Mrs Drummond here. I had only been with 2 men before being married, and one was Mr Drummond. My other was high school boyfriend and he was huge, it was a problem as i am not very big. So it wasn't until we opened marriage that i even thought about being with someone big like that. But now that i have, its a huge turn on for me. I love the feeling of the next day being sore and remembering the night before with one of my bfs. My husband isn't really small, just avg. But now i crave large.