cuckold reality vs fantasy

Hey, I am new to this forum. I have hard time knowing whether my cuckold fantasy is something I should pursue. I've seen my gf kiss other men and been flirty with them, and so far I've enjoyed what little I've seen. But I am not sure I am ready to watch her have sex with another man. I enjoy fantasizing about it, but how do you know if you're ready for it? What is the difference between having a cuckold fantasy and watch cuckold porn and actually engage in cuckoldry.

thanks!
I would recommend full swing with other couples so you're get some while your wife is getting hers. Find a decent swingers club and dip the toe.
 
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No easy answer…

In my experience, there’s a world of difference between the cuckold fantasy, watching cuckold/hot wife genre porn, and the real experience.

The first time I actually saw my wife, in “real life,” having sex with another man was the most heavily conflicted experience I’ve ever had, one I’ll never forget.

Despite years of fantasy, including pillow-talk, role-play, reading stories, looking at cuckold porn, the reality of seeing KK fully engaged, sexually, with another man was absolutely mind-blowing.

I was simultaneously aroused, nauseated, jealous, happy, enraged, elated, a blend of emotions, mostly in conflict. We’re groomed societally, culturally to reject the idea that one’s spouse should be free to engage sexually with someone else. Getting past that is an experience.

From the instant of that first experience, watching her fondle, suck, and fuck another guy, into the days and weeks after, I was still feeling conflicted. In all honesty, before the event, I’d have said “I’m ready.” After, it wasn’t at all what I expected. I oscillated from reliving the moment, the sight of a stranger’s cock sliding into KK’s wet pussy, the intensity, the anxiety, the arousal, to feeling self-loathing and disgust - you’re not “supposed” to enjoy your wife fucking some random guy…

On the balance, I did enjoy it, enough to offset even the most strongly negative emotions and feelings about it. Even right in this moment, as I recall that first time, I can still feel and remember every tiny detail, every sight, sound, scent, every feeling, from intense nausea to overwhelming lust.
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I watched her kiss a (young) guy and suck his cock. The sex we had after was fucking amazing. I’m hoping for lots more of that. The passionate kissing was the best bit.
I so know what you mean. I was very much turned on by that. Seeing my wives - both cuckolded me - passionately and deeply kissing their lovers, while being intimately fingered and fondled and while they were stroking their lover's cock, was the stuff of dreams.
 
I think you have nailed it, at least my experience was similar to yours. It was a little strange in that our first time I was video taping the scene. I remember standing there filming, while they got undressed, then got on the bed, she went down on him, then he her. Then as this other man lay back watch her straddle him, grab his cock, and guide it in to her (my) pussy. This moment is what I refer to the point of no return moment. I can stop everything and it does not go further or let it play out. I remember the conflict I felt, the surge of jealousy and the difficulty I had controlling my ego. Speaking for myself, I have had no regrets not stopping it. Been married almost 25 years and the wife has had almost 30 men.

After fourteen years of my wife cuckolding me and her enjoying many different men, I can still vividly remember that very first experience of watching another man kissing my wife, fondling her, undressing her slowly, her taking his cock into her mouth, and finally watching her guide his very large cock into her sweet pussy. The sights of that night, the sounds they made, and the aroma filling the room still intoxicates me with a flood of emotions just as it did that night.

The daily reality is much different than any fantasy our minds could ever create. Each man she sees is different in what he likes, wants, and his comfort level with my presence. Every cock is different, she enjoys men in the 6-8" range most, but she has taken men around 5" and men with more than 10" and enjoyed them. Initially, the part that piqued my jealousy the most was watching another man bring my wife to an earth-shattering orgasm while he was inside her. I always was filled with self-doubt and worried she would want to replace me with him. Her orgasms were arousing for me to see and hear but always left me with a knot in my gut and a lump in my throat. I could bring my wife to climax, but always orally or with the use of a toy. I could not make her cum from penetration with only my cock.

During those first years, we maintained an open and frank line of communication about her desires and needs. She told me frankly that she loved me with all her heart and could not imagine her life without me in it. But, at the end of the day, my little cock could not fully satisfy her. That was hard to hear, but it reaffirmed my own thoughts. She told me she did not ever want to cheat on me and could not do anything that would hurt me or our relationship. We were on this journey together, and after all, it was only sex.

Some men returned a few times, and others were one-time flings. She would enjoy other men one to three times a week for the first few years in the lifestyle. Most weekends, she found herself with one man on Friday and then another man on Saturday. During the week one of her repeats frequented our house on Tuesday nights since he was off work Tuesday and Wednesday each week. We went from having sex with each other two or three times a month to having that every week on average.

