First Time

[Stebro]

I told my wife about my hotwife fantasy years ago. We have talked during sex about it. She's messaged guys online and showed me, sending pics etc. Recently she went out and I didn't hear from her all night until she arrived at her friend's home near our house. She said she was on her way home but had to drop her friend off. I looked out the window and seen her kissing someone. It felt more like cheating that hotwife as I had no involvement at all and I wasn't meant to see.
Left me very confused and upset and also confusing for her about my reaction.
I am interested in people's opinions as now she has said hotwife is totally off now...no chance of anything ever again.

 

[uslover609]

Did you tell her before all this started that you wanted to be involved?

 

[Stebro]

I always told her to message or tell me if anything happens. At first she tried to tell me nothing had happened which made the argument worse.

 

[uslover609]

Is she still seeing him?

 

[Stebro]

No, it was a random guy from a night out. In the end she said he kept on kissing her and she didn't push him away.
If she had messaged I don't think I'd of had an issue which is the worth bit

 

[uslover609]

So do you want it to be over or want her to get back into hotwife?

 

[Stebro]

I would like to give it a go but she is totally off...do you think I have reacted wrong?

 

[uslover609]

she knew what you wanted right? did she say how she wanted to do things?

 

[Stebro]

She's never said just always said it was weird. I always say when she goes out if she does anything to let me know...she always says maybe.

 

[uslover609]

how bad do you want her to Hotwife? Would you let her do it with out telling you like before?

 

[myjuicywife]

I would like to give it a go but she is totally off...do you think I have reacted wrong?

yeah, you did. we had a VERY similar experience. reach out to me, I'm happy to share my experience and tell you how we navigated through it.

 

[Stebro]

how bad do you want her to Hotwife? Would you let her do it with out telling you like before?

I'd much rather be involved, at least a message or pic

 

[uslover609]

Well and if that’s something she don’t want to do will you be ok with that or just quit all together? Maybe Myjuicywife can help you more than I can

 

[ElkridgeCpl]

In my experience, I had to be there in the beginning and see everything. It was like, what am I getting out of this life style if I can’t watch. But I found out quickly, a lot of guys don’t like being watched, and I had to start dealing with FOMO. Once I worked through that and new my girl would tell me everything, and I get to see things hear and there….It ending up just as good if not better. Now instead of FOMO , the anticipation of the story drives me nuts and I can’t get enough of it.

 

[Stebro]

In my experience, I had to be there in the beginning and see everything. It was like, what am I getting out of this life style if I can’t watch. But I found out quickly, a lot of guys don’t like being watched, and I had to start dealing with FOMO. Once I worked through that and new my girl would tell me everything, and I get to see things hear and there….It ending up just as good if not better. Now instead of FOMO , the anticipation of the story drives me nuts and I can’t get enough of it.

I'll try to work through the FOMO if we do get back into it one day

 

[hotenoughforme]

She's never said just always said it was weird. I always say when she goes out if she does anything to let me know...she always says maybe.

"Maybe" and she experiments and you get angry. Not surprised she says hotwifing is off. If you'd given her time she might have started to tell you about it. From the sounds of it, out all night, she might have done more than that kiss. But if just that made you angry she won't say.

 

[hotenoughforme]

I suppose you could explain that you suddenly felt jealous, weren't expecting that but even so you were really turned on by it. Did watching it make you hard, then or later? If so, tell her. Get her to tell you what it was like for her that kiss, was she excited and wet wanting more, when you're in bed, with her stroking you so she can feel your reaction.

 

[Jon Day]

I told my wife about my hotwife fantasy years ago. We have talked during sex about it. She's messaged guys online and showed me, sending pics etc. Recently she went out and I didn't hear from her all night until she arrived at her friend's home near our house. She said she was on her way home but had to drop her friend off. I looked out the window and seen her kissing someone. It felt more like cheating that hotwife as I had no involvement at all and I wasn't meant to see.
Left me very confused and upset and also confusing for her about my reaction.
I am interested in people's opinions as now she has said hotwife is totally off now...no chance of anything ever again.

I would tell her that you saw her kissing someone and enjoyed it but would like her to be more open about it with you. Lucky guy I would love my wife to do that with or without my permission.

 

[atantonov]

Well and if that’s something she don’t want to do will you be ok with that or just quit all together? Maybe Myjuicywife can help you more than I can

You are asking all the right questions, I think!

 

[atantonov]

In my experience, I had to be there in the beginning and see everything. It was like, what am I getting out of this life style if I can’t watch. But I found out quickly, a lot of guys don’t like being watched, and I had to start dealing with FOMO. Once I worked through that and new my girl would tell me everything, and I get to see things hear and there….It ending up just as good if not better. Now instead of FOMO , the anticipation of the story drives me nuts and I can’t get enough of it.

What is FOMO?