First Date Nerves

Hi I'm getting into the conversation late but wanted to share that my wife had the same thoughts and feelings that you had I think all the way up till our 1st mfm you both sound similar also she was very shy and naive about sex when we met she was a virgin and I introduced her or was there for most of her 1st experiences when I first brought up sharing or wanting to see her with another guy she had all kinds of thoughts none were just for her to experience and enjoy different aspects of sex she brought up ......, chesting,bisexual,you name it she thought it at first and it took me a yr to convince her other wise and she was nervous at first talking about it and rollplaying helped her come out of her protective shell of being shy and holding back. When I had come up with a couple of people as possibly joining us people we knew she had the thought nobody would want to joins because she wasn't attractive which I knew diff but when I mentioned it to two of our choices they didn't believe me due to her shy and soft spoken personality and how she never dressed revealing but I finally convinced one that I was for real which he confirmed one even after a party we had and ihad ...... and it was just the two of them
 
Ok, here goes 😶

I’m Jennie, 27, and have been with my bf Mark since forever, in fact he’s the only guy i’ve ever been with. However, over the last (seriously, like 5 years…) he’s been going on about a fantasy of me being with other guys. To cut a long story short, but I can elaborate if you want, this hasn’t been easy for me to deal with or fathom in my mind, especially as it just started with just some light comments during sex, all the way to much more recently where he’s been sending me all sorts of things to read on all kinds of forums (including this one) about everything to do with this sort of stuff. He’s been on this site for years, and now, today, so I am.
I’m not exactly an outgoing person, i’m pretty shy and reserved to put it mildly, so you can probably imagine (I hope!) that this has been very difficult, in fact i’ve had more than a few tearful exchanges about this over the years. I’ve felt all kinds of weird emotions and doubts and worries about our relationship and I know he’s tried his best to explain and everything, but still, it’s been a lot to process!
Again, trying but failing to keep this brief, part of our deal together was that I join this forum too and start posting, so here I am, and as the title says, I have my first ‘date’ tomorrow night (long story about fixing that up), and I can’t remember being this nervous about anything for years. All help is gratefully received, I can’t quite believe i’m doing this.

Jen
Hi there Sexy Jen!
 
Good Morning Jen, you are both very lucky, my wife and I had this experience many years ago unfortunately me being typical male was over eager and didn't let her move at her own pace. It sounds as though you and Mark have it worked out and it will remain an enjoyable experience. Family life had also been prioritised but now we free from that commitment I am hoping we can re discover the sharing part of our lives.
We still fantasise and have an imaginary friend so there is potential.
Please keep this thread updated, it's exciting to follow the journey you have both started.
 
Thank you so so much to everyone for being so nice and supportive! 🌟
After a bit of a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions (to say the least), my first date nerves are now a little bit more like 'second date butterflies'. I'm getting a brand new dress and planning to meet up for a second 'date' tomorrow night. No Uber this time, instead Mark is going to drive me to the bar himself and drop me off just outside, so a nervous walk across the street and through the door on my own, and less time to gather my thoughts, but I appreciate why Mark wants to take me and I can't lie, I'm looking forward to seeing my 'date' again 🫠
 
Did you let Mark help you pick out the dress?
Can we get a picture of you in it?
To hear how you've embraced this is intoxicating.
Thank you again for sharing your experience.