There seems to be a wide and varying implementation of denial in this community. Most (not all) men here are denied sex with other women as an almost given rule. Some are denied any sexual contact or stimulation from their wives. Some are denied specific acts or orifices. Some control their spouses with chastity. There definitely seems to be an infinite amount of variations.
My disconnect with denial is that I still want and need sexual attention. Even if it's a totally different form of attention. As long as it's not LESS I think I could learn to enjoy it. If the denial was associated with long periods of indifference and being ignored sexually then I would definitely struggle with that. There are some psychological hurdles that would be tough. I wouldn't want to "top from the bottom", but I'd want to be reassured I'm not just ignored.
In spite of all I've said above, I'm thinking of suggesting chastity to my wife. If I bring it up the right way she won't just dismiss the idea as perverted. She has caught me several times masturbating to online porn. I'm thinking the next time she catches me I'll talk to her about it. It doesn't involve anyone else so that's not a deal breaker. We live alone, no one would see anything. My worry is everything I said above. Even more worrisome bringing it up.
Any ideas?
What are your worst and best denial experiences?
My disconnect with denial is that I still want and need sexual attention. Even if it's a totally different form of attention. As long as it's not LESS I think I could learn to enjoy it. If the denial was associated with long periods of indifference and being ignored sexually then I would definitely struggle with that. There are some psychological hurdles that would be tough. I wouldn't want to "top from the bottom", but I'd want to be reassured I'm not just ignored.
In spite of all I've said above, I'm thinking of suggesting chastity to my wife. If I bring it up the right way she won't just dismiss the idea as perverted. She has caught me several times masturbating to online porn. I'm thinking the next time she catches me I'll talk to her about it. It doesn't involve anyone else so that's not a deal breaker. We live alone, no one would see anything. My worry is everything I said above. Even more worrisome bringing it up.
Any ideas?
What are your worst and best denial experiences?