Had the talk with my wife...she was into it...what now? Update with new pic

Update.

Good news is .... My wife seems to be really coming around to hotwifing and was turned on by the idea of being fucked by multiple men.

Exploring Hotwifing will have to wait as we just found out my wife and I are now expecting our first child. This is still a huge turn on for me and I hope that we will explore it later but I’m uncomfortable with playing with others while pregnant as I’ve read that exposure to certain STDs during pregnancy can lead to devastating developmental issues or even death. I’m not willing to take that risk.

Thanks to everyone for the great advice and feedback.
 
Having read your story, I would like to share a bit to give some perspective. Even my wife was brought up in a religious way where sex outside marriage was taboo. But I always felt she wanted more, it was a gut feel and I mentioned it a few times. Initially the response was no its not possible but she has a guy hitting on her at work, she told me about it and said its not possible. One evening out of the blue when I was away she told she went out with him and she enjoyed it. I was thrilled at the change. She did again with him after which she said no more. Since then she has been out with 3 guys, all of them twice. But there are times she take s back seat and says no more she does not want that and a week later it changes to she does. I guess she has her moods and as much as I would like to encourage her gently, she always wants it to be her decision, so I guess best is have the conversation once in a while but let her find her way. From my experience she can change her mind. Good luck and hope you guys can enjoy
 
Hello everyone,

New to the site. Hoping to get some feedback from everyone.

My wife (30) and I (30) went out last night for drinks and some billiards. Had a great time and by the end of the night we were both pretty buzzed. We sat down at the back of the bar and she brought up a few question about my sexuality. She's aware that I identify as Bi, and that I have always been interested in non-monogamy.

We get around to the topic of the type of porn I watch and fantasies that we both have and I finally came clean about my interest in the hot wife lifestyle. She wasn't even aware it was a thing and couldn't believe that I would be okay with her fucking other men without me also getting to have fun with other women. She started asking all kinds of question and admitted that the idea turned her on and that she often fantasizes about exploring with other people. After finishing up our last drink we called an uber and headed home.

Once we got home we headed straight to the bed room and had hot dirty sex. She pulled out her vibrator and started warming herself up, she looked me dead in the eyes and said "are you going to find a handsome man for me to fuck?". :eek: :eek: :eek:

As we fucked, she asked me to find her a "sexy man with a big fat dick that will hurt more that yours when he puts it in". :shock: We finished up with a cumshot on her breasts while she fucked herself with her vibe and asked me if "I wished it was a another mans cock instead of a vibrator".

So, it seems like this is an IDEA that she's into. Truth is my wife is naturally a very sexual person but she often suppresses her desires because of her conservative religious upbringing. Whats our next move? How do I proceed without scaring her off?
I can tell you that I was married to the most reserved, conservative, sexually repressed woman in the State of Texas so I had a lot further to go to get her in a swapping frame of mind than you do. All women want to fuck, but they need for the the opportunity and a justification to coincide on order to spread. You can give her that. Take a nude snapshot of her and show it to one of your buddies. Ask if he would like to fuck her, if he says yes then just before the appointed time for him to arrive, tie her to the bed and blind fold her. I would probably start getting her in the mood with a vibrator. When he gets there tell her you have someone who is going to fuck her. You will be home free if he knows how to use his tongue. Dick size won't be a big factor. The fact that it is a new dick will cause her to be more sensitive and aroused. My wife likes a thick cock, but a really long one is a turn off for her. My wife also told me that the hottest she got was when she was sucking her first new dick. And an equally hot moment for her was when the second guy she fucked came on her tits. One other thing you may want to do in order to keep her from objecting before your friend starts fucking her is put a piece of duct tape over her mouth. It is almost a certainty that when he enters her she will start meeting him thrust for thrust. When that happens remove the duct tape. Then if she asks you to remove the restraints and blindfold you can do it safely.
 
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Hello DFW,

Thank you for your response to the thread. Things have kind of died down on the topic of exploring the hotwife lifestyle. Truth is she's....

.... cock in her mouth or on her back with her legs over another mans shoulders as he pounds her into bliss, remains one of my deepest and most desired fantasies but I'm not willing to push her into a situation she regrets.

Sorry not to get back to you sooner, this board is a bit different than those I'm familiar with and they have so many features it's easy to get caught up in it all. I actually amazed there's no technical issues. They must have good stuff and staff.