It was not until roughly five years ago, that my wife began to find other men from time to time when she was alone. She had wanted to do this for some time, but I was always unsure and she waited until I was okay with it. When she goes out to meet a man for a date or for sex, it still drives me absolutely crazy as I wait for her to return, but she always returns home to tell me every detail and then treat me to some fantastic lovemaking.

At the end of the day, I would not change anything about the choices we have made. Videos cannot show or express the true reality or dynamic of a genuine cuckold relationship and every situation continues to create new experiences and feelings. Despite now being married to the most wonderful, caring, compassionate, and amazing woman in the world for 40 years this past June, I still get feelings of jealousy and doubt. She has not heard the word no, and I still love to see her brought to pleasure and now delight in the hard orgasms that leave her unable to walk.

This is cuckold reality. Me serving my wife and her Bull while he makes fun of my tiny little cock and tells my wife he is going to fuck her like she needs with his big cock. Hearing my wife tell him how badly she needs his big cock inside her as I am sent out of the room to listen to them through the walls.

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Me getting to make love to my wife after her Bull has taken over two hours to satisfy her and fill her sweet pussy with loads of his thick cum. She gets on top of me and I slide inside her effortlessly and cum almost instantly as she asks me if I am inside her yet. She then asks me if I am finished already and slides up to my face so that I can eat her out and make her climax again. She leaves a trail of his cum up my stomach and chest and my face is coated with the Bulls' cum as I get as deep inside her as I can.

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"And it affected our marriage. So for many couples, it will remain a fantasy."

One thing my husband and I talk about frequently is that either way, your marriage is going to be affected. This fantasy is one of the most common fantasies married guys have. Most will never mention it seriously to their wives. I believe that most wives wish for sex with other men outside their marriages also. This is borne out by the numbers of admitted affairs by both men and women.

The trouble is this. Do you still have sex with your partner as you've aged? Especially if your partner has no interest in spicing up a sexual relationship? Most couples our age seem to have (just from our observations) little or no sex life any longer. That IS an affected marriage just as much as an open marriage will "affect" the relationship. I believe that sexual frustration is the norm as a couple ages and the marriage continues into older age groups. Eventually, wives just give up on sex and husbands do as well. Maybe they seek an affair, prostitute, or simply masturbate until they too no longer care.

My point is, the end of a marital sex life is a depressing but normal part of a long relationship and aging itself. THAT is an enormous blow to a relationship, although not in the way we may have considered extramarital sex to be. For me, in the end, I have a sex life like I'm a "school girl" in many ways. I love sex, I'm admittedly a "nympho" and can't get enough. I love dating and the pursuit of sex. I love showing my body off to strangers, thus the magazine, calendars, revealing clothing in public and these sites. I love the thought of others getting sexual gratification from my pics, even if we've never met. I love that men I find hot and attractive pursue me and I love giving them what they want. I enjoy doing things their wives won't do. Not simply because of "their pleasure", although pleasuring men is my "kink", but for MY pleasure as well. I love the orgasms and the orgasm I get from another man (or woman actually) is far different than one I attain from masturbation. I would guess it's the same way for men.

So, I hold no illusions that I'm anything but "temporary sexual pleasure" for them but they are the same for me. I don't "fall in love" or anything of the sort. The bottom line from this long post is that either way, extramarital and frequent sex with other partners can be far less destructive than losing the pleasures of sex totally. If a couple can come to grips with that fact, then they might be able to continue to extend their years of sexual satisfaction indefinitely while maintaining a fantastic marriage.

I know I sound a bit bizzare, but EVERY PERSON ON THIS SITE has some sort of kink and fantasy or they wouldn't be here. I'm not afraid to admit it and I'm certain that many of the long time members here understand that I'm a bit "out there". But so are you, even if you don't admit it. I'm not saying that my acting on my fantasies is right for everybody or even many wives. It's just MY way of doing things and I think that many other wives might be able to gain confidence and satisfaction from similar freedom. Most think of women like me as "sluts" and I freely admit I am. I don't care though. I certainly don't want most other people to know anything about this side of me, but I don't regret the way I grew up or the way I am. Hopefully somebody else's wife can find a bit of motivation in this or you husbands can try to relate my situation to them.

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New here and really appreciate your post. Im in the same boat of do we or don’t we. My wife on the other hand has a bit of a different train of thought. She avoids the conversation when everyday life has her swamped and consumed, but is very motivated whenever she’s completely relaxed and acts as if we should move forward.

We have sex about 2-3 times per week on average. Friday and Saturday nights for weeks now has been reserved for role playing her being with another man. That typically consists of an eventual blindfold for her, a large dildo attached to a belt harness for me, all the way to me having a different name and making my voice different to the extent I can. We had sex a couple days ago and she asked me what I was thinking about. I admitted I was thinking about her both getting fucked by another guy and having sex with her after that happened. The sex ended up being very passionate after conveying that and she got very wild. I think naturally the willingness subsides a bit after I’ve climaxed.

