone new or anyone thinking about this lifestyle.
Full context; I’m 38, wife is 30. Together 13 years, married 10 years. Have kids.
About 8 years ago on a night out ...... the subject came up and I said I’d love to watch someone fuck her. I’ll spare you all the details but over a couple months this evolved into us deciding (always when out dr1nking) that we’d actually do it, we planned nights away in different places and she would go on the”pull” it worked out great for a few months, but we weren’t always successful. And paying for nights away was getting expensive, and me of course being eternally hornybaleays wanted it more and more. We decided to go the swinging route, tried fab, fet, and some others. We had relative success in that it always ended up in her being fucked, and a lot of the time I got to watch. So it was all great,-I thought. Anyone that’s been on those sites (especially fab) will know the majority are creepy dudes, (more creepy than us on here lol) so eventually that whole thing kind of wore thin. Dudes were agreeing to meet, she’d go to effort doing makeup, lingerie etc for them to either turn up ...... or else only last 30seconds-a minute. Her words were “it’s like I’m a hooker only I don’t even get paid” to once again keep the story as short as possible and spare you the details, over the following 6-9 months I encouraged her to indeed “be a hooker” and she began escorting. I loved this, I mean I REALLY loved it. Encouraged her more and more and encouraged her to push her limits more and more. Offering more services etc. That began about 5 years ago, and she’s been working as an ...... since. For the first 2-3 years it was good, I enjoyed it all, and she enjoyed it, and more importantly she enjoyed pleasing me by doing it. We had great sex ourselves. However with the last 2 years she’s become more work-minded. It’s about the work and money now rather than enjoying it or pleasing me. She gave up her normal part time job, ...... full time 4-5 days a week, and I’m lucky if we have sex twice a month. She uses excuses like she’s tired after a day of working, or a day of running around with the kids etc. or lately she’s used the line “if you’d had x cocks in you today you’d want a break too” she doesn’t do/say any of this with malice or bad intent, she’s still the loving wife I married in every other sense. But for me it absolutely was not worth it, to end up with only getting it twice a month when that was never the plan is an absolute kick in the balls to me.
So yes I do regret it.
If you need any details or advice please feel free to ask. As I do believe it’s something everyone should bear in mind when considering this

I’m really appreciative of your input and beyond glad you’re sharing your experience. I’m still learning and exploring, carefully looking at this whole idea and that’s as far as it’s gotten with us thus far. We both kinda think it would probably be a one time experience ultimately but we realize there are many variables involved that neither of us may ultimately control when it’s necessarily dealing with other human beings. I’m likely going to have some more questions for you, yes Sir. Thank you.

 

[imherManwantHER]

71 yrs

Wow she’s beautiful

 

[shareinwife86]

Never, my only regret is we didn't start it earlier.

💯

 

[du_sabot]

It all depends on your wife. If she is honest and true to you there should be no issues. In my experience, the issues come in if the wife isn't honest and starts lying about who she is seeing. Then it just becomes cheating in my mind. Even if she has a hall pass to see other men. If she is seeing someone she knows her husband doesn't approve of, and lying to him about it, that's cheating

 

[HubbyJohn]

I don't think regret is the right word... I don't know. I understand your sentiment and I do miss fucking my wife and feeling like a man sexually with her. But if I am honest, what I regret was never real and was never going to be real. I was never going to be big enough or alpha enough to fully satisfy her the way he can... and we would be fine and happilly married now and have sex maybe 5 times a year the same way every time... and feel awkward with this barrier between us of unsaid truth about my size and her ability to cum during sex with my because of it... that is the reality of where we wold be without the honesty I had to face and accept when she first confessed to cheating earlier in our marriage and then again later on when she revealed I was too small to make her cum from penetration and that other men had. I don't regret that that was put out in the open and essentially crushed my sexually and took away my confidence to fuck her at all... as a man, that sucks. Of course I wish I could make her cum with my dick... but I can't. It's something I have to look myself in the mirror and accept. I would rather be honest with her and myself and grow than be stuck in this awkward rut we were in where I knew she wasn't loving the sex and I couldn't do anything about it.... that was the 1st 12 years of our marriage... we hardly ever had sex... now I still don't get to fuck her, but we masturbate together, we make each other cum by hand or toy and she occasionally fucks her ex or another man and I get jealous of course, but it also turns me on to hear the details and see the lust in her eyes and hear it in her voice... we still have the love, but I don't have the equipment to provide legit cock lust. So what can I really regret?

 

[imherManwantHER]

It all depends on your wife. If she is honest and true to you there should be no issues. In my experience, the issues come in if the wife isn't honest and starts lying about who she is seeing. Then it just becomes cheating in my mind. Even if she has a hall pass to see other men. If she is seeing someone she knows her husband doesn't approve of, and lying to him about it, that's cheating

Agreed 💯

 

[happywifeinNC]

In our experience, You have to be in a very solid trusting relationship that already has a great sex life for the lifestyle to work for you as a couple.

It is meant to enhance your sex life not fix it. If you are in a shaky relationship with a less than great sex life, the lifestyle will definitely cause more issues in your relationship than it helps.