But catching up on the thread it looks like you're doing fine. And BTW, congrats on the expected new addition! Yes it's good to take a step back for awhile for the reasons you mentioned among others. You sound like a level-headed guy and fun/fantasy aside I think it's great that you feel that way about things. But even if you hadn't mentioned it I think I would have assumed such just because you present as a well-grounded person.
Wifey and I did the same with both of ours. As it turned out there were a few medical issues with both but everything worked out and not having the extra distraction was likely beneficial. Besides, we might be pretty kinky but we're still traditional in some ways, LOL.

It does appear you two have discussed pretty openly and look to be on the same page on the fun stuff. I usually don't think too much of it when someone says their wife (or hubby) seems to be "too religious" or "straight laced". Actually the lure of the forbidden is one of the attractions. It's sort of a thing where I came up that some of the wildest kids when we were in school were either preacher's or cop's kids, LOL.
Not sure if anyone's done actual research but I think you could make a reasonable argument for the cause being either a need to demonstrate they were at least as "cool" as everyone else (and then some, LOL) or wanting to soak up "whatever" as soon as they broke free.
On the surface at least it seems that anyone that grew up in an environment where traditional morals or outward appearances get a lot of attention, especially women, tend to be a bit more cautious about "operational security" issues (read that as "privacy") and want a little more reassurance in the beginning that enjoying not-so-mainstream activities (or even just fantasies of such) doesn't make them a bad person. But it seems that most get at least as much enjoyment as people that came up in a less restricted setting.
It's rare for anyone not to be at least a little nervous at first even if their only concern is it being unfamiliar territory.
Wifey and I have been around the block a few times with couples as well as singles. Hardly anyone, ourselves included, does this stuff nonstop. Life gets in the way and people take a break for various reasons of day to day living. Others have mentioned at times being nervous when getting back in, just as we have. You seem to get over the apprehension a bit quicker than in the beginning. Obviously it's different when seeing those you played with before than with new people. But if you look it's not hard to see most are just as nervous and those that aren't usually make an effort to put you at ease.
And of course when things happen spontaneously you might not have as much time to overthink.
 
Just quick update.

Wife is now 4 months pregnant and sexy as ever. She’s not shy about joking or mentioning other men anymore. In fact, she’s repeatedly made comments that make me feel like she’s considering or thinking about riding a new cock.

Recent examples:

Example 1 - I was heading out to the gym one morning and I drank my usual pre workout which lead to what I call the “pre workout powder shits”. I headed to the restroom while my wife cleaned up in the kitchen. After about 20 min I walked back into the kitchen and she looked at me surprised. “I thought you left already? Oh man, good thing my boyfriend hasn’t arrived yet. You would’ve caught us in the act”. The grin on her face was so sexy and deviant. My dick twitched at the thought of walking in on her back while getting plowed by a big dick.

Example 2 - on Master’s Sunday (golf) tiger woods was charging his way to his 5th Masters win. I was excited and so was she. But she wasn’t excited about tiger being in contention, she was actually bored until later in the round win Brooks Koepka started getting some TV time. She lit up and asked who he was. She was mesmerized lol. She spent the next 2-3 hours repeatedly saying that he was sexy/hot/handsome etc. I could tell she was imagining him naked. Her pussy was wet and panties were soaked. We fucked like rabbits afterward the champ was crowned.

At this point we are still talking about it and using this as fantasy. I mentioned the site and told her I would love to share some photos. She said I could post an older picture and she would think about taking some new ones. She’s a bit self conscious about being pregnant.

Let her know if you’d like to see some more.
 
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Yes - start with something really sexy and u.can gradually explore ALL ur eroticism safely & anonymously here . That’s only why my wife and I trade pics and chat about them . It’s hot and you’ll have the hottest sex of ur life knowing other men and Grown women r thinking they would like to share with u . Ur gonna b fine . I’ll send u a starter and u c what she might b willing to show after seeing another beautiful ( professional) and sexy woman gets off on . She explores her exhibitionism .
 

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I suggest you and her go to a swinger's club in the closest metro area by you. In and around Wash dc & Baltimore, we have over 12 clubs/houses. Most with on site fucking. Plan an evening at one o the club with on sites facilities. U and her can check out and be checked out by other couples. Jump in soonest. Some couples will want swap totally. Some will only want the wife to engage with you and your wife and some only want the hubby to dip his cock in to the other wife. Some women might back out after their hubby has had your wife... It happens one out of 6 times. So my hubby and I insisted all get naked and swap partners at the same time. You will find your feelings going wild and the sex is Great. the couples at any club that wait too long under the pretense of wanting to check out more couples are not interested in swapping partners. They have unrealistic expectations of meeting the ideal couple.
 