I’m legitimately concerned for the great unknown as far as how we both would react in the time after. My wife less so due to a past experience where a long term relationship prior to us was somewhat open. It consisted of other women joining them on occasion for sex and the occasions where he and his friends would fuck her. She made it very clear her love for him didn’t waiver and it had limited effects on their relationship. It sounds like you’re stating it’s just a chance you take or don’t and that things change at least a bit. That fair? Any other advise?
 
Fantsay....reality ?
Everyone has fantasies. It's whatever is in your mind.
Reality...for me...inadequacy pleasing my wife even tho she's never said anything about how she obviously likes sex with our friend.
Reality...for me...jealous feelings watching them together.
More reality...seeing a completely different view of how her body moves with him, it's exciting but I do feel weird sometimes.
...seeing her cum while he's doing her.
More...the way she holds me tight when I do her after he's done. How she moves with me, how she kisses me, when she tells me I feel so good inside her.
WHILE we're doing it it's VERY exciting but after he's gone she and I have guilt issues and some remorse. But we have fantastic sex for days after. She's horny like I can't describe for days.
It's much different than a fantasy...fantasy is only fun, reality involves emotions.
 
Fantsay....reality ?
Everyone has fantasies. It's whatever is in your mind.
Reality...for me...inadequacy pleasing my wife even tho she's never said anything about how she obviously likes sex with our friend.
Reality...for me...jealous feelings watching them together.
More reality...seeing a completely different view of how her body moves with him, it's exciting but I do feel weird sometimes.
...seeing her cum while he's doing her.
More...the way she holds me tight when I do her after he's done. How she moves with me, how she kisses me, when she tells me I feel so good inside her.
WHILE we're doing it it's VERY exciting but after he's gone she and I have guilt issues and some remorse. But we have fantastic sex for days after. She's horny like I can't describe for days.
It's much different than a fantasy...fantasy is only fun, reality involves emotions.
Everything you are saying is pretty consistent with what we have going on as far as concerns and emotions go.
 
My friend reality is exponentially much hotter. You can peruse my posts on this site, and get an idea. Feel free to message me and l can elaborate, as well as give some educated suggestions. Our early pillowtalk was sexy and stimulating........When l eventually was allowed to record a session......be in close proximity to a highly turned on man that experienced a truly fine fellatiost, followed by nirvana found in my HotWife's pussy.....then to ad lib a little role play for her when l explained my own enhanced state to her Beau, followed by the white lie that she no longer permitted me access with my penis to her vagina. That she saved her pussy exclusively for him.., ....and could l ask permission for her to fellate me in order to calm myself and do a good job of recording for them.......l thought the end of my cock blew off when l climaxed
 
No easy answer…

In my experience, there’s a world of difference between the cuckold fantasy, watching cuckold/hot wife genre porn, and the real experience.

The first time I actually saw my wife, in “real life,” having sex with another man was the most heavily conflicted experience I’ve ever had, one I’ll never forget.

Despite years of fantasy, including pillow-talk, role-play, reading stories, looking at cuckold porn, the reality of seeing KK fully engaged, sexually, with another man was absolutely mind-blowing.

I was simultaneously aroused, nauseated, jealous, happy, enraged, elated, a blend of emotions, mostly in conflict. We’re groomed societally, culturally to reject the idea that one’s spouse should be free to engage sexually with someone else. Getting past that is an experience.

From the instant of that first experience, watching her fondle, suck, and fuck another guy, into the days and weeks after, I was still feeling conflicted. In all honesty, before the event, I’d have said “I’m ready.” After, it wasn’t at all what I expected. I oscillated from reliving the moment, the sight of a stranger’s cock sliding into KK’s wet pussy, the intensity, the anxiety, the arousal, to feeling self-loathing and disgust - you’re not “supposed” to enjoy your wife fucking some random guy…

On the balance, I did enjoy it, enough to offset even the most strongly negative emotions and feelings about it. Even right in this moment, as I recall that first time, I can still feel and remember every tiny detail, every sight, sound, scent, every feeling, from intense nausea to overwhelming lust.
I think many men share the fantasy of wanting their wives to be with other men. It is a huge turn on to imagine some guys huge cock making her squirm and moan. I doubt many would actually follow through on their fantasy. Just as many women may fantasize about two or more
men making lover to her, unlikely she would really do it.
 
Hey, I am new to this forum. I have hard time knowing whether my cuckold fantasy is something I should pursue. I've seen my gf kiss other men and been flirty with them, and so far I've enjoyed what little I've seen. But I am not sure I am ready to watch her have sex with another man. I enjoy fantasizing about it, but how do you know if you're ready for it? What is the difference between having a cuckold fantasy and watch cuckold porn and actually engage in cuckoldry.

thanks!
If you're not sure then you're not ready. It's that simple.
 
