Well if you have never did it, go slow, I love both, sucking and getting fucked. I’d get broken in with a few different size dildos first, maybe your wife will do you, after years of banging my wife in the ass she finally said one day it’s your turn so you know how it feels, she didn’t hold back neither, once she was in she started pounding me fast n hard, telling me stop whining, take it like you like to give it to me, I loved it even though it hurt, took several times but I finally learned to relax and enjoy it, now it is total pleasure, I can even ejaculate without touching myself.