So, a bit of my story, and then a question for anyone who might have perspective.
My fiancé and I have been together almost 4 years, and have always enjoyed a healthy sex life. She's a beautiful and sexy woman that turns many heads and has had no lack of attention from men, but she's that perfect catch of a woman that was a late bloomer and married very young, and so her experience with men was very limited. After her divorce a decade later, and with the help of more worldly girlfriends, she...well, bloomed, and got much more attention from men than I think she was ready for. That's when we met.
She grew up in a very conservative/religious environment. She remained a virgin until she got married, and while she dated a couple of other men (and had sex) after her divorce and before we met, she has always viewed sex as something that stays between two people. Despite all of this, she's an incredibly sexual person, and is not shy in the least behind closed doors. As for me, I'm fit, confident in my looks and performance, have a strong sex drive, and not into any humiliation aspect...but the idea of watching her give and receive pleasure is beyond hot.
A couple of years ago, a married male friend of ours had far too much to drink at a party, and actually came on to me in front of his wife and my fiance. Awkward as hell, and as I'm not gay or bi, we all just sort of laughed it off. But months later while we were in bed she told me that she had fantasized a number of times since then about watching another man stroke my cock while I was doing things to her. I was stunned - this was entirely out of character for her. She said quickly it was just a fantasy, and asked if it upset me - she seemed embarrassed. I told her not at all, and that it was hot for me to hear what got her off, and that I was really surprised. But I joked that my part of her fantasy was the guy fucking her after he was done with me. The look on her face was...well, hot as hell. She immediately attacked me, sucking my cock and then jumping on top of me. I'd never felt her so incredibly wet, and she came about four times.
Again, after being stunned by all this, I realized her "deviant" fantasies were something she was conflicted about. We'd talk about things when we had sex, and it was incredible and enjoyable for her. But afterwards, or out of the bedroom, I could tell she felt a little ashamed. I don't judge her for this, it's just who she is. But now these fantasies have made their way into our sex lives - although not every time we have sex. She will rarely, if ever, initiate the fantasy narrative (I do), but she certainly does enjoy it, but I still think there's a little guilt.
So the point here is that we're having fun with this, and we've assured each other that we have no intent of making anything really happen. And I don't, really. Sure, the idea is hot as hell for both of us, but I think there's just too much baggage and risk to contemplate really doing this. She says she would never do it for real, and I take her at her word...but recently, when we're out at a bar or with friends, I'll notice she flirts a bit more with random guys, and wants to be sure I'm watching. Again, I'm surprised as hell - but I like it. A lot.
So, my question: is there anyone here that has just kept this a fantasy? Does that work for you, and do you feel that your SO is on the same page, or that one of you wants to go further and make it real? I'm not asking out of concern, really, and I think she and I communicate well. I'm just curious about how common the "just fantasy" lifestyle is...
Thanks for reading all that!
My fiancé and I have been together almost 4 years, and have always enjoyed a healthy sex life. She's a beautiful and sexy woman that turns many heads and has had no lack of attention from men, but she's that perfect catch of a woman that was a late bloomer and married very young, and so her experience with men was very limited. After her divorce a decade later, and with the help of more worldly girlfriends, she...well, bloomed, and got much more attention from men than I think she was ready for. That's when we met.
She grew up in a very conservative/religious environment. She remained a virgin until she got married, and while she dated a couple of other men (and had sex) after her divorce and before we met, she has always viewed sex as something that stays between two people. Despite all of this, she's an incredibly sexual person, and is not shy in the least behind closed doors. As for me, I'm fit, confident in my looks and performance, have a strong sex drive, and not into any humiliation aspect...but the idea of watching her give and receive pleasure is beyond hot.
A couple of years ago, a married male friend of ours had far too much to drink at a party, and actually came on to me in front of his wife and my fiance. Awkward as hell, and as I'm not gay or bi, we all just sort of laughed it off. But months later while we were in bed she told me that she had fantasized a number of times since then about watching another man stroke my cock while I was doing things to her. I was stunned - this was entirely out of character for her. She said quickly it was just a fantasy, and asked if it upset me - she seemed embarrassed. I told her not at all, and that it was hot for me to hear what got her off, and that I was really surprised. But I joked that my part of her fantasy was the guy fucking her after he was done with me. The look on her face was...well, hot as hell. She immediately attacked me, sucking my cock and then jumping on top of me. I'd never felt her so incredibly wet, and she came about four times.
Again, after being stunned by all this, I realized her "deviant" fantasies were something she was conflicted about. We'd talk about things when we had sex, and it was incredible and enjoyable for her. But afterwards, or out of the bedroom, I could tell she felt a little ashamed. I don't judge her for this, it's just who she is. But now these fantasies have made their way into our sex lives - although not every time we have sex. She will rarely, if ever, initiate the fantasy narrative (I do), but she certainly does enjoy it, but I still think there's a little guilt.
So the point here is that we're having fun with this, and we've assured each other that we have no intent of making anything really happen. And I don't, really. Sure, the idea is hot as hell for both of us, but I think there's just too much baggage and risk to contemplate really doing this. She says she would never do it for real, and I take her at her word...but recently, when we're out at a bar or with friends, I'll notice she flirts a bit more with random guys, and wants to be sure I'm watching. Again, I'm surprised as hell - but I like it. A lot.
So, my question: is there anyone here that has just kept this a fantasy? Does that work for you, and do you feel that your SO is on the same page, or that one of you wants to go further and make it real? I'm not asking out of concern, really, and I think she and I communicate well. I'm just curious about how common the "just fantasy" lifestyle is...
Thanks for reading all that!
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