I think many men share the fantasy of wanting their wives to be with other men. It is a huge turn on to imagine some guys huge cock making her squirm and moan. I doubt many would actually follow through on their fantasy. Just as many women may fantasize about two or more
men making lover to her, unlikely she would really do it.

You are correct in this statement. Many men and women could not ever take that plunge and follow through with their fantasies. For the ones who do, such as my wife, it is something where the reality is more than the fantasy ever could be.

My wife has never hesitated since her first time to enjoy two men together and sometimes more than two at once. But taking that first step was something she struggled with.

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Now, at least for us since that first time, we continue to enjoy the Hotwife lifestyle, and my role in each encounter is based upon the Bull she is seeing. I can be involved or be in the background to watch and even do things like undressing my wife for other men.

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You are correct in this statement. Many men and women could not ever take that plunge and follow through with their fantasies. For the ones who do, such as my wife, it is something where the reality is more than the fantasy ever could be.

My wife has never hesitated since her first time to enjoy two men together and sometimes more than two at once. But taking that first step was something she struggled with.

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Now, at least for us since that first time, we continue to enjoy the Hotwife lifestyle, and my role in each encounter is based upon the Bull she is seeing. I can be involved or be in the background to watch and even do things like undressing my wife for other men.

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No easy answer…

In my experience, there’s a world of difference between the cuckold fantasy, watching cuckold/hot wife genre porn, and the real experience.

The first time I actually saw my wife, in “real life,” having sex with another man was the most heavily conflicted experience I’ve ever had, one I’ll never forget.

Despite years of fantasy, including pillow-talk, role-play, reading stories, looking at cuckold porn, the reality of seeing KK fully engaged, sexually, with another man was absolutely mind-blowing.

I was simultaneously aroused, nauseated, jealous, happy, enraged, elated, a blend of emotions, mostly in conflict. We’re groomed societally, culturally to reject the idea that one’s spouse should be free to engage sexually with someone else. Getting past that is an experience.

From the instant of that first experience, watching her fondle, suck, and fuck another guy, into the days and weeks after, I was still feeling conflicted. In all honesty, before the event, I’d have said “I’m ready.” After, it wasn’t at all what I expected. I oscillated from reliving the moment, the sight of a stranger’s cock sliding into KK’s wet pussy, the intensity, the anxiety, the arousal, to feeling self-loathing and disgust - you’re not “supposed” to enjoy your wife fucking some random guy…

On the balance, I did enjoy it, enough to offset even the most strongly negative emotions and feelings about it. Even right in this moment, as I recall that first time, I can still feel and remember every tiny detail, every sight, sound, scent, every feeling, from intense nausea to overwhelming lust.
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Fantsay....reality ?
Everyone has fantasies. It's whatever is in your mind.
Reality...for me...inadequacy pleasing my wife even tho she's never said anything about how she obviously likes sex with our friend.
Reality...for me...jealous feelings watching them together.
More reality...seeing a completely different view of how her body moves with him, it's exciting but I do feel weird sometimes.
...seeing her cum while he's doing her.
More...the way she holds me tight when I do her after he's done. How she moves with me, how she kisses me, when she tells me I feel so good inside her.
WHILE we're doing it it's VERY exciting but after he's gone she and I have guilt issues and some remorse. But we have fantastic sex for days after. She's horny like I can't describe for days.
It's much different than a fantasy...fantasy is only fun, reality involves emotions.
Would love to run into you guys sometime somewhere with my fiancé.
 
You are correct in this statement. Many men and women could not ever take that plunge and follow through with their fantasies. For the ones who do, such as my wife, it is something where the reality is more than the fantasy ever could be.

My wife has never hesitated since her first time to enjoy two men together and sometimes more than two at once. But taking that first step was something she struggled with.

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Now, at least for us since that first time, we continue to enjoy the Hotwife lifestyle, and my role in each encounter is based upon the Bull she is seeing. I can be involved or be in the background to watch and even do things like undressing my wife for other men.

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Great pictures and thanks for sharing. Whether or not we follow through is the great unknown. My wife was in a multi year dating-part time cohabitation relationship prior to us meeting and things coming to where they are now. The sex during the first 2 of the 3 years they were together was a roughly even split of just them and the other half others whether it was another woman involved or other guys like his friends. She said when they spoke of possible engagement they backed out of that lifestyle, got a place together, and everything including their sex life went to pot.

We have a good thing together and obviously we are on the opposite side of how our relationship started and developed as opposed to theirs. I just know that most of the sex we’ve had for a while has involved a large harnessed dildo I wear, her sybian, blindfolds, and me acting as a different guy. All while having a more positive relationship since we’ve incorporated those things. At some point I guess we just roll the dice or we don’t.