I can tell you that I was married to the most reserved, conservative, sexually repressed woman in the State of Texas so I had a lot further to go to get her in a swapping frame of mind than you do. All women want to fuck, but they need for the the opportunity and a justification to coincide on order to spread. You can give her that. Take a nude snapshot of her and show it to one of your buddies. Ask if he would like to fuck her, if he says yes then just before the appointed time for him to arrive, tie her to the bed and blind fold her. I would probably start getting her in the mood with a vibrator. When he gets there tell her you have someone who is going to fuck her. You will be home free if he knows how to use his tongue. Dick size won't be a big factor. The fact that it is a new dick will cause her to be more sensitive and aroused. My wife likes a thick cock, but a really long one is a turn off for her. My wife also told me that the hottest she got was when she was sucking her first new dick. And an equally hot moment for her was when the second guy she fucked came on her tits. One other thing you may want to do in order to keep her from objecting before your friend starts fucking her is put a piece of duct tape over her mouth. It is almost a certainty that when he enters her she will start meeting him thrust for thrust. When that happens remove the duct tape. Then if she asks you to remove the restraints and blindfold you can do it safely.
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You are lucky that she is at least talking about it and having fun, mine does not even wants to mention it

Yea I’m starting to believe that she’s actually open to fucking another cock.

Conversation we had last night:

Her: ugh heartburn is killing during my third trimester of pregnancy.

Me: and you said you wanted 4 kids. lol. Are you sure you want to go through this 3 more times?

Her: yup we are having at least 3 kids.

Me: Nope. I’m done at 2. So good luck with that.

Her (devilish smile on her face) : well you are ok with me fucking other guys so maybe They will just have to go raw and fill me up.

Me: :0

Needless to say my cock got hard instantly lol. Can’t wait till she’s no longer pregnant and back in shape to try to pursue this.
 
Yea I’m starting to believe that she’s actually open to fucking another cock.

Conversation we had last night:

Her: ugh heartburn is killing during my third trimester of pregnancy.

Me: and you said you wanted 4 kids. lol. Are you sure you want to go through this 3 more times?

Her: yup we are having at least 3 kids.

Me: Nope. I’m done at 2. So good luck with that.

Her (devilish smile on her face) : well you are ok with me fucking other guys so maybe They will just have to go raw and fill me up.

Me: :0

Needless to say my cock got hard instantly lol. Can’t wait till she’s no longer pregnant and back in shape to try to pursue this.
I am sure more than a few guys, myself included, would love to give her attention while pregnant ;)
 
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Yea I’m starting to believe that she’s actually open to fucking another cock.

Conversation we had last night:

Her: ugh heartburn is killing during my third trimester of pregnancy.

Me: and you said you wanted 4 kids. lol. Are you sure you want to go through this 3 more times?

Her: yup we are having at least 3 kids.

Me: Nope. I’m done at 2. So good luck with that.

Her (devilish smile on her face) : well you are ok with me fucking other guys so maybe They will just have to go raw and fill me up.

Me: :0

Needless to say my cock got hard instantly lol. Can’t wait till she’s no longer pregnant and back in shape to try to pursue this.

I can only pray imagine the look on her face and your thoughts
 
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Hello everyone,

New to the site. Hoping to get some feedback from everyone.

My wife (30) and I (30) went out last night for drinks and some billiards. Had a great time and by the end of the night we were both pretty buzzed. We sat down at the back of the bar and she brought up a few question about my sexuality. She's aware that I identify as Bi, and that I have always been interested in non-monogamy.

We get around to the topic of the type of porn I watch and fantasies that we both have and I finally came clean about my interest in the hot wife lifestyle. She wasn't even aware it was a thing and couldn't believe that I would be okay with her fucking other men without me also getting to have fun with other women. She started asking all kinds of question and admitted that the idea turned her on and that she often fantasizes about exploring with other people. After finishing up our last drink we called an uber and headed home.

Once we got home we headed straight to the bed room and had hot dirty sex. She pulled out her vibrator and started warming herself up, she looked me dead in the eyes and said "are you going to find a handsome man for me to fuck?". :eek: :eek: :eek:

As we fucked, she asked me to find her a "sexy man with a big fat dick that will hurt more that yours when he puts it in". :shock: We finished up with a cumshot on her breasts while she fucked herself with her vibe and asked me if "I wished it was a another mans cock instead of a vibrator".

So, it seems like this is an IDEA that she's into. Truth is my wife is naturally a very sexual person but she often suppresses her desires because of her conservative religious upbringing. Whats our next move? How do I proceed without scaring her off?
Your wife is hot lovely passionate lady!
Are you into hotwifing now???