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michsly

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Hello everyone! This is my first post, but I've been looking around the place for the last few days. I started looking into the hotwife lifestyle because about a year ago someone I know told me about his wife and how they started out getting into the lifestyle. I never thought much about it until then but he told me what they did in preparing her to try it out and that it took a couple years before she took the plunge.

Anyway, my wife and I have a great and stable relationship and I don't know if she is sending me queue's or she is just reacting to the pleasure so please let me know your thoughts on this. She doesn't know anything about this, as far as I know anyway lol. She didn't have many partners before we got together about 5 years ago, she was previously married for about 4 years though before they got divorced (we met afterwards). She is pretty vanilla with stuff, I wouldn't say prudish though. She's never been big with blowjobs but the longer we've been together the more she likes going down on me. On the flipside, she loves anal and I broke her anal virginity, she absolutely goes wild with it. This has progressed over the last year where I will either take her anally while fingering her vagina or vice versa and she just bucks like crazy when both holes are filled. Then I started asking her if she loved having it in both holes at the same time while we are doing it and she always says she loves it. Then one day a few months ago she bought dildo and butt plugs, so we've been using those and again she goes wild with them. I always ask her if she loves being filled by two at the same time, but I've never said anything about two dicks or two guys, etc.

We have never talked about this lifestyle or anything, but is it possible she is trying to tell me she wants a second guy or anything else? I figured I would just throw it out on here to see if anyone else had a similar situation.

Thanks!
 
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ntcuck

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sounds pretty similar to our story. Maybe baby steps is best but at some point you just neet to pull off the band-aid and put it out there for discusssion. It doesn't mean asking is going to force her into anything she doesn't want to do
 
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michsly

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sounds pretty similar to our story. Maybe baby steps is best but at some point you just neet to pull off the band-aid and put it out there for discusssion. It doesn't mean asking is going to force her into anything she doesn't want to do

Yeah I know at some point if it seems to still be progressing the topic will come up, I was thinking when we are doing the above dp with the dildo or plug that I'll ask it that way or something. So your story started the same way?
 

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As a Bull, I’ve talked to several men that were in your position and their biggest hurdle was communicating what they wanted. From my perspective, sharing your intimate desires with your wife is part of being happily married. She will love you regardless of what you say. Besides, you never know if she has the same desires as you and it does seem as if she’s giving you subtle clues. Another important step is having a Bull you’re comfortable with. You need someone who can understand and respect your boundaries. Your Bull can definitely be as kinky as you want when actually engaging in sex, but if you want there to be a disconnect after that, the Bull has to respect that. Each couple is different but you have to have some sort of mutual understanding. I hope that helps.
 
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ntcuck

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As a Bull, I’ve talked to several men that were in your position and their biggest hurdle was communicating what they wanted. From my perspective, sharing your intimate desires with your wife is part of being happily married. She will love you regardless of what you say. Besides, you never know if she has the same desires as you and it does seem as if she’s giving you subtle clues. Another important step is having a Bull you’re comfortable with. You need someone who can understand and respect your boundaries. Your Bull can definitely be as kinky as you want when actually engaging in sex, but if you want there to be a disconnect after that, the Bull has to respect that. Each couple is different but you have to have some sort of mutual understanding. I hope that helps.
Awesome reply. I wish we could have you in our life. You sound like a bull that gets it and not just serving his own pleasures.
 

IamGiovanni

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Awesome reply. I wish we could have you in our life. You sound like a bull that gets it and not just serving his own pleasures.

I appreciate that. I think the biggest thing for me is knowing that it’s about your pleasure. Your experience is what matters most, that in turn is pleasing enough for me. You’re more than welcome to reach out to me. I always enjoy a good conversation. Thanks again.
 
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ntcuck

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Yeah I know at some point if it seems to still be progressing the topic will come up, I was thinking when we are doing the above dp with the dildo or plug that I'll ask it that way or something. So your story started the same way?
Absolutely that is how it started. That is why I refer to pulling off the bandaid.I felt we had come to a crossroads in our sexual life where the desire to want more and to ask for it outweighed the fear and hesitation of what her reaction would be. Since that fateful day our communication has opened wide and we discuss everything. I am not saying we agree but at least we talk
 
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Midwesthw

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Hello everyone! This is my first post, but I've been looking around the place for the last few days. I started looking into the hotwife lifestyle because about a year ago someone I know told me about his wife and how they started out getting into the lifestyle. I never thought much about it until then but he told me what they did in preparing her to try it out and that it took a couple years before she took the plunge.

Anyway, my wife and I have a great and stable relationship and I don't know if she is sending me queue's or she is just reacting to the pleasure so please let me know your thoughts on this. She doesn't know anything about this, as far as I know anyway lol. She didn't have many partners before we got together about 5 years ago, she was previously married for about 4 years though before they got divorced (we met afterwards). She is pretty vanilla with stuff, I wouldn't say prudish though. She's never been big with blowjobs but the longer we've been together the more she likes going down on me. On the flipside, she loves anal and I broke her anal virginity, she absolutely goes wild with it. This has progressed over the last year where I will either take her anally while fingering her vagina or vice versa and she just bucks like crazy when both holes are filled. Then I started asking her if she loved having it in both holes at the same time while we are doing it and she always says she loves it. Then one day a few months ago she bought dildo and butt plugs, so we've been using those and again she goes wild with them. I always ask her if she loves being filled by two at the same time, but I've never said anything about two dicks or two guys, etc.

We have never talked about this lifestyle or anything, but is it possible she is trying to tell me she wants a second guy or anything else? I figured I would just throw it out on here to see if anyone else had a similar situation.

Thanks!

She is definitely opening up avenues for you to role play which may eventually lead to the real thing.
 
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michsly

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She is definitely opening up avenues for you to role play which may eventually lead to the real thing.

Yeah, whenever I am pleasuring both her holes at the same time I always ask her if she likes being filled up at the same time and she always whimpers yes. I usually say things like "do you like being filled" or "do you like it in your ass and pussy at the same time?". One time I did specifically say "do you love two dicks inside your holes?" and she said yes, so I think she was just so caught up in the moment she didn't realize what I said, but she still answered in the affirmative. I guess I will just keep going that route and seeing what her reaction is. Any advice?
 

Midwesthw

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Yeah, whenever I am pleasuring both her holes at the same time I always ask her if she likes being filled up at the same time and she always whimpers yes. I usually say things like "do you like being filled" or "do you like it in your ass and pussy at the same time?". One time I did specifically say "do you love two dicks inside your holes?" and she said yes, so I think she was just so caught up in the moment she didn't realize what I said, but she still answered in the affirmative. I guess I will just keep going that route and seeing what her reaction is. Any advice?
Time to take it to the next level.