Of course every situation is different. There is no jealousy with us as we view it as just sex. But we always play together whether it be a single guy joining us or a couple. Further, I am fairly well endowed so I do not worry about her wanting other men more than me for cock size. Typically when we play I am just as big or bigger than the other guys.
I can see where there could be some jealousy when the husband has a much smaller cock. I'm not sure how I would react in that situation.

 

[Vincenzo]

In our experience, You have to be in a very solid trusting relationship that already has a great sex life for the lifestyle to work for you as a couple.

It is meant to enhance your sex life not fix it. If you are in a shaky relationship with a less than great sex life, the lifestyle will definitely cause more issues in your relationship than it helps.

Of course every situation is different. There is no jealousy with us as we view it as just sex. But we always play together whether it be a single guy joining us or a couple. Further, I am fairly well endowed so I do not worry about her wanting other men more than me for cock size. Typically when we play I am just as big or bigger than the other guys.
I can see where there could be some jealousy when the husband has a much smaller cock. I'm not sure how I would react in that situation.

Nice

 

[rockyrude]

I really appreciate the feedback and I’m certainly taking notes. 😉
I know the caveats are there and the thrill and satisfaction as well. Seems any or all are potentially enormous and could be life changing. But although it’s surely a thing, a feeling or complication that comes up fairly often, it seems hard to find discussions of experienced people who’ve lived it already.
Thanks again

I was in your exact situation. My wife was my high school sweetheart and one of the most beautiful girls in school. I felt like I’d won the lottery when she started going out with me. So, I was very very jealous and overprotective of her for years. I took her virginity Sophomore year of HS. I would get angry if someone was jst staring at her when we were in our late teens early twenties. Fast forward to ten years of marriage I was still the only man on the planet she had ever spread her legs for. She was also a very I goodie goodie good girl in high school so I took my time to seduce her, but keep in mind It took me five years of marriage before I got my first blowjob because she thought it was gross and I was trying to convince her to be with another woman and to let me watch. Long story short she flipped the script on me and said she would let me watch under one condition and I hastily agreed, ANYTHING!! She said she would let me watch but it would have to be another man. I immediately felt sick to my stomach and like I might pass out when she said it. I could not believe my little innocent Patty would even say such a thing.

After a year of thinking about what she had told me and visualizing it, what once made me nauseous 🤢 became a fantasy I lived in my head. I knew she was more joking then not when she said it because she thought she was calling my bluff and that would be the end of my pestering, but much to her surprise I told her I had decided I wanted to watch her and we could live the fantasy and make it a reality. I took me another six or seven months to convince her I was truly ok with it and excited.

I was in no rush and after she gingerly agreed I set out to find her the right bull. I knew the exact type of guy she was attracted to so I took my time and after about a two months search came up with the perfect first guy for her.

The first time was so erotic because she was so shy and a little buzzed but when the first bull she had slid balls deep in her she was very quite for about the first three or four minutes but as he feverishly fucked her, her pussy started gushing and then it happened, ...... Nature took over and she started to moan without even realizing it and those moans are etched it my mind for the rest of my life, especially since I video taped the whole thing.

For me it’s a complete dichotomy between being quite protective and jealous as I’ve been throughly our entire relationship, and the inexplicable notion and growing desire to have one or more guys use and please her with me.
She’s totally loyal and has literally been 💯 honest with me always and while she’s legit satisfied with our sex life being exclusively involving she and I, I’ve come to realize that she’s capable of enjoying herself thoroughly over and over with the same vigor, mad energy and passion each round.
I love her and love sex with her more than I can express, but I also know she would so enjoy being worn slap out on occasion. Help wanted 😏 (I think) 😳

I was in your exact situation. My wife was my high school sweetheart and one of the most beautiful girls in school. I felt like I’d won the lottery when she started going out with me. So, I was very very jealous and overprotective of her for years. I took her virginity Sophomore year of HS. I would get angry if someone was jst staring at her when we were in our late teens early twenties. Fast forward to ten years of marriage I was still the only man on the planet she had ever spread her legs for. She was also a very I goodie goodie good girl in high school so I took my time to seduce her, but keep in mind It took me five years of marriage before I got my first blowjob because she thought it was gross and I was trying to convince her to be with another woman and to let me watch. Long story short she flipped the script on me and said she would let me watch under one condition and I hastily agreed, ANYTHING!! She said she would let me watch but it would have to be another man. I immediately felt sick to my stomach and like I might pass out when she said it. I could not believe my little innocent Patty would even say such a thing.

After a year of thinking about what she had told me and visualizing it, what once made me nauseous 🤢 became a fantasy I lived in my head. I knew she was more joking then not when she said it because she thought she was calling my bluff and that would be the end of my pestering, but much to her surprise I told her I had decided I wanted to watch her and we could live the fantasy and make it a reality. I took me another six or seven months to convince her I was truly ok with it and excited.

I was in no rush and after she gingerly agreed I set out to find her the right bull. I knew the exact type of guy she was attracted to so I took my time and after about a two months search came up with the perfect first guy for her.
The first time was so erotic because she was so shy and a little buzzed but when the first bull she had slid balls deep in her she was very quite for about the first three or four minutes but as he feverishly fucked her, her pussy started gushing and then it happened, ...... Nature took over and she started to moan without even realizing it and those moans are etched it my mind for the rest of my life, especially since I video taped the whole thing.

Old G-rated photo of my little latina 4’11” Patty on a kids dirt bike with no makeup on.