Finally talked, thoughts on how it went and where it goes from here?

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Hey! Finally was able to have a chat with the misses about being interested in swinging/ sharing. To be honest, I was actually really surprised that the whole chat was calm, and not heated at all.

She admitted that she enjoys the different role play, she said the idea of a different guy is exciting, but isn't sure. (Maybe she's being low key about it?)
She also said well idk if I would get jealous?

She said she would consider going to a swinger club together. That evening we watched the Channel 4 doc on Liberty Elite (Swingers), her main comment of it was it didn't look very busy. Lol. And said that if I(being her) was messing with another chick, she's got to have big titties. (Also interesting cause she has never mentioned being bi- curious in 20 years lol).
A couple days later I asked if she thought about it, and said she was willing to go, but said idk what your thinking is going to come of it. I pulled her on the bed and said we are going together and that's all that matters.

I'm curious to other people's thoughts on how this went, does it sound promising?
Did anyone else's beginning start out in a similar way? Or any other advice?
Thanks!
 
Hey! Finally was able to have a chat with the misses about being interested in swinging/ sharing. To be honest, I was actually really surprised that the whole chat was calm, and not heated at all.

She admitted that she enjoys the different role play, she said the idea of a different guy is exciting, but isn't sure. (Maybe she's being low key about it?)
She also said well idk if I would get jealous?

She said she would consider going to a swinger club together. That evening we watched the Channel 4 doc on Liberty Elite (Swingers), her main comment of it was it didn't look very busy. Lol. And said that if I(being her) was messing with another chick, she's got to have big titties. (Also interesting cause she has never mentioned being bi- curious in 20 years lol).
A couple days later I asked if she thought about it, and said she was willing to go, but said idk what your thinking is going to come of it. I pulled her on the bed and said we are going together and that's all that matters.

I'm curious to other people's thoughts on how this went, does it sound promising?
Did anyone else's beginning start out in a similar way? Or any other advice?
Thanks!
Sounds to me that you two have made a positive start. You need to know exactly what each of you are prepared to do. And that means bi with woman mff mfm and what she would do with two cocks.
 
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Good start, keep communicatiing. I was very up front in that I was turned on by idea of watching her with someone else but by no means had personal interest in other women, if she wanted a woman it could happen but I was not looking for myself and thus far I have not had another woman despite being given green light to do so. We have only been at this a couple of months and have gone the route not so much of swinging but of being in a 3 way relationship with her personally selected boy friend, he and I are both straight.
 
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I would make sure you are both aware of each others limits. Make sure you know what your wife is okay with and what she isn’t. Also, make sure she knows what you are comfortable with and what you aren’t yet ready to try. I have found that rules will be bent and broken as you progress. You will get comfortable with new things and won’t get comfortable at the same pace. Keep talking!
 
Yes, good start. Keep the communication going. It's vital. Remember, and let her know, just because you go to a swingers club doesn't mean you have to do anything with anyone else. The first time my wife and I went to a club we sat and watched others, danced, had some drinks, and eventually, we went to a playroom (this was an on premise club) just the two of us and had a great time. We also meet some other couples who were friendly and not pushy. But that first time, we didn't play with anyone. In fact, even later, there were often times we didn't play with another couple. Go get the feel of the lifestyle. It may help her decide if it's something she wants to participate in. As others said though, talk through your rules and what your limits are. And, don't break the trust by breaking the ground rules you set. That could put an end to your swinging experience and possibly your relationship. Rules will likely change as you gain experience just keep the communication open. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
 
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Married at 26, it took me 20 years to bring up Swinging. She was curious about it. We joined a Swinger sight and met another local couple within 25 miles of our town. We met at a food court with the understanding it was just a "meet and greet". We realized we knew some of the same business people, one relative was the sister of a co-worker, etc. This was important because we were of similar upbringings.
There was really no talk of sex during the meeting, but as we left the food court to go to our cars, the husband pulled me to the side and said, "Jerry, you gotta make this happen". So this told me that the couple liked us.
My wife (Asian) liked the other wife because she was Asian. So wifey agrees to the first time Swing at a hotel 2 weeks from meeting them. The jealous factor never came up. We were "newbies" to this so we weren't sure how it starts once in the hotel room. The other couple were also relatively new with only one other experience. But once the mattresses were on the floor and the clothes came off, it was very natural. Almost like "playing doctor".
Afterwards when we got home my wife said, "I was worried that you would fall in love with the other woman. But, it's just sex".

We Swung with that couple several more times, then expanded to group Swinging (that wasn't as fun, to hectic). And once in awhile we'll have MFM threesomes where my wife is the center of